But it’s not about commitment. That’s the point.
The point of receiving Confirmation is that your Baptism’s grace is made more complete, and the gifts of the Holy Spirit are given to you. God, through the bishop, offers those things freely to all the baptized who aren’t dissenting from the Church’s teachings.
You will note that unbaptized adults who join the Church do get Baptism, Confirmation, and Communion all at once. There’s no waiting period, no “try out your Baptism for a while and see if you like it, and then we’ll Confirm you”. Instead, you receive a full initiation.
In the old days, the usual Latin Rite way of doing things was, to Confirm baptized children at the moment they hit the age of reason and could commit sin. This was to give them full access to the gifts of the Holy Spirit, and thus make them better protected in the fight against sin. (Nowadays, we leave kids defenceless until they’ve already been exposed to everything. Yay!)
That’s not to say that you were supposed to receive if you didn’t believe; but it wasn’t a big angsty deal. You believed and received, or you didn’t. End of story. (Except of course that you would surely become a focus of catechism efforts by the entire family and community.)
I’m going to put something down that I already did earlier - but before I do put it up, IMHO, I disagree with some of what you siad. I believe that some of these were given together in the older days because of the Bishops not being able to travel as much. It was a completely different time. But I have a hard time with hearing that once someone is Baptized, they are Catholic and are “obligated” to receive confirmation. I understand Baptizing because the parents believe and want the infant to be able to go to Heaven if something were to happen. But the confirmation has been left until the age of reason in the Western Church and I have to believe that the Hierarchy of the Church had some good reasons why. Let’s look at what they say :
1319 A candidate for Confirmation who has attained the age of reason must profess the faith, be in the state of grace, have the intention of receiving the sacrament, and be prepared to assume the role of disciple and witness to Christ, both within the ecclesial community and in temporal affairs.
To me this sounds an awful lot like they want the child or young adult to be able to go out and almost “preach” for want of a better word to those around him or her. They want this person to have the “intention” -the desire in other words (intention is defined as a Determination or resolve to act a certain way) - by the Church’s own words, they are wanting the person to “determine” that they are ready willing and able to do certain things.
You said (with regards to First Communion)
“That’s not to say that you were supposed to receive if you didn’t believe; but it wasn’t a big angsty deal. You believed and received, or you didn’t. End of story. (Except of course that you would surely become a focus of catechism efforts by the entire family and community.)” -
Personally, I was supposed to receive the sacrement at age 5 but because I wanted to wait for my Dad who was overseas to be there, I received it, I believe the day after I turned 6 when he had returned. I don’t think that anyone in my class truly understood the awesomeness or depth of what we were told happened in this sacrement. And personally, I know that there were some that did this not because they loved God but because it was expected. As a kid that young, you’re going to do what’s expected (most of the time) - plus if you were a girl, you got a neat white dress and of course there was a party and gifts. I am not sure where I stand, but I’m having to wonder with my kids if I won’t think that this is so important that perhaps it might be better to wait until kids are older to have a better understanding of what’s supposed to be happening - but that’s another topic.
I went through Confirmation because it was expected. My parents wanted me to and I just wanted to get it done with - it really was like “Catholic Graduation”.(and granted this is something that the people that teach it need to really look into) I wish I hadn’t gone through with it at the time, now. I wish I had voiced my problems about the Catholic Church, but quite honestly, I didn’t want to be put through the ringer of going to Priests, etc to be set straight with regards to this. I guess this is why I’m so proud of my God Daughter. She is honest enough to let us know she does not feel she can go out and be a disciple - while she can profess what Catholics believe, she herself does not believe all of that. She has gone through long talks with the Priest and Nun and she has stood her ground. Of course, I wish that she was o.k. with being confirmed, but I wouldn’t be a good God Mother if I told her “you’ll go through with this for your own good - it doesn’t matter whether you believe this stuff or not or if you believe what the Church says - you’ll do what we tell you is best…” Would that ever be hypocritical of me?! I will pray for her that she comes to love the faith and to understand it. I don’t want her just blindly accept things with which she doesn’t agree (I will try to explain some, though). I wouldn’t want my kids to do that!
continued on the next response - sorry ran out of room!