Conjugal sex

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I guess the puritans might have taken an extremely fundamentalist interpretation of the Bible. The Church does not teach such protestant distortions. What the Church condemns is lust even if committed with one’s own spouse. Lust is defined as sexuality done or thought of for the sole purpose of carnal pleasure isolated from the necessary indivisibility of the unitive and procreative aspects of marriage.
 
Back when I was an anxious teenager with many fears about sexual morality, I used to speak regularly to a local priest who essentially was my confessor, if that is the correct term. He said that it was perfectly acceptable - even encouraged - for married couples to enjoy every aspect of their sexual relations, and treat it as a means to nurturing their relationship through mutual pleasure. I guess that means that the clothing-on or clothing-off approaches are both just fine, depending on the moment and the couple’s preferences… 👍
 
Clothing is a physical barrier, so I think that they must be full naked during the intercourse.
I didn’t think in that. Really nudity is the only way for a whole gift of ourselves.
I think that they can be naked also in other times, when they have not sex.
In what sense they can be naked in other times?
 
According the Catholic teaching, the wife and the husband can be full naked during the intercourse?
**Is there any other way?!:love::love::bigyikes::rotfl:

Seriously, during sex, the arousal of ALL the senses, including sight and touch help to strengthen the unitive aspect of sex between spouses. It does so from the gentle and sublime softness of touch to the intensity of unbridled passion. It is all a part of God’s creation that finds its greatest good in marriage.

It is not only permissible, but commendable.

God Bless**
 
In what sense they can be naked in other times?
In the conjugal life, sexual intercourse is prescribed, but also other “not-completed” sexual activities are allowed.
At least at home when they are alone spouses always can be naked.
 
I had to take an art class as part of my general education course elective at High Point University. And we were studying this one painting, now I can not recall all the details, but it was focused on a room. As we were studying this painting, related during that time period… which I forgot, you may want to look up for more accurate info, but I kid you not when a newly married coupled had sexual relations, the parents from either side, would sit in the room with them. They wanted to make sure, that the new couple fulfilled their marital act as well as doing it accurately. DO YOU KNOW HOW GROSSED out I was!! I didn’t want to even begin to fathom what that would have been like. But that just goes to show you the major differences in cultures. I saw this topic was kinda going another way, and had to add it. :o
 
Is there a point to this thread?
We are establishing the dress requirements for the marital embrace. We have gone from nothing to a sheet with a hole in it to parents who sit and watch their newly married kids consummate their marriage.

Is there a point to this thread?? Of course not…teachccd 😃
 
I had to take an art class as part of my general education course elective at High Point University. And we were studying this one painting, now I can not recall all the details, but it was focused on a room. As we were studying this painting, related during that time period… which I forgot, you may want to look up for more accurate info, but I kid you not when a newly married coupled had sexual relations, the parents from either side, would sit in the room with them. They wanted to make sure, that the new couple fulfilled their marital act as well as doing it accurately. DO YOU KNOW HOW GROSSED out I was!! I didn’t want to even begin to fathom what that would have been like. But that just goes to show you the major differences in cultures. I saw this topic was kinda going another way, and had to add it. :o
Mm, this practice was especially true among royalty and the upper nobility; some would even go so far as to have a special ceremonial bed designed for the couple to consummate the sacrament. The point wasn’t to titillate the on-lookers, but to make sure the sacrament was consummated. Back then, people were a lot more frank about sex and the body. All babies were breast-fed and since society was more agrarian, people were more familiar with animals “doin’ what comes nat’rally”, thus by their standards, something like this wouldn’t be considered dirty or obscene.
 
Which cultures? My understanding is that this is the case for Hindus but that it obviously does not apply to married couples. Ever see a Karma Sutra?
Many Muslims (depending on the school of Islam) believe also, that you cannot see your spouse naked. When you have sex you must have sex in the dark or be covered by blankets so as not to incite lust.
 
Many Muslims (depending on the school of Islam) believe also, that you cannot see your spouse naked. When you have sex you must have sex in the dark or be covered by blankets so as not to incite lust.
This is the recent teaching of a scholar, but it is against the Muslim tradition.
Islamic scholars have defined “Awrah” the part of human body that cannot be shown. There is some differences of opinion between the Islamic schools of Law, but there is a consensus among scholars about some elements:
  1. In public, men’s awarah is from navel to knees (i.e. this part of the body cannot be shown).
  2. In public, women’s awarah is the whole body except face, hands and feet.
  3. Children who are 4 years old or younger have no awrah (i.e. there are no rules about their clothing and they also can go naked, as we can see in some rural communities).
  4. Between husband and wife there is not awrah (i.e. they can be naked as long as they want, not only when they have sex).
 
Some cultural beliefs are such that it is sinful for the man and woman to see each other fully naked. This would be a cultural belief, however, and not Church teaching.
Unfortunately the Victorian era harmed the western culture.
 
Unfortunately the Victorian era harmed the western culture.
Mmm, a lot of the problems with shame over anything remotely sexual, even between husband and wife and even if you’re talking about sexuality from a medical or biological standpoint, comes to us from the ethics of the middle class in Victorian England. The thing was, the middle class was trying to get some level of credibility in society (the upper class were pretty much “anything goes” since they had the money or clout to silence any objectors, and the lower class were so marginalized, they may as well have been invisible), thus, the only thing they had to go by was to follow a morally rigorous code of ethics, up to and including such absurdities as hiding the legs of chairs or tables or pianos under cloth covers so that young men wouldn’t think about a young lady’s legs. The word “leg” was practically taboo, hence why a chicken leg is called a “drumstick” even to this day. Using the word “bull”, even when you meant a male cow, was considered unacceptable as well; the word “ox” was used, even though an ox is a castrated male cow trained for pulling heavy wagons.
 
Mmm, a lot of the problems with shame over anything remotely sexual, even between husband and wife and even if you’re talking about sexuality from a medical or biological standpoint, comes to us from the ethics of the middle class in Victorian England. The thing was, the middle class was trying to get some level of credibility in society (the upper class were pretty much “anything goes” since they had the money or clout to silence any objectors, and the lower class were so marginalized, they may as well have been invisible), thus, the only thing they had to go by was to follow a morally rigorous code of ethics, up to and including such absurdities as hiding the legs of chairs or tables or pianos under cloth covers so that young men wouldn’t think about a young lady’s legs. The word “leg” was practically taboo, hence why a chicken leg is called a “drumstick” even to this day. Using the word “bull”, even when you meant a male cow, was considered unacceptable as well; the word “ox” was used, even though an ox is a castrated male cow trained for pulling heavy wagons.
Wow, I never new that! It’s amazing where, when and how the origins of things came to be.

God Bless You:highprayer:
 
…What the Church condemns is lust even if committed with one’s own spouse. Lust is defined as sexuality done or thought of for the sole purpose of carnal pleasure isolated from the necessary indivisibility of the unitive and procreative aspects of marriage.
Thanks Roman_Army. This is what I was looking for. I don’t really care what non-Catholics think.

So then, not having anything on with a spouse, if done completely outside of the context of the marital act, it would not be procreative, and therefore could possibly be motivated merely by carnal pleasure (lust).

If lust is sinful, even for the married, then it makes sense that they should not be naked together outside of the context of the marital act. What do you think?
 
How does one get aroused without some form of lust? I would think they go hand-in-hand? I mean, I guess one could pray for an erection, not sure how well that would work out though.
 
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