DayCare vs Split SHifts vs Stay at Home

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riverman:
I may sound hipicritical here but here it goes anyway. … All the kids pray befre meals and go to Mass with us if they are there during School Mass or on Sun. For many of the kids, the only Church they know is the Catholic Church. They all do the sign of the cross and practice our faith since thier parents don’t activly participate in Church. Not all daycare is bad! God has called my wife to provide this to these “lost” children
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I don’t think it’s hipicritical. God uses us where He needs us. I don’t believe in class room style teaching, yet I teach a 2nd year Catechist class to teenagers. Everytime I want to quit, one of the kids will say something to remind me that I may be their only source of Orthodox training. God bless you and your wife for taking care of other people’s children. I truly don’t like babysitting so when my husband asked me to consider opening a day care to help make ends meet, I flatout refused. I love kids (I have 5), I just don’t like babysitting other people’s kids. God gave you a special wife. Many blessings.
 
I am blessed to have a job that allows my wife to stay at home with our kids. That is really the best scenario. I do realize that some people can’t do that, but if I were you, I’d seriously sit down and look at what lifestyle changes you could make in order to get it to where your wife can stay at home.
 
I am blessed to have a job that allows my wife to stay at home with our kids. That is really the best scenario It’s the best scenario for your family.
 
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pnewton:
Sin is not something that is grave, venial or no sin at all based on opinion. That is why we use the term “objective grave sin.” For sin to be grave at all, it must have grave matter. Day care does not qualify. If know of someplace that defines daycare as grave, I am open to correction.

My wife and I work very opposite shifts. Upon looking at how much daycare is required, it turned out be about 12 hours a week average. I allow my wife to continue to work and support her in her decision with every diaper change.
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I have a difficult time thinking that putting one’s children in daycare is a grave sin too. Instead of blaming the parent who puts their child in daycare as sinning by doing that, I’d rather look at some of the underlying causes that often give parents little other choice. Such as lack of insurance in part-time jobs, lack of quality insurance in general, practically non-existent maternity leave, low paying positions especially in altruistic fields (like teaching and social work, which my husband and I are in) or in working class positions, lay-offs, housing costs, extensive working hour requirements, etc. etc.

My husband and I will do everything possible to ensure one of us is at home with our children the majority of the time, but we may not fully succeed at that. We’re praying about it, making sacrifices, and will look at altering work hours but it may not be 100% possible.

There are many women I’ve worked with who have placed their children in daycare not out of a desire to do so, but because they were a victim of domestic violence, had the courage to leave their abuser, and were now supporting themselves and their child as a single parent. Or there are many families I’ve worked with who simply could not get the hours they needed at the plant or factory to avoid childcare. They needed to work to provide for their family and one parent staying at home was not an option available to them. I would hope we as a Church would support them, not tell them they were making a grave sin.
 
My wife gets to stay at home wiht the kids. I barely make enough money to pay the bills and keep food in the fridge, but I couldn’t stand having anyone else raise our kids. We both feel that this is how God intends families to work, so we do everything we can think of to save money and cut excesses. And as an added bonus we are closer to eachother and God than we ever were when we both worked outside the home!
 
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