Comprehending a bad marriage

[thewanderer]

Loving them does not always mean associating with them or allowing them to abuse you, and it never means tolerating sin. Jesus forgave sinners and loved them, but he also reprimanded them and did not tolerate their sin–he told them to “go and sin no more.” Loving someone is doing what is best for them, even when that means allowing them to experience suffering and/or the consequences of their actions so that they can grow, emotionally and spiritually. We are to help our spouses get to heaven, not sit passively and watch while they do damage to their souls and ours (remember, this was part of Adam’s sin).

From what has been said here, staying and putting up with the behavior might sound like the “nice” thing to do, but it does not sound like the loving thing to do.

I could be wrong about this situation, of course, and that is up to the OP, and his priest, to determine.

Exactly

 

[Used2beSherryG]

I lived with an abusive spouse for 16 years. It’s hard to see your way clear once you’ve been put down so low. It will require a support system that will offer encouragement and even an alternate place to live sometimes. In the end, my support system helped me move away, still hoping that my spouse would see the light and get help to get better. Sadly, it never happened and we ultimately got a divorce, fraught with lots of additional threats of abuse and lots of scary times. Being able to feel the love and support of family and friends made it possible to get through it all. Prayers help tremendously. Listen to your priest, but make sure you are not living in physical danger. My spouse did not agree to get help. He found a replacement that he could abuse and in fact, he is still with her 25 - 30 yrs later!

 

[HolyRosaryChild]

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Pray Jesus’ Holy Rosary twice a day and guaranteed you will receive your answer from Jesus through our Holy Mother Mary, Catholic Man!

When you pray, picture Jesus and Our Lady Mary making it easier to connect with Jesus and receiving His signs through Our Lady Mary. Do not forget to ask for World Peace and the other causes Mother Mary gives you.

“I hand over my Marriage and Life to Thee Dear Jesus Christ our Saviour and all of my crosses, now and for Eternity, Amen”.

I have been through all of this and fully comprehend/know the degradation; one day your Wife will see your beautiful Soul and Heart; the outer shell is nothing.

Keep to Jesus’ teachings and do all of the right things and He will reward you.

 

[HolyRosaryChild]

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The process:

1. In order to pray and heal through Jesus, while the abuse/evil is in action; we need to stay away from the abuse as much as possible. The only times I could feel compassion and pity for my Children’s father was when I was alone praying and healing and not at the time putting up with the abuse and degradation. Another reason is that satan can tempt the victim at the same time from continually putting up with the abuse and degradation until a victim can end up snapping from the mental fatigue over long periods. Like a nagging spouse or dog continually barking loudly, until a person ends up with a migraine and can no longer tolerate the nagging/barking.
2. For this reason, I would either move right away (either temporarily until your Wife changes her behaviour) and if she does not (change her behaviour) you will have no alternative other than to make it a permanent move.
3. As I suggested yesterday, I would definitely be asking Jesus for His Love, Wisdom and Guidance for every step to be taken in relation to your Marriage by praying The Holy Rosary twice a day.