I’m not sure I was always quite as well behaved but I completely agree.My ideal dating for that age and even now is friends only. No physical affection that you wouldn’t do with one of your guy buddies. If and when you both realize there may be more, you can talk about what you would both like to do in terms of becoming a couple. Plan things publicly to avoid temptation and/or go on double dates. Treat her kindly, respect her body and stay chaste
Almost had to wipe my screen! Funny!
I’m sad to say you display way more maturity then many of the guys I’ve dated and most of them are twice your age. Good for you. Too bad you way to young for me but I greatly admire someone who knows what they want and isn’t afraid to say it. You won’t have much trouble finding a girl. Just don’t throw marriage in the mix just yet. Just say you want to court with the understanding of having a serious relationship. If you mention marriage at your age you might scare her off. Best of luck.
Good attitude!
Well, dating can also be used to gain yourself a reputation as a gentleman and a mensch, the sort of fellow that someone has just got to marry before a lesser woman grabs him. When a woman finds a very nice guy she does not see herself marrying, she has been known to find a friend to set up with him. If a woman you think a lot of “friend zones” you, by all means don’t feel bashful about asking her to keep an eye out for you. Don’t think she won’t, either. Decent fellows are not easy to find, and decent women can be shy about going out to look for them. Both tend to like someone who “comes with papers”–that is, who has been vetted by their friends as someone with some character.
It can also just be an opportunity to practice social niceties–being a good host, thinking of one’s guest’s comfort, polishing one’s small talk, practicing taking an interest in others and asking good questions without being intrusive or inquisitive, learning to be a good judge of character, speaking up for oneself as needed, etc.Well, dating can also be used to gain yourself a reputation as a gentleman and a mensch, the sort of fellow that someone has just got to marry before a lesser woman grabs him. When a woman finds a very nice guy she does not see herself marrying, she has been known to find a friend to set up with him. If a woman you think a lot of “friend zones” you, by all means don’t feel bashful about asking her to keep an eye out for you. Don’t think she won’t, either. Decent fellows are not easy to find, and decent women can be shy about going out to look for them. Both tend to like someone who “comes with papers”–that is, who has been vetted by their friends as someone with some character.
This works the other direction, too, although for some reason guys have been known to get protective of women they think are superior marriage prospects, but just not for them. They start acting like your brother, and don’t think anyone is good enough for you, LOL! Women are a bit more likey to see their friends as someone they’d happily hang on another friend as his wife!
That is exactly why I don’t stress over being single.
Good!That is exactly why I don’t stress over being single.
Exactly. It also gives people without brothers or sisters some experience with the variety of thinking and acting that is to be found in the opposite sex. An adult, even someone destined for Holy Orders or religious profession or vowed virginity, should have had a chance to have some one-on-one conversations with members of the opposite sex. It doesn’t have to be on a date, but the opportunity to talk to adults of the opposite sex ought to be among our experiences when we reach adulthood, if we’re going to understand other people in more than a one-dimensional way.