Confession for weddings

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Since people know well in advance that a wedding is taking place, I see no reason the wedding celebrant should be burdened in this way. Indeed, Confession alone would not put right a persistent predisposition not to attend church. Only regular church attendance would correct this.
 
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Wrong again.

The unity in a marriage begins at the wedding and should increase unceasingly until one of the persons dies.

The unity in marriage must be a foretaste of the unity that we desire with God, now and in the hereafter.

The unity in the marriage should mimic the unity shared among the Three Persons of the Trinity.

That’s why the wedding should be done within the Mass.

The Sacrament of Confession is - well - another act of communion, a re-union, not just with God, and not just with His Church, but with others who we have offended, and even more…the Sacarment of Confession spurs on an interior reunion with our will, our intellect, our conscience, our appetites/emotions, and our body.

And so…the “unity” of the Mariage is PART OF the unity that God has with Himself and wants to share with each of us, present at the wedding or not.
 
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Perhaps the stamped should be placed, not on a card, but on the palm of the hand or the forehead. 😎
 
Now you’re talking. And if they could glow in true Lohan’s Run fashion, we’d really have something.
 
Edward_H said:
Wrong again.

The unity in a marriage begins at the wedding and should increase unceasingly until one of the persons dies.

The unity in marriage must be a foretaste of the unity that we desire with God, now and in the hereafter.

The unity in the marriage should mimic the unity shared among the Three Persons of the Trinity.

That’s why the wedding should be done within the Mass.

The Sacrament of Confession is - well - another act of communion, a re-union, not just with God, and not just with His Church, but with others who we have offended, and even more…the Sacarment of Confession spurs on an interior reunion with our will, our intellect, our conscience, our appetites/emotions, and our body.

And so…the “unity” of the Mariage is PART OF the unity that God has with Himself and wants to share with each of us, present at the wedding or not.
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No, it isn’t. You can say I’m wrong and think I’m wrong, but it won’t change my stance on this (nor will it change the stance of those who also think it’s rude).

This is like telling people what kind of gifts you want on an invite. It’s rude, it’s uncalled for, and it has nothing to do with the marriage. It is, plain and simple, not the couple’s judgment call to make - because it is indeed a judgment call, and that’s precisely how many would interpret it.

It’s rude. It’s poor etiquette, and it’s judgmental in an almost underhanded sort of way.

I’d go as far as to say it’s pretty sanctimonious on the couple’s part.
Edward_H said:
The Sacrament of Confession is - well - another act of communion, a re-union, not just with God, and not just with His Church, but with others who we have offended, and even more…the Sacarment of Confession spurs on an interior reunion with our will, our intellect, our conscience, our appetites/emotions, and our body.
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What is between me and God or anyone else and God isn’t your (the universal “your”) business. You’re not meant to card people at the communion rail.
 
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Hey we actually had wedding crashers. LOL. It was awesome. They were fantastic actually!!
 
Augustinian said:
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I knew that my Protestant relatives were well aware that they weren’t supposed to traipse up to the Communion rail
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I think that’s probably true with most Protestants or Greek Orthodox. But guests who are Hindu, Jewish or of other religions might think otherwise- thinking it might be considered “impolite” not to.
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Presumably, the people who are getting married are adults who know a bit about their guests. Maybe it’s a bit too far of a stretch. If it’s not, why do we give those adults a “free pass” as to explain to their guests the proper etiquette and behavior in a strange place? If someone invited me to a Japanese Onsen and thought I might not know about Japanese culter why in the world wouldn’t they be an adult and tell me I should be prepared to take off my shoes and bathe in the nude.

The lack of accountability on the couple that is being wed is crazy.
 
The celebrant should provide for a proper explanation before all celebrations of Eucharist. Indeed, many priests have the cantor read the instruction prior to mass beginning. A couple cannot be charged with responsibilities properly belonging to the priest, more specifically to the pastor of the parish.
 
Your comments add nothing but opinion, which isn’t consistent with what the Sacraments are…a means of receiving sanctifying grace - a deeper sharing in the divine life of the Trinity.

I’m not at all interested in what you think is rude and of bad etiquette. You weren’t in the wedding and I wasn’t and so we should temper our opinions about how a particular point was made to the wedding guests…and nothing based on that language, CAN be applied to the more general question about offering the wedding guests the infinite gift of the sacrament of confession.
 
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Edward_H said:
Your comments add nothing but opinion, which isn’t consistent with what the Sacraments are…a means of receiving sanctifying grace - a deeper sharing in the divine life of the Trinity
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Yep, it’s my opinion. This whole thread is opinion and a lot of conjecture for that matter. The fact that you don’t find it rude is also opinion.

