Dating and Scandal

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When my wife and I were dating people would assume we lived together partially because it’s expected, partly because I’d accompany her home every evening after her late shift.
In reality, we lived separately and I went home with her to make sure she got home safely. I then would cycle the four miles or so back to my parents. If anyone asked I just made it clear what was really happening. In the end I think people were impressed with our commitment to abstain/not live together before marriage.
 
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Who would ever get married if they had to stop dating after a month because it might make others think that they are having sex? I think a little common sense goes a long way in regard to your question.
 
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Same here. I drive 50 miles to see my girlfriend every weekend and people always assume I spend the night out there. Im a knight of columbus and a couple of the other members thought that me and my girlfriend were living together. I have no idea why, I can only conclude that they came to that conclusion because that is what is the “norm” these days. I am not breaking up with my girl because others have their mind in the gutter!
 
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Xantippe said:
Honestly I think the assumption of sin is so strong that a devoutly Catholic couple who are dating should at the very least be aware of the issue and not give rise to the assumption that they are not completely chaste.

What are you supposed to do–walk around with matching t-shirts that say, “WE ARE TOTALLY NOT FORNICATING”?
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One of the most bizarre thing I´ve ever seen were shirts from an evangelical german website with slogans like this 😂
 
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One of the most bizarre thing I´ve ever seen were shirts from an evangelical german website with slogans like this 😂
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OH MY!

I recently saw a male American college student wearing an anti-porn t-shirt with the text something like, “You can’t click love.”

I appreciate the sentiment, but AWKWARD.
 
Paul71 said:
However, I think that there are specific ways that someone could cause scandal to others in a dating relationship. I believe that any of the following could potentially be a source of scandal:

Staying overnight with your date in the same hotel room (even if you remain chaste and sleep in separate beds)
Having your date stay overnight at your apartment (even if he or she sleeps on the couch)
Staying overnight at your date’s apartment (same as above about sleeping on the couch)
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Well, at least, it´s a matter of possibilities. When my husband and me got steady, I lived in a 9 qm student appartment. This was my only personal space for years - the kitchen was full of noisy other studnets and my office was like a gossip market place of our institute 😃
We were hundreds of people from different religous and ethnic backgrounds. I didn´t care for anyone´s view, I simply hadn´t much choice. The last bus drived at 7 pm for my husband, and I worked until 6. So, he spent some nights there, and it was really not a unbearable thing for us.
 
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Xantippe said:
One of the most bizarre thing I´ve ever seen were shirts from an evangelical german website with slogans like this 😂

OH MY!

I recently saw a male American college student wearing an anti-porn t-shirt with the text something like, “You can’t click love.”

I appreciate the sentiment, but AWKWARD.
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It´s like the St. George shirt on a, well, comic and nerdy styled student and the shirt with “God created adam and eve, not adam and steve”. 😂
 
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