Concerns about my priest

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What exactly is a “vow of simple living”? :confused:
I’m afraid you’re mistaken here; there is no “vow of simple living” that I have ever heard of. Diocesan priests are encouraged to live in a way that is consistent with Christian principles, and this includes simplicity, but they take neither a vow of poverty nor a vow of “simple living”.

Can you give us a reference to where you heard of the vow of simple living? Honestly, I’ve never heard of such a vow.
No they don’t. They take a vow of chastity and obedience to their bishop, but not a vow of “simple living”.

I know a priest who drives a race car, and in fact owns a race car, he and his team. He has sponsors. This same priest- You can’t give him anything, not even food or a gift card (well, maybe ice cream), because he will give it away to somebody he considers worse off than himself!!!

We are ALL to be poor in spirit, but we do not all have to be poor.
After I did a little bit more research I found that I was incorrect in the vow of simple living. You are correct in stating they are rather encouraged to live simply. I appreciate everyone pointing that out and clearing up my misconception.

Respectfully,
Mark
 
No they don’t. They take a vow of chastity and obedience to their bishop, but not a vow of “simple living”.
According to my priest, and yes I asked him, they make promises. There are no vows made.

And like you said, the promises are of chastity and obedience. The question came up because a number of years ago, our church had order priests and now we have diocesan priests. The order priests did not own cars, the church did and allowed the priests to use them. Now our priest owns his own car. And our church is out of the car owning business.
 
I would say your next step in investigation is to steal his trash, which is public domain, as you know, so you’re not really stealing. So, I’ll want to check back in a week or two and see what your dumpster diving has produced, in the way of additional incriminating evidence.
Thats a good idea. i think that following him to the grocery store is also a must. make sure he is buying ground beef instead of Steaks and make sure he doesnt buy anything else that makes him look like he is not living a simple life.
 
Thats a good idea. i think that following him to the grocery store is also a must. make sure he is buying ground beef instead of Steaks and make sure he doesnt buy anything else that makes him look like he is not living a simple life.
Not sure how this is being constructive? :confused:

Respectfully,
Mark
 
I had the sense that Estebob was being ironic to the post of Crumpy’s. I suppose he should have used the rolling eyes smilie, to make it clear.

(I hope this was not his true self.) :eek: It was bad enough reading Crumpy’s post. OMG!
 
I had the sense that Estebob was being ironic to the post of Crumpy’s. I suppose he should have used the rolling eyes smilie, to make it clear.

(I hope this was not his true self.) :eek: It was bad enough reading Crumpy’s post. OMG!
:eek:
 
All parishes are required to have a Finance Council that is canonically required to oversee the financial affairs of the parish. Failure to do their duty is potential grounds for excommunication and a grave matter. If the Pastor was inappropriately misusing parish funds, I’m absolutely confident that he would not be advertising it by showing it off in his vehicle.
When our new pastor came, he got rid of just about every member of the Finance Council. He just had one stay on, and that was a guy who agreed with him on everything. He also got rid of the business manager, who was straight by the book, and hired some lady from the parish who again, agreed with everything he said. The lady, by the way, does not go to church nor follow proper accounting procedures. Nothing this current pastor does with money would surprise me. My point is, this financial group would never disagree with the pastor, or any financial decisions he makes.
By the way, in our diocese, the parish typically pays for the car for the pastor of a church. It technically is not his car, but the parish car, and he has all rights to use it. I suppose if a pastor had a more expensive car in mind, he could pay for it himself, and I hope that is the case here.
 
No, not that one. the rolling eyes one. :rolleyes: It indicates sarcasm. Thanks for your quick reply. I would not want to offend you, since I suspected you were using a specific literary form, and not that you agreed with Crumpy.
 
When our new pastor came, he got rid of just about every member of the Finance Council. He just had one stay on, and that was a guy who agreed with him on everything. He also got rid of the business manager, who was straight by the book, and hired some lady from the parish who again, agreed with everything he said. The lady, by the way, does not go to church nor follow proper accounting procedures. Nothing this current pastor does with money would surprise me. My point is, this financial group would never disagree with the pastor, or any financial decisions he makes.
By the way, in our diocese, the parish typically pays for the car for the pastor of a church. It technically is not his car, but the parish car, and he has all rights to use it. I suppose if a pastor had a more expensive car in mind, he could pay for it himself, and I hope that is the case here.
God works in mysterious ways and always finds ways to make good out of bad. The recent sex scandal and the financial payouts has exposed that many dioceses and parishes are not run as financially sound as they should be. Based on the directive from the USCCB, I know that my diocese is implementing uniform accounting and financial controls across all parishes and is requiring submission of financial statements and budgets which can be audited by the diocese. It is my understanding that this is being done across the nation.

