Dating in today's world

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And what would you do with those of who haven’t removed ourselves from the pool, but who have been taken out by the men not wanting us – throw us in the trash can? 🙂

OK, where do I find good Catholic men, age 50s or 60s, eligible-to-marry in the Church, looking for a lady their own age, and not concerned with physical beauty? 😃
I knew one. My dad but he already got remarried. There’s good men out there it’s just hard to find them. 😊 :rolleyes:
 
I have a single brother in NC… He is 6’4" and 35 (I think)yo. Any takers? He is a really nice guy and he is frustrated looking for a wife. Major in the Army… anyone???
 
I have a single brother in NC… He is 6’4" and 35 (I think)yo. Any takers? He is a really nice guy and he is frustrated looking for a wife. Major in the Army… anyone???
Oooooo… I really would like to find a nice, Catholic guy for my younger sister. She’s 25, cute, a wonderful heart, great sense of humour and animates cartoons for a living. Believes in chastity before marriage and is having a hard time finding someone as well… although I’m trying to get her back into attending mass again. I always think finding the right guy for her will get her inspired again. Well, she probably won’t be the kind of girl your brother is looking forward, but if anyone knows someone who is up to the challenge, I promise you, she’s a wonderful catch - and it’s not just because she’s my sis.
 
Oooooo… I really would like to find a nice, Catholic guy for my younger sister. She’s 25, cute, a wonderful heart, great sense of humour and animates cartoons for a living. Believes in chastity before marriage and is having a hard time finding someone as well… although I’m trying to get her back into attending mass again. I always think finding the right guy for her will get her inspired again. Well, she probably won’t be the kind of girl your brother is looking forward, but if anyone knows someone who is up to the challenge, I promise you, she’s a wonderful catch - and it’s not just because she’s my sis.
Actually, he is a DC Comics fan… last movie he saw was Transformers… He once operated a sweat shop consisting of all his nieces and nephews to make a bouquet of flowers for a girl in Afghanistan since he couldn’t send fresh… he makes fudge and cookies… I know last year he made Thanksgiving dinner himself complete with pies and stuffing… all the trimmings…

Whatcha think??? should we???
 
Actually, he is a DC Comics fan… last movie he saw was Transformers… He once operated a sweat shop consisting of all his nieces and nephews to make a bouquet of flowers for a girl in Afghanistan since he couldn’t send fresh… he makes fudge and cookies… I know last year he made Thanksgiving dinner himself complete with pies and stuffing… all the trimmings…

Whatcha think??? should we???
hmmm… maybe they would get along really well. What’s so funny, too, is that the last movie she saw was “Transformers” and she used to work in a comic book place while in college. (She was a tomboy growing up.) She’s also not a cook, so that would compliment pretty well since he apparently does. Basically, as many of her friends have told her, she’s every guy’s real dream girl - down-to-earth, funny, sweet, girl who’s very low maintenance and likes cartoons and playing video games.

Your brother sounds like a wonderful catch as well, with a big heart. How beautiful of him to make those flowers for the Afghan girl!!!

Only problem is the distance. She lives in New Jersey and I think you said that he lives in North Carolina. But wouldn’t it be really cool if we could try to make a successful match right here on CAF? 😃
 
hmmm… maybe they would get along really well. What’s so funny, too, is that the last movie she saw was “Transformers” and she used to work in a comic book place while in college. (She was a tomboy growing up.) She’s also not a cook, so that would compliment pretty well since he apparently does. Basically, as many of her friends have told her, she’s every guy’s real dream girl - down-to-earth, funny, sweet, girl who’s very low maintenance and likes cartoons and playing video games.

Your brother sounds like a wonderful catch as well, with a big heart. How beautiful of him to make those flowers for the Afghan girl!!!

Only problem is the distance. She lives in New Jersey and I think you said that he lives in North Carolina. But wouldn’t it be really cool if we could try to make a successful match right here on CAF? 😃
This might be the beginning of something beautiful here 👍
Courting…CAF style :cool:
 
Only problem is the distance. She lives in New Jersey and I think you said that he lives in North Carolina.
Love can conquer distances…and can sometimes actually help a couple know if they are right for each other because there are sacrifices involved. That was one way I knew my husband was the one…😃

And by the way, I think the matchmaking is too cute…😛
 
Only problem is the distance. She lives in New Jersey and I think you said that he lives in North Carolina. But wouldn’t it be really cool if we could try to make a successful match right here on CAF? 😃
Ahhh but his family (except me) lives in PA and he visits often… Not to mention he went from GA to MD to see a girl once… and she blew him off!!!:mad:

So a year later she emails him… and he held a contest to write a response to her email complete with prizes!!! It was hilarious!!!
 
