Xanthippe_Voorhees:
No. I deny that the “head of the household” gets ANY grace not turned out measure for measure with EQUAL graces for the “heart of the household” which is the woman. These may, understandably be different graces but they are NOT, by any means more effective.
To say a man gets more grace than a woman during a sacrament that is administered equally between them would be to make a mockery of the whole institution of marriage and create a lasting imbalance of spiritual grace.
There is no such thing EVER indicated in scripture, CCC or Cannon Law. Even when the “head of the household” is supported, there is absolutely NO evidence that equal (but perhaps different) graces are not given to a woman.
OK. So if I understand you accept the husband is the head of the household. But you deny he is given special graces necessary for this role? If so this also would be at odds with the Faith.
Both husband and wife are given graces to help them maintain their marriage. Both are given graces to raise their children. This grace of parents is an example of grace given to authority. But you think for some reason a grace is not offered to the role of head of the household.
Why the special exception where God doesn’t give grace for a position? In a quest for radical equality you are actually, no doubt inadvertently, lessening the goodness of God.