If the facts in your parish are as you believe, the new requirements will address these facts. However, the new Pastor may have had reasons which you don’t know for doing as he did and it may not be a reflection on the past Council. It is standard practice in the business world (esp. banking) to periodically move people around or terminate certain responsibility as a control to identify financial impropriety. I don’t want to assert that it means that those previously did anything wrong. But the changing of the chairs is in and of itself a control. It is entirely plausible that the new Pastor had recieved this advice and he didn’t fully understand what he was to do w/ replacements.

After serving on my finance council, I came to realize that Pastors didn’t become Priests to manage financial affairs, if they recieve this training in seminary many didn’t pay attention or truly learn the curriculum, and they are oftentimes very naive w/ regards to money. This places special responsibility and obligation on the finance council to be diligent in their duties. The Pastor needs their best advice and counsel to best manage the scarce resources of a parish.

If you have specific concerns about the financial administratin of your parish, I encourage you to take one of the following steps:
  1. Talk to your Pastor and encourage him to “draft” some people with financial expertise. Except in the smallest of parishes, I can’t imagine you don’t have someone who is an accountant or bookkeeper for a business.
  2. Take your concerns to the President of the Council. He may be overwhelmed as he was picked for his Holiness and not financial acumen. If you have someone to suggest who could help him, I am sure he would jump at it.
  3. If you have specific evidence of malfeasance, you are obligated to report it to your diocese. They will investigate it. If problems are found, they will deal w/ it. If the problem is just a lack of the correct talent on the council, they will make proper suggestions to the Pastor.
 
According to my priest, and yes I asked him, they make promises. There are no vows made. …
You’re right, I just fell into this “vow” thing.:o Section 1567 of the Catechism.
 
Based on the directive from the USCCB, I know that my diocese is implementing uniform accounting and financial controls across all parishes and is requiring submission of financial statements and budgets which can be audited by the diocese.
I came to realize that Pastors didn’t become Priests to manage financial affairs
Take your concerns to the President of the Council.
But when the parish is meeting its financial obligations to the archdiocese, the archdiocese is less inclined to rock the boat. Submitting financial statements is fine, but unless the diocese auditors come to the parish and see the parish business manager is on one of the Sunday collection counting teams or note the actual counting procedures, who will know the difference (other than the bottom line)?
You are pretty much on the money about priest not wanting to manage financial affairs, however this pastor seems preoccupied with the financial affairs of the parish and less interested in being involved with other ministries of the parish. For example I doubt he knows our teen group (boys and girls) sleep in the same school gym room during their mission trip every year. A lay person runs the teen group and has carte blanche over it.
As far as going to the council, other than the business manager, nothing is listed in the weekly bulletin nor the web site of who is on the financial council or when they meet.
I hope I didn’t get off topic, but the OP’s orginal question was concerns about my priest, and I think there are times when concerns are legitimate. Hopefully, not too often, but they exist.
Our parish does well and there are very good people and priests here, and I would overlook all of what I perceive as mismanagement if I didn’t know so many priests in this diocese working so hard with so much less.
Your parish is very lucky to have you, as you seem financially aware and more importantly faithfully sound.
 
From Lovemyfaith: But when the parish is meeting its financial obligations to the archdiocese, the archdiocese is less inclined to rock the boat. Submitting financial statements is fine, but unless the diocese auditors come to the parish and see the parish business manager is on one of the Sunday collection counting teams or note the actual counting procedures, who will know the difference (other than the bottom line)?
First, the The financial directive that is coming from our diocese at the direction of the USCCB has standards of procedure which will provide for a review of individual parishes and their statements. And the procedures cover how the money is handled. My parish happens to be among the first to operate under these standards. Over time, it is my understanding that they will be universal.

While we had previously had very lax procedures, we found absolutely no evidence of any impropriety (granted we have been operating under them for only about 6 months) and I never expected we would. But now, we can make more confident statements to the parish and diocese that all things are handled in a business-like manner. This builds confidence in all concerned.

