Confession for weddings

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The OP suggested making an announcement that informed people that confession was available, and if they haven’t gone in awhile they should go now.

I don’t think anyone has a problem with a priest hearing confessions before a wedding if he has time. It’s the part where someone is standing up before the wedding and telling people to go now that crosses over from charitable to nannying and presumptuous.
 
Gorgias said:
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Or that’s the only time they can get to confession. If someone works during the day and has to take care of the kids in the evening, maybe the only option is go to Mass on the weekend a few minutes early and hit the confessional right before.
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In my neck of the woods, Saturday morning confession is still found pretty regularly. So, yeah… if you work Saturday mornings, then you have to find a parish that offers other times.

The original question, though, was “if churches offer it before weekend Mass, why not offer it before a wedding Mass?” So, the answer there is “it’s the regularly scheduled time.”
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Yeah. Confession on Saturday is just a regularly scheduled open-availability time. Otherwise, you need an appointment. If you work Saturday, hopefully you have time when the office is open.

A wedding is not a regularly scheduled time.
 
QwertyGirl said:
Maybe the Church should just issue communion cards. You know, like the Atomic Sub Shop does. Each time you go to confession, the priest can stamp your card and then you can bring it up in the communion line. The person handing out communion can look at the card and make sure you have been to confession recently. Then they can size you up to decide if you look like someone who has done anything mortal recently. If not, you are good to go and you get communion. If not, you get declined.

Sound good?
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Ten confession stamps get you a free pass on one mortal sin! 😉
 
Gorgias said:
Yes. Have you? Better yet, have you never encountered Saturday morning confession times?
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At least in my diocese, Saturday morning confessions seem uncommon. Most parishes offer them during the week (when most people are working), and then just before the Saturday vigil mass.
 
Gorgias said:
That’s cute. You think priests work banker’s hours… 🤣
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How demeaning of you. No, no I don’t. But if you want to call them you need to call during 9-5 because thats when the secretaries work. Otherwise, you’re calling the emergency line.
Gorgias said:
Yes. Have you? Better yet, have you never encountered Saturday morning confession times?
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They are rarer and usually during lent/Advent. Saturday is for funerals.
Gorgias said:
Or Saturday morning. Or by appointment.
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If the schedule Saturday morning, so be it. Around my area, Saturday morning is typically for funerals. And read above about appointment.
 
I think that many posters here are thinking “When I (or when my daughter/son) gets married, I KNOW Aunt Suzy is going to parade herself up to Communion”.

The better idea is for the bride to have lunch with Aunt Suzy and say “Aunt Suzy, I want two gifts for my wedding. First, I want you to be there. Second, I want you to watch this video series on Formed about Confession then come with me to Confession next Saturday.”
 
And how does everyone know Aunt Suzy hasn’t gone to confession already?
 
Agree, I am just thinking that most families have that one person who does not make their disbelief in Confession known.
 
OsculeturMeOsculo said:
Except they are more likely to go to Confession and avoid receiving in a state of mortal sin.
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I think there’s no difference either way. Those who are going to go will go. Those who aren’t, won’t. It’s all between that person and God at the end of the day.
 
So a couple of months ago I went to a Catholic funeral. Prior to the mass beginning , the priest informed everyone what communion was (in about three sentences) and then explained the rules about who is eligible to receive. He did it in a very conversational manner. I sat there thinking, “This is great. There are a lot of people here who just don’t know. Now they do”.

What he didnt’ do was bring up confession at all. It wasn’t necessary. Once he said what he said about who is eligible, that took care of it.

It could have gone really badly, inspiring spite in some from other faiths that welcome all to communion at their church. Instead, he was so kind, nice, and generous of spirit with the way he explained matters, that I think most people behaved accordingly.

It is all in about how the message is delivered. Telling people to go to confession before they can receive communion, in that setting, is completely inappropriate. The non-catholics or lapsed catholics would leave the church shaking their heads. And probably having a lot of conversations among themselves that would be quite unfortunate.
 
QwertyGirl said:
Telling people to go to confession before they can receive communion, in that setting, is completely inappropriate.
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Some people could easily misunderstand the instructions, and think they ought to confess(even if they aren’t Catholic).
 
That doesn’t seem relevant, but I do my part and not receive when I commit mortal sins. Most are probably not Catholic anyways.
 
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You can. But that’s usually recommended for a Catholic marrying a non-Catholic. Two Catholics are generally supposed to have a nuptial Mass. And receive Communion.
 
OsculeturMeOsculo said:
You can have a wedding without a mass.
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You can, but it is not normative according to the CCC.
1621 In the Latin Rite the celebration of marriage between two Catholic faithful normally takes place during Holy Mass, because of the connection of all the sacraments with the Paschal mystery of Christ.120 In the Eucharist the memorial of the New Covenant is realized, the New Covenant in which Christ has united himself for ever to the Church, his beloved bride for whom he gave himself up.121 It is therefore fitting that the spouses should seal their consent to give themselves to each other through the offering of their own lives by uniting it to the offering of Christ for his Church made present in the Eucharistic sacrifice, and by receiving the Eucharist so that, communicating in the same Body and the same Blood of Christ, they may form but “one body” in Christ.122
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OsculeturMeOsculo said:
You can have a wedding without a mass.
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Yes, I know that. But not everyone wants to do that. You were the one that sees little point in communion at a wedding, not me. It sounds like you think no one should have a mass, with your suggestion for not having communion.
 
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