I would like to begin by saying thank you to the many people who responded to my OP with their advice. I am also glad to see that not everyone who responded was Catholic. I say this because I think it is good to have a mix of perspectives on this issue.
I would also like to add though that I am sad to see the fighting that is taking place on this thread and that in only a matter of hours a moderator felt the need to step in to remind people to be charitable towards one another.
Now, many of you have rightly said that the Catholic Church does not teach homosexuality itself is a sin, only acting on those inclinations is. I should have worded my OP a little better. I know that this is the teaching, but
I still can’t come to agree with it.
As for married priests in the Catholic Church, I’m pretty sure I mentioned (albeit briefly) in my OP that I am aware that the Church allows priests in some eastern rites to marry. While switching rites could be one “solution” to my problems I do not think it resolves my issues entirely.
Also, and I should have said this in the OP but didn’t, I know there will never be a church that I agree with 100%. I know there will always be at least little differences. However, some of the disagreements I have with the Church are rather big. And the fact is that I feel a bit like a liar if I go to Mass, etc. the whole while disagreeing with the Church on very important matters. My problem is whether or not I can, in good conscience, remain in the Church despite these disagreements. By believing that the Church is incorrect on some of these matters which She has officially ruled on would mean I believe that the Church can be wrong in its official doctrine. If this is the case, then even if I only had one disagreement I would shaking the very foundation of the all other beliefs the Church teaches. I don’t know if I explained myself as well as I would have liked just now, so
if the previous few sentences were confusing I apologize.
I should also clarify that I am not just sitting here thinking “hmmm…I just don’t like this or that so I should go and convert.”
My faith is extremely important to me and I do not take the possibility of converting lightly. It has taken me some time just to admit outside of my own thoughts that I am considering converting. If I do end up leaving the Catholic Church it will only be able careful consideration.
I would like to also thank those of you who warned me about the various strands of Anglicanism and the recent exodus from the Anglican Church to the Catholic Church. I am aware of these facts, but since I didn’t mention them in my OP there’s no way anyone could have known that. I don’t really feel the number of adherents is a deal-breaker for me. True the Anglican Church is not as populous as the Catholic Church, but the Catholic Church also has many many members who are Catholics in name only, never actually practicing their faith. The traffic seems to be (as another poster put it) a two-way street as far as people leaving one Church for the other as regards the Catholics and Anglicans.
By converting to the Anglican Church what I meant was the Episcopal Church of the USA. I know about some of the more liberal things that this part of the Anglican Church does and I must admit I approve of
most of them. The one exception being their more liberal view on abortion. I do
not believe in abortion. I’m going to give you all a
rough idea of where I stand on certain contentious issues so that perhaps my dilemma will be clearer to you all. But know that I am mainly focusing on issues that would put me at odds with what the Catholic Church teaches (though I’ve included a few of the major beliefs I share with the Catholic Church).
Brief (over-simplified and incomplete) breakdown of my views:
- I am pro-life.
- I do not believe homosexuality is a sin (whether in thought or deed so long as the same requirements are met as are needed in heterosexual relationships).
- I believe women should be allowed to become priests.
- I believe that priests should have the option to marry.
- I believe in the Real Presence.
- I believe in the Marian dogmas.
I do intend to talk to a Catholic priest about this as well as an Episcopal priest very soon. I am not going to talk to my current parish priest however as he has only been my priest for about 10 months (I moved to a new town). So I plan on making an appointment with my previous parish priest who I knew for a longer time and whom I have a closer relationship with (plus he strikes me as more knowledgeable as well). As for Episcopal priests, since I don’t know any I am probably going to just make an appointment to speak with the priest at the nearest Episcopal church to me, which is only a few blocks away.
As I’m pretty sure I mentioned in my OP, before I came back to the Church I examined the beliefs of numerous Christian denominations. Soon I had narrowed down the ones that seemed most true to me to three: Catholic, Orthodox, and Anglican. While I appreciate the beauty and tradition of the Orthodox Church I didn’t feel a call to become Orthodox then, nor do I feel such a call now.
Again, I do not intend to just go out and switch churches on a whim, which is why I started this thread to begin with. I wanted feedback from the wonderful people on CAF and I certainly got some.
I know I did not address each and every comment that you all made in your various posts. I apologize, but honestly it would have taken far too long (and probably multiple posts) in order to do so. Know that I read each post (although I only skimmed the ones that involved several posters arguing with one another) and that I am taking into consideration what you have all said. I really appreciate the time you have taken on your responses and your desire to help me.
