I know it’s rare that bipolar can be well-controlled, but in my experience, those who have controlled it are not essentially distinguishable from the normal populace. So while some may feel that they have to walk on eggshells, this is not true for all cases of bipolar, especially that which responds well to medication and other therapy.My wife is bipolar, among other things. My take, based on my own experience, would be this: If you are not absolutely sure that you are called to be in a relationship where you have to walk on eggshells a lot of the time, then you should end this relationship and seek one with a more “neurotypical” partner.
This is a guy. He said he was on medication. As to children I’d be surprised as I’m 43 but who knows stranger things have happened. He said he had an episode and was hospitalized a few years ago this is what concerns me. I respect him though for being straight up about it. I just don’t know what to do with this information. I felt something was off but couldn’t pin it down to anything but from what I’ve read it sort of fits a little. He seemed really laid back for the most part but there were a few things like his still living at home at his age and having had a lot of jobs. He’s been at his last one for awhile but had to take a demotion. And he mentioned a few times how people had an issue with him. Like a choir director and a board member when he was teaching. I will pray over all this thanks for the response.Bipolar is a large spectrum, so I’d say it depends on the individual and how they are managing their condition. Talk to them about it. In terms of marriage, if the individual is female, most drugs for bipolar are harmful to babies so they’d have to be discontinued for a pregnancy, which may not be psychologically possible for some people.
Sorry to hear that prayers for you wife and family. My family has gone through Alzheimer’s as well.For the record, my wife’s BP disorder is pretty well controlled by medications, although it is complicated by Asperger’s and the possible onset of Alzheimer’s.
Prayers for your discernment. Seems like quite a few red flags of being able to function alone though: living at home, lots of jobs, demotion, and interpersonal issues.This is a guy. He said he was on medication. As to children I’d be surprised as I’m 43 but who knows stranger things have happened. He said he had an episode and was hospitalized a few years ago this is what concerns me. I respect him though for being straight up about it. I just don’t know what to do with this information. I felt something was off but couldn’t pin it down to anything but from what I’ve read it sort of fits a little. He seemed really laid back for the most part but there were a few things like his still living at home at his age and having had a lot of jobs. He’s been at his last one for awhile but had to take a demotion. And he mentioned a few times how people had an issue with him. Like a choir director and a board member when he was teaching. I will pray over all this thanks for the response.
I’m still not sure how to react. It’s not something I’'ve dealt with. I do have ADHD and Anxiety issues tied to that but deal with it through diet and exercise. Bipolar seems to be on a whole other level. In any case for the moment I’ll read what can and educate myself on the this issue before making any decision. Thanks for the response. He seems to be controlling his disorder but I do need to discuss it with him. At the time I was just floored and when I don’t know how to react I’ve found it better to think over things before reacting.If their condition is controlled with medications you wouldn’t even know they have a problem. They have to mindful of their diagnosis, take care of their self, get enough sleep, take their meds, eat right, maybe exercise–hey, it’s good health habits we all need to be practicing. I wouldn’t ditch someone just because they’re bipolar, at least they were honest with you. From my own experience I’ve found that the people who are aware that they have a problem and are being treated for it are much better off than the ones that have a problem but think it’s everyone else’s fault. Those are the ones you need to watch out for. Give it a chance and get to know him as a person, not as a label and then if he’s unstable you can end it. Maybe he’ll turn out just fine and be the love of your life. Most of the bipolar people I’ve known have been very intelligent, creative, and fun.
Yes those do have me worried.Prayers for your discernment. Seems like quite a few red flags of being able to function alone though: living at home, lots of jobs, demotion, and interpersonal issues.
Mary.
Sad to hear about your relative’s issue. I also have a relative with Skizofrenia who’s issue sounds similar.Depends on the particular person and their level of severity. When a bipolar person falls in life, they can much more easily end up in an endless cycle of depression and anxiety that they never dig themselves out of it. The reason being that they might start to build themselves up, but then they hit an episode, and it just shatters to the ground, and each time it shatters their confidence is ripped further down. If they stay social and engaged then they stay alive. Fortunately, modern medicine, while not a silver bullet solution, can be a great help in mitigating this condition. I have an atheist cousin who is bipolar and the loneliness, despair, and warped reality of his life is like meeting a person that has entered Hell. You can tell within 5 seconds that something is wrong with him. He’s so heavily removed from socializing that on the rare occasions I’ve met him, he can’t form sentences properly and he’s constantly trying overly hard to use big words to make himself sound intelligent, which more often than not makes him stutter a lot and he ends up trying to use lots of analogies in his speech that don’t actually entirely make sense. He won’t take medicine, I believe because his pride has reached almost incurable levels of depravity. The man is loathsome and scary and I honestly wouldn’t be surprised if he either killed himself or somebody else.
On the positive end, other people keep it under the control, and the condition has been known to inspire creativity and some bipolar people are very interesting to be around. Personally, I’m not sure if I could bring myself to date even a mildly bipolar person, but that’s because my personal experiences have freaked me out.
Run…Can they marry in the church and have a viable relationship? I’m dating someone who just told me they have this. I respect them for being honest about it but from what I’ve read I’m not it’s a good idea to date someone with this issue. Does anyone have some experience with this? I really don’t know anything about it. I’m still kind of floored by all this and not sure how to react.
Someone I know is manic depressive is married in the Church and is the mother of two children.Can they marry in the church and have a viable relationship? I’m dating someone who just told me they have this. I respect them for being honest about it but from what I’ve read I’m not it’s a good idea to date someone with this issue. Does anyone have some experience with this? I really don’t know anything about it. I’m still kind of floored by all this and not sure how to react.