Hold the phone a second. My saying this is rude has nothing to do with the sacrament itself. What kind of conclusion is that? The actions of the couple in this hypothetical are rude as all get out. That has nothing to do with my opinion of the sacrament of confession or of the Eucharist. It’s not the job of the laity to ensure a means of sanctifying grace and a deeper sharing in the Trinity. That’s the job of Holy Mother Church.
 
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Edward_H said:
I’m not at all interested in what you think is rude and of bad etiquette. You weren’t in the wedding and I wasn’t and so we should temper our opinions about how a particular point was made to the wedding guests…and nothing based on that language, CAN be applied to the more general question about offering the wedding guests the infinite gift of the sacrament of confession.
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This whole conversation in this thread is about a hypothetical. This didn’t actually happen.
 
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You don’t have to be a jerk about it. Just print in your wedding program the same thing the US Bishops have printed in other worship aids. (This is kosher even if you are not in the USCCB jurisdiction)

http://www.usccb.org/prayer-and-wor...guidelines-for-the-reception-of-communion.cfm
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I think it is becoming more and more common to use this exact wording in/on programs.

At our wedding, we just didn’t have communion (I’m not Catholic) so no confusion or worrying there 😀
 
’ It’s not the job of the laity to ensure a means of sanctifying grace and a deeper sharing in the Trinity. "

Who says?

We should encourage people to attend Mass and to go to Confession if we truly are seeking their greatest good.

These silly people who create rules such as “it’s not the job of the laity”…
 
The Priest typically prepares you at the rehearsal and when you meet with him in advance of the wedding. I don’t recall dealing with Father C. much before the wedding on the day of. In reality, on the actual day, your time is controlled by the wedding photographers (that gets old really quick—by the time you are at the reception you have probably already posed for like 800 pictures in every combination with every family member and member of the wedding party imaginable. Then you just want to have a drink and talk to your friends, but those photographers are still running the show for a while).

But I will say, with all the things going on, how do you fit in the Confession time? Do you have your Catholic guests show up 45 minutes early?
 
Edward_H said:
’ It’s not the job of the laity to ensure a means of sanctifying grace and a deeper sharing in the Trinity. "

Who says?

We should encourage people to attend Mass and to go to Confession if we truly are seeking their greatest good.

These silly people who create rules such as “it’s not the job of the laity”…
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Priests. Common courtesy.

It’s not my job to get inside your head and your soul and your business to tell you what to do. It’s just not. And it’s assuredly not my job on a wedding invitation to tell someone “hey, you know, before you come and screw up, you need to go to confession or you’re blowing my sacrament off”. It’s not about you in that regard.

Admonishing the sinner doesn’t mean I get to tell you to go to confession before you come to my wedding just in case you don’t go to Mass like you’re supposed to. You don’t even know if that’s the case or not - and if you do know it, you tell it to that person, you don’t blast it in public. We did away with that practice eons ago. What it means is I get to say, “hey, my dear friend, I noticed you’ve kind of stopped coming to Mass. We’re supposed to go - what’s going on? Can I help? Why not come with me and let’s set you back on the right path together - I’m concerned.”

One last edit - personally I don’t even see it as “I’m supposed to go”. I promised at my Confirmation to uphold the teachings of the Church. I go because of a promise I made to God, which is actually how it should be, I think. It’s not a rote thing for me. Doesn’t make me perfect - it just means I’m a struggling sinner like everyone else.

I didn’t create those rules, so attempting to insult me by calling me silly doesn’t bother me. One should tend their own house and not be all up in the windows of someone else’s. I do go to Mass and I do go to confession, because I know I’m supposed to do so. We all are supposed to do that, and Catholics know it. But blasting that on an invitation isn’t encouraging. It’s rude.

This isn’t the laity’s job. Period.
 
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Isn’t it the priest job to announce this? In churches I have been including Catholic even if I am in EO he says "and now those of you who confessed please approach in fear and love… ". Why complicate your life? It’s your wedding day. Enjoy and let it it be.
Many blessings for your wedding and marriage. May it be at a good hour. God bless!
 
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It might be worth stating that the couples entering marriage, not the priests or deacons, are the ordinary ministers of the sacrament. So, if any sacrament is conferred or and unity is created it is done so solely by the ministers of the sacrament of matrimony, the couple, who themselves celebrate the sacrament and enter more deeply into Trinitarian Life through their vows. Oddly, these couples are all laity. 😎

Cc: @Pup7
 
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