I have a single brother in NC… He is 6’4" and 35 (I think)yo. Any takers? He is a really nice guy and he is frustrated looking for a wife. Major in the Army… anyone???
Sure thing if he doesn’t mind a slightly older woman…only a couple of years his senior :eek: 😃 😉 😉
 
Ahhh but his family (except me) lives in PA and he visits often… Not to mention he went from GA to MD to see a girl once… and she blew him off!!!:mad:

So a year later she emails him… and he held a contest to write a response to her email complete with prizes!!! It was hilarious!!!
Ok… so that I don’t further derail this thread, I’m going to pm you.

That’s hilarious about the email response!!! Who won?
 
Here is how I handle this battle. I discus the topic upfront with my dates. Anyone worthy is going to respect your beliefs and views and want the best for you spiritually. I have found few that have scoffed at me and if they did, it was best they were eliminated from MY dating pool ASAP.

If they do scoff, shake that dust quickly and move on.
 
I just recently married a wonderful gal I met on this forum and I wasn’t even looking for a date, let alone marriage.
And a big congrats if your wife is my dear friend from MN. Hugs to both of you. Man, did you snag a great one.
 
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Oh goody! Matchmaking! Tell us if it works! I want to watch this little match between the cartoon people.! 👍
 
I am so glad I don’t have to muddle through this muck… “Dating” in today’s society where nobody knows who/what/where they are, or even if they do… Can’t SAY SO for fear of “offending” someone… what a crock… you have my sympathy…

I really can’t speak authoritively on the subject (been “hitched” nearly 20 years), but I can relate to many a late-night phone call from my buddies (all of us now 40-somethings)… I was the 1st of the “4 Musketeers” to get married (at 24)… the next married at 34, and 2 still single…

Where did you find your wife??
How did you “know”??
Every gal I date is “Psycho”…!
Every gal I meet has 2 kids, and a psycho “Ex”!
Every gal I meet is hocked to her eyeballs, and wants my money!
Every gal I meet wants to change me!
Every gal I meet wants to get married next week!

IMO you have to “date” long enough with someone to have your relationship develop into “courtship”. It may be 2 months, 6 months, a year… Guys of your age are pretty settled into single life - not saying they don’t want a wife/family - but their timeclocks/schedules run on a different rate. They have established careers, accountable debt, (hopefully) assets, and have fallen into a set way of doing things.

But I can guarantee that a good/true man isn’t complete or doesn’t desire the comfort & stability that a good woman & a family can give him.

I’ll 2nd “jrabs”… after a few dates, and you’re reasonably comfortable together have a “sit down”… simply explain that you’re looking for a companion, someone to settle down with… not a good buddy to go to a show, or see a movie with…
The next 3 minutes will tell you your future.

(One of the “4” recently related to me his 3rd date was a backyard picnic (for a sibling occasion, but with subversive tactics) and he could “meet the family”…They get there and it’s nearly an engagement party! "Hi, this is Fred my boyfriend… and this is Uncle Tom, Aunt Mary, Cousin Jim, Gramma Tessie, there’s Mom, Dad’s over there, this is my little sister… then come the looks & insinuation… "So, when you gonna “pop the question?”… (as Fred puts on his cleats to make a getaway)…

“Fred” didn’t think the relationship had progressed to this point… “Susie” did. They didn’t talk about this… As far as “Fred” was conserned they were still in the “dating” phase. Needless to say “Susie” is looking for another “Fred” now… and I’m losing sleep from late-night phone calls.

Be honest, and make your intentions about your future known.
 
Oww dear. Third date and boyfriend? That’s some special nomenclature. And “popping the question” talk. I’d be like, “Well, sir, I’m going to pop the question when I’m sure I’ve found the right bride.” 😛 Upon which I’d be so beloved by everyone, I’m sure. 😛 Well, sounds like a daring girl with some wit. I sort of see why he played along. 😛
 
Boy, can I relate AZgirl. I am finally coming to the conclusion that I have to get my mind on it and be happy instead of being miserable all the time. I do believe I am called to be married but I feel like I am caught in a trap I can never be freed of.

