Confession for weddings

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Don’t you think it would be so awesome if Priests gave time for a confessional period prior to a Catholic Wedding Mass ? That way you don’t have to be the jerk that tells the attendees that they aren’t ALLOWED to receive the Eucharist, since none of them ever go to mass anymore?

Then like write it on the invitations and say:

“Prior to the wedding ceremony there will be a time for confession, please make use of this if are Catholic and you haven’t been to mass in a while.”
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Yes, I do think it would be awesome. However, I’m not sure if it would be practical in all situations.
 
Wait—the ministers of Sacrament of Matrimony are the Bride and Groom. The Minister of the Eucharist is the Priest celebrating the Mass.
 
Exactly. So it is the priest’s role to remind those at the Mass about the requirements for Communion. Not the couple who are inviting guests to a wedding.
 
It’s your job to get inside the head of the people that God put in your life…your family, friends, co-workers.

Why do you think God put these people in your life, if not to have you help bring them closer to Him?

Your point is basically “build a wall”…stay in your lane, stay out of people’s business. That sort of indifference and lack of ownership pleases the devil.

That’s not Catholicism.
 
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Amazing you got that from what I said. Clearly, you read selectively, or you would’ve seen where I delineated where our boundaries lie.

To go any further is judging in my book, and that is well above my pay grade.

Hilarious how someone states an opinion someone else disagrees with and immediately it’s not Catholic enough. That’s a copout of the highest order.

Funny how THIS is not Catholic:
Pup7 said:
What it means is I get to say, “hey, my dear friend, I noticed you’ve kind of stopped coming to Mass. We’re supposed to go - what’s going on? Can I help? Why not come with me and let’s set you back on the right path together - I’m concerned.”
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Sure it isn’t. You keep right on believing it isn’t.

Meet people where they are. Getting in people’s business and nosing your way in will never correct someone - it will make them run for the hills. That’s not how you lead people.
 
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Simply cut out and carry with you everywhere!
 
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To offer an opportunity to go to confession is an act of charity…it’s not getting into anyone’s business.
 
By stating it the way it is stated in the OP - which is what this conversation is actually about - yeah, it is. It’s rude.

By approaching the person as an individual and making sure they’re spiritually all right is an act of charity. Offering to go with them is charitable. Encouraging them back to the faith is charitable. Saying hey - “we know you’re coming to our wedding, so we’ve arranged for a time for confession prior to if you feel you need to go” is far more charitable.

The proposed scenario isn’t. It’s just rude.
 
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Irishmom2 said:
It is a wedding mass for some people. They shouldn’t allow a mass for a wedding?
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Only the priest needs to receive communion for a Mass to be a Mass. The people’s communion is not strictly necessary. The sacrifice is offered for its usual ends and the good of the couple whether the people receive or not.

(I don’t really agree with just offering communion to the bride and groom, although it may be a good idea if, say, they are both converts almost everybody else in attendance is a non-Catholic).
 
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You’d tell John the Baptist, Jesus, St Paul that they were being rude by telling people to repent and sin no more.

YEP. “Say it differently so I feel better about myself”

The Roman empire wasn’t Christianized by snowflakes and wall builders.
 
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I’ve been reading a number of these posts and I think before we try to have Confession before a Wedding Mass, we should get comfortable standing in the confession line again.

How many of us see (saw) our spouses, parents, grandparents, aunts/uncles, cousins, siblings, and even children stand in the confession line? Or even better, stand in the same confession line with them?

Confession used to be something that we all went to, because we confessed not just mortal sins, but also venial ones.

Today, far too many people feel like they will be judged if they stand the confessional line.

This is why I love seeing parishes & cathedrals that have confession before mass and keep it going during mass until everyone the line is gone. It shows that we don’t have to be afraid to stand in line. When we see “Great Catholic Smith” standing in the Confession line, it makes us feel less intimidated.

On Good Friday (for example) I was standing in the confession line next to a seminarian. He and I talked a little and he was giving such a wonderful witness by standing in the public confession line wearing his cassock.

So to the OP - While I’m all for more confession times, and would welcome any priest who scheduled confession before a wedding; I would suggest working increasing the number of Sunday confessions before pushing confessions at wedding masses.

God Bless
 
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Edward_H said:
You’d tell John the Baptist, Jesus, St Paul that they were being rude by telling people to repent and sin no more.

The Roman empire wasn’t Christianized by snowflakes and wall builders.
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I would if they plastered it on a wedding invite - “go if you haven’t been to Mass in forever”. But they wouldn’t, so the point is moot.

You’re bent on changing the subject of address here. I’m not letting that happen in the least.
 
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Most bishops prescribe a Nuptial Service for the situation you describe. Indeed, the Sacrament is still valid when celebrated with the Roman Rite outside of Mass.
 
“Say it differently Jesus, so I don’t feel bad about myself…so I don’t take offense…”
 
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“Say it differently Jesus, so I don’t feel bad about myself…so I don’t take offense…”
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😆😆

Yeah, that’s exactly what I said. Not quite, my dear.

Why are you making this personal?

I don’t feel bad about myself about any of this.
 
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