And, these new procedures ran into resistance. Some thought it was an accusation they weren’t trusted. Some thought the extra work wasn’t worth the effort. However, w/ proper coaching and explanation, it is running smoothly now. And, the “counters” etc. have new pride in knowing they are doing things right.
From Lovemyfaith: You are pretty much on the money about priest not wanting to manage financial affairs, however this pastor seems preoccupied with the financial affairs of the parish and less interested in being involved with other ministries of the parish.
I don’t blame your Pastor for being very preoccupied with this matter. He doesn’t want to have scandal come down on your parish and himself. I applaud him for taking this interest. Unfortunately, sometimes they aren’t properly trained/knowledgeable on what should be done so they take it all on themself. However, my strong suspicion is that as the diocese gets better at providing direction and feedback via their deanery meetings, the procedures will improve at your parish.
From Lovemyfaith: As far as going to the council, other than the business manager, nothing is listed in the weekly bulletin nor the web site of who is on the financial council or when they meet.
The new procedures required by my diocese provides for greater disclosure. It is my understanding that this direction came from the USCCB. For your information, my parish is the very first in our diocese to operate under these procedures because the head financial officer of the diocese is in my parish. He wants to observe them for relevance and challenges of implementation before rolling out diocese wide. I am confident that this will be ultimately addressed. Just be patient. However, if you have concerns, I advise you to talk to teh President of hte Finance Council and your Pastor. It will help them realize the importance of what will be directed to them from the diocese and that they are not just more work for an already over-worked volunteer council.
 
  1. The financial directive that is coming from our diocese at the direction of the USCCB has standards of procedure which will provide for a review of individual parishes and their statements.
  2. I advise you to talk to teh President of hte Finance Council and your Pastor.
On point #1- I hope these directives follow generally accepted accounting priciples, such as a seperation between the person writing the checks and the person receiving the money and recording the money. Also, who is handles the collection. I also hope these directives provide parish visits to actually see how things are done in practice.

On point #2- It seems quite the mystery who exactly is on our finance council. There was another post that mentioned how uncomfortable someone was with a member of their parish council speaking at Mass about the finances of the parish. That doesn’t happen around here, other than the occassional quote about how tithing has improved people’s lives (which I suspect the pastor gets off of a web site and are not from parishoners here) we don’t hear much about finances. I know most people here would love to know who exactly is approving constant improvements to the rectory and changes to the church which are not necessary.

Again, my point to the OP was sometimes there is cause for concern. I am very concerned with a pastor who has interest ONLY in the financial ministries of the parish and nothing else.
 
I’ve been a member of my parish for 12 years, and during these 12 years there has always been full accountability for finances. We have a Business Manager as well as a finance council. We receive a full accounting every single year of expenses and income. And every single time there is an extra expense, it is published in the bulletin. Large jobs are put out for bid. And anything major is put before the congregation. The books are open to any parish member–you can walk in and ask to see the books, you can also request to see any bids. I cannot imagine being in a parish where there is secrecy and non-accountability, or having people manage parish funds who are not fully trained. That money is the parishoner’s money, and the parishoners should see to it is handled properly, even if it means going to the Diocese and irritating the Pastor. I saw a thriving Byzantine parish lose almost it’s entire congregation due to financial irregularities by the people handling funds, which was discovered by the new Pastor, about 10 years ago. It was a public scandal, and the parish is now down to about 25 people. They never recovered from it. A real shame.
 
I’ve been a member of my parish for 12 years, and during these 12 years there has always been full accountability for finances. We have a Business Manager as well as a finance council. We receive a full accounting every single year of expenses and income. And every single time there is an extra expense, it is published in the bulletin. Large jobs are put out for bid. And anything major is put before the congregation. The books are open to any parish member–you can walk in and ask to see the books, you can also request to see any bids. I cannot imagine being in a parish where there is secrecy and non-accountability, or having people manage parish funds who are not fully trained. **That money is the parishoner’s money, and the parishoners should see to it is handled properly, **even if it means going to the Diocese and irritating the Pastor. I saw a thriving Byzantine parish lose almost it’s entire congregation due to financial irregularities by the people handling funds, which was discovered by the new Pastor, about 10 years ago. It was a public scandal, and the parish is now down to about 25 people. They never recovered from it. A real shame.
My only comment is it is God’s money. We have given it freely out of love (or we ought to have). However, parishioners should desire and do what is appropriate to see it is spent as if it is God’s money. Accountability and transparency are good things. This being said, there are matters that need to be tended to w/ discretion and so as not to cause undue division or gossip. There is a point in which we need to trust our Pastor and the Finance Council.
 
I know a number of people who drive mercedes and they aren’t rich. Instead of worrying about what Fr. drives perhaps you should concentrate on higher things. What does Fr. say in confession? What does he preach? Have you offered to ride with him on a sick call in case he needs some help? Have you ridden along with him when he goes to give Last rites? Have you ridden along with him as he drives that car to the annual diocesan retreat? Do you know what is in his heart? 🤷
 
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