There do not seem to be nice men who respect women in my generation. If I mention that to older people they think that I am nuts and I feel they don’t understand my generation and how crude and foul-mouthed men my age can be. Deep down, I think church-going Catholic men are not ever going to be interested in me becuase they have higher moral standards than the population at large and most people I feel would believe I have bad morals becuase I do not have a professional job. No, I don’t work as a stripper or anything immoral like that-I work in a nursing home but most Catholic conservative men want a women with a professional career. Even if they say different, they all seem to want a professional girl. I have posted about this before but have never gotten an answer. Maybe there is no answer.

So I am trapped and can never be freed. Maybe I have to just work on my own goals-I am living with my parents and would like my own apartment, I would like to get contact lenses to feel better about my appearance etc. I am Catholic and in my heart I believe what the Church teaches but I don’t belong in the Church.
 
Hey chatterbox,

I’m a young Catholic guy, and I don’t think Catholic men would reject you because you don’t have a professional job. Honestly, I think the most conservative Catholic men want a lady WITHOUT a professional job, because she would be more willing to stay home and raise the kids.

I think you’re misinterpreting the preferences of these guys. Just be yourself and don’t let anyone tell you what kind of person you should be. Do what you want to do, not what other people think you should be doing.
Deep down, I think church-going Catholic men are not ever going to be interested in me becuase they have higher moral standards than the population at large and most people I feel would believe I have bad morals becuase I do not have a professional job. No, I don’t work as a stripper or anything immoral like that-I work in a nursing home but most Catholic conservative men want a women with a professional career. Even if they say different, they all seem to want a professional girl. I have posted about this before but have never gotten an answer. Maybe there is no answer.
 
Hey chatterbox,

I’m a young Catholic guy, and I don’t think Catholic men would reject you because you don’t have a professional job. Honestly, I think the most conservative Catholic men want a lady WITHOUT a professional job, because she would be more willing to stay home and raise the kids.

I think you’re misinterpreting the preferences of these guys. Just be yourself and don’t let anyone tell you what kind of person you should be. Do what you want to do, not what other people think you should be doing.
Ack, I am ranting becuase I am unhappy and that is not fair. Yes, to some extent that seems like that would be true-that conservative man would want a stay-at-home Mom but in reality I don’t think it works out that way. Right now I am a working girl and I think if I told a conservative Catholic anything about my life he would not be able to relate.
He could not relate if I started telling stories about my job. I have kind of a sarcastic sense of humor I have picked up at work and at work we all joke around that way but someone who is not used to it might take offense.He probably has different taste in music. He probably would have different interests. (Actually, I have almost no interests outside of work and it would probavbly be good for me to have fun but I would not know how to have fun in a moral way. Not that I have any immoral fun-I have no fun). Catholic men may say they want a women without a professional career but the truth is I can’t see them coming to eat dinner with me in my work cafeteria. That would probably not be a fun date for him.
Sorry to attack you. You are a nice guy, I am sure.
 
Oh, just so you know, some of that was my harsh and sarcastic sense of humor. I understand eating in the nursing home cafeteria would not be a fun date. I am just angry and frustrated.
 
Right now I am a working girl and I think if I told a conservative Catholic anything about my life he would not be able to relate.
He could not relate if I started telling stories about my job. I have kind of a sarcastic sense of humor I have picked up at work and at work we all joke around that way but someone who is not used to it might take offense.
Chatterbox,

You work in the health care industry at a nursing home, correct? Well, I’ve married someone who is like a complete opposite to my career (i’m a nurse) but it’s working out fine. He’s a great conservative Catholic and I couldn’t be happier.

My husband is a computer geek and can’t really relate to my job, but he does listen to me vent about it to him so it’s ok and I know what you are saying about the kind of humor you have (we all have it in the medical field, we need it to get by…goodness, if people outside the medical field heard some of the jokes I cracked :rolleyes:) and my husband sometimes doesn’t understand the humor either, but he will listen to my jokes…sometimes he gets it, sometimes not…and yes, he thinks some of my jokes are borderline offensive, but if he worked in this field, he’d be making them too.

BTW, I think that’s why people in the medical field have the sense of camaraderie that they do…usually they can only share their stories and humor with other people they work with, not with people at home. But enough of going off the subject…

I feel for all of you going through this dating “game”…I hated it when I was looking for my husband and would never go back! I finally found my hubby on avemariasingles.com…no good men around where I live! Everyone here is a blue-collar, die-hard liberal…just wasn’t working for me…:mad:
 
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