Confession Question

[Pat_the_Cat]

Had similar problem when The priest used to roar and shout at me for my “serious” sin that I had to keep bringing to confession. it really put me off going to confession. But it did make me stop and think about what I was doing, and it made me question if I really was making a firm purpose of amendment. I came to the conclusion that I was not, and thet the problem needed to be rooted out. As I confessed this sin again, with a firm purpose of amendment, I really felt the Sacramental grace.

I honestly cannot remember how long it’s been since I had to take that sin to confession. All I can say is “Thank God for confession”.

 

[turtle18]

I don’t know. I try to go to Confession at least once a week but if you commit a mortal sin between that time, you should go regardless of what the priest says. Especially if you are attending daily mass and want to receive the Eucharist everyday. For example, if I go to weekly Confession on Saturday; then let’s say I visit my parents on Sunday and I get into a fight with them; then I would think I would have to go again Monday. And then say on Monday afternoon I lied to my boss about getting my work done, then I would have to go again on Tuesday. I don’t think that is being scrupulous; in each situation it wasn’t my intent to sin but when faced with difficult choices, I deliberately violated Commandments instead of trying to exercise my Catholic faith.

If the priest gets upset with you, just humble yourself enough to take it. Offer it up to Christ as a form of repentance for your sin. The priest may need to go to Confession later about how he treated you because he refused you the Sacrament when you requested it.

 

[lak611]

I don’t know. I try to go to Confession at least once a week but if you commit a mortal sin between that time, you should go regardless of what the priest says. Especially if you are attending daily mass and want to receive the Eucharist everyday. For example, if I go to weekly Confession on Saturday; then let’s say I visit my parents on Sunday and I get into a fight with them; then I would think I would have to go again Monday. And then say on Monday afternoon I lied to my boss about getting my work done, then I would have to go again on Tuesday. I don’t think that is being scrupulous; in each situation it wasn’t my intent to sin but when faced with difficult choices, I deliberately violated Commandments instead of trying to exercise my Catholic faith.

If the priest gets upset with you, just humble yourself enough to take it. Offer it up to Christ as a form of repentance for your sin. The priest may need to go to Confession later about how he treated you because he refused you the Sacrament when you requested it.

Yes, frequent Confession is good, but you may need to look at the circumstances and perhaps discuss them with a priest who is a spiritual director. An argument with one’s parents or lying to one’s boss may or may not be a mortal sin. A spiritual director could help you sort that out.

 

[turtle18]

Breaking commandments can be considered venial sins?

I’d rather err on the side of caution. If you deliberately mislead your brother or sister from the truth, I don’t see how telling lies could ever be considered a venial sin .

 

[lak611]

Breaking commandments can be considered venial sins?

Yes they can.

I’d rather err on the side of caution. If you deliberately mislead your brother or sister from the truth, I don’t see how telling lies could ever be considered a venial sin .

Here is an examination of conscience that does distinguish the differences in mortal and venial sins using the Ten Commandments. If you are are having a problem that all sins are mortal, you should speak to a priest and ask for spiritual direction. He will help you.

 

[Debora]

Recently I attended Reconciliation and was crying my eyes out over a matter that I felt was very serious. The priest scolded me for the “nonsense” and told me to come see him during the week because he didn’t have time for me. I haven’t been back to confess since.

I did not want to talk to a priest face to face to begin with, so why would I see a priest who wouldn’t listen to my sins and concerns in the first place?

I have even gone into a Confessional, where a priest who didn’t know me snaps his fingers at me when I first entered and said “Make it quick. I have a lot of people on line out there. You people take too long with your Confessions.”

Years ago the Confessional was open all day on Saturday. Priests took their time with the people. Now you are lucky of your Church has Reconciliation available for 45 minutes on a Saturday afternoon.

The past year I have tried several different Parishes to try and find a good Confessor to no avail. The priests act as if the Sacrament is a waste of their time. I know they are human but Reconciliation is part of the job. I have hear similar stories from a number of people. No wonder Catholics don’t want to go to the Sacrament of Reconciliation any more.

I used to go every 6 weeks and more frequently if necessary. Now I just say a good Act of Contrition every night and examine my conscience.

 

[turtle18]

Please go back to confession. I think all of us at some point or another have had really bad confession stories. If the priest is mean to you or embarasses you, offer it up to Christ–Who endured endless humiliations during the Passion and Crucifixtion.

I think there are a lot of priests who view reconcilation as a waste of their time. Pray for them.

I usually say a prayer before I go into reconciliation to help me make a good confession and for Jesus to help my confessor.

Try to focus on the grace and strength you receive from the sacrament .

 

[Maria1212]

At Mass this weekend, one of our priests noted that he been available for Confession for an hour at a time, at four different times, and only three people came in. It made me sad to think of the priest sitting there, with no one coming, because it is like God is there waiting for us, and we are “too busy” to take the time and think about our sins. The priest said that if the end of the world was coming tomorrow, the confession lines would be out the door and they wouldn`t have time to hear all the confessions. He made the great point that we need to live as if we might die tomorrow. Because one day we will!

Sincerely,

Maria1212

 

[Marsha_Adams]

Breaking commandments can be considered venial sins?

I’d rather err on the side of caution. If you deliberately mislead your brother or sister from the truth, I don’t see how telling lies could ever be considered a venial sin .

There are three criteria for a sin being Mortal:

a. It must be a grave matter.
b. It must be done intentionally - with full consent of the will.
c. It must be done knowing (fully informed) that it is a grave sin.

The Baltimore Catechism in discussing mortal /vs venial sins said that a lie was venial but eating meat on Friday was mortal. ( I still remember the illustrations used in that discussion LOL).

So, yes, breaking a commandment may be venial, and violating a precept may be mortal.

 

[Sr_Sally]

I heard that Pope Pius XII confessed daily.

If the sin on your conscience was grave, you should not have been scolded before you even get a chance to confess it. Did this guy know you?

For a scrupulous person, refraining from the Eucharist would be poor advice, tending to reinforce the problem.

Look for another priest.

Yes, Popes and many Saints confess daily or at least more often than weeekly. But they also have recourse to a Spiritual Director or were in a religious community where priests were available. That said, I don’t think any of them were confessing the same mortal sin day after day.

If the OP feels he needs confession more often than every week or every month, or if he is struggling with attachment to a mortal sin, than he should probably ask this priest or another to be his Spiritual Director.

Refraining from the Eucharist, as others have said, may be exactly what this person needs to truly make a firm purpose of ammendment. The priest may hve been concerned that this person was taking the sacraments for granted. A bit of ‘hunger’ can often work wonders.