Dean McFalls, Stockton Priest, Fathers Child And Steps Down From Clergy

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I am always hearing people discuss the issue of priestly celibacy being done away with. Personally, I think it is a terrible idea. I don’t see how a priest could do all that he does and manage a wife and kids too. Not everyone is cut out to live a celibate life. The person discerning should make sure BEFORE ordination that they will be able to stick to that commitment. And what happens if the Church were to change the rules on celibacy? Married men could be ordained. But what about those already ordained? Would they be able to marry too? And even if they could, I think it would be like a slap in the face to all those men who gave up marriage and children to serve as priests. They sacrificed a lot and it would probably feel like it was for nothing. That’s just my take on it. I have discussed this issue with a priest who says no way could he have a wife and kids and do his job too!
 
I am always hearing people discuss the issue of priestly celibacy being done away with. Personally, I think it is a terrible idea. I don’t see how a priest could do all that he does and manage a wife and kids too. Not everyone is cut out to live a celibate life. The person discerning should make sure BEFORE ordination that they will be able to stick to that commitment. And what happens if the Church were to change the rules on celibacy? Married men could be ordained. But what about those already ordained? Would they be able to marry too? And even if they could, I think it would be like a slap in the face to all those men who gave up marriage and children to serve as priests. They sacrificed a lot and it would probably feel like it was for nothing. That’s just my take on it. I have discussed this issue with a priest who says no way could he have a wife and kids and do his job too!
Also, since this man was unable to remain faithful to his ordination promises, will he be able to remain faithful to a wife? (That is, if he intends to marry her). The virtue of fidelity is important to both vocations.
 
I am always hearing people discuss the issue of priestly celibacy being done away with. Personally, I think it is a terrible idea. I don’t see how a priest could do all that he does and manage a wife and kids too. Not everyone is cut out to live a celibate life. The person discerning should make sure BEFORE ordination that they will be able to stick to that commitment. And what happens if the Church were to change the rules on celibacy? Married men could be ordained. But what about those already ordained? Would they be able to marry too? And even if they could, I think it would be like a slap in the face to all those men who gave up marriage and children to serve as priests. They sacrificed a lot and it would probably feel like it was for nothing. That’s just my take on it. I have discussed this issue with a priest who says no way could he have a wife and kids and do his job too!
The Church has never permitted marriage after ordination. If a man is married, is ordained, and loses his wife (she dies), he is not allowed to remarry, for example.
 
The only “better way” there would have been is if the Priest had withheld himself from such actions. If he really wanted to get married and be a Dad, then he should have made that decision before he was ordained. Now, he has hurt many people and all respect for him is gone. If I were his child’s mother, I’d high tail it outta there, because he’s obviously not trustworthy.
 
It’s hard to be celibate. Most people are called to start families though. The majority of the current priesthood is celibate.
 
Which one of us will pick up the first stone? The priesthood must be one of the loneliest vocations. At least this priest was honourable in his response to his priesthood. Let us pray for him that he finds peace in his new situation.
 
The sexual drive is, in case no one has noticed, extremely strong in most people. I’m surprised there aren’t more cases like this.

The only way to avoid this problem would be to ordain only asexual people. But then, we wouldn’t have very many priests.

Priests need our prayers.
 
A sad situation.
I really don’t know whether priestly celibacy is a good or a bad thing. I’ve even heard priests themselves with different ideas. The letter he read to his parish was poignant–at least he’s taking responsibility for the baby and made sure it would live, not be aborted. Having said that–the baby didn’t just happen. The priest put himself into a place where he was tempted and when tempted, he kept coming back to the source of his temptation–and I always wonder about the mindset of the woman involved in these kinds of things–was she a Catholic? Either way, we need to pray for all of them and leave it to God to judge.
 
Which one of us will pick up the first stone? The priesthood must be one of the loneliest vocations. At least this priest was honourable in his response to his priesthood. Let us pray for him that he finds peace in his new situation.
This is my sentiment also. He made a mistake, he will be forgiven, God has infinite love for him. If he goes through real and authentic repentance on this matter God will heal him and he will be a stronger Christian on the other side of this. Where sin exists, grace is even more abundant.
 
A sad situation.
I really don’t know whether priestly celibacy is a good or a bad thing. I’ve even heard priests themselves with different ideas. The letter he read to his parish was poignant–at least he’s taking responsibility for the baby and made sure it would live, not be aborted. Having said that–the baby didn’t just happen. The priest put himself into a place where he was tempted and when tempted, he kept coming back to the source of his temptation–and I always wonder about the mindset of the woman involved in these kinds of things–was she a Catholic? Either way, we need to pray for all of them and leave it to God to judge.
Well remember it wasn’t always that way. And the church lets Episcopals that become catholic be priests if I’m correct and they are married. How’s that working out and how did things work out when the priests were married? The bible simply says I believe a Bishop is to be the husband of one wife. No divorce.
 
From the CATECHISM OF THE CATHOLIC CHURCH
SECOND EDITION

983 Priests have received from God a power that he has given neither to angels nor to archangels . . . . God above confirms what priests do here below.53

Does God confirm everything that priests do here below? Well, that’s what it says!
 
Well remember it wasn’t always that way. And the church lets Episcopals that become catholic be priests if I’m correct and they are married. How’s that working out and how did things work out when the priests were married? The bible simply says I believe a Bishop is to be the husband of one wife. No divorce.
No–it wasn’t always that way–though in this case the priest chose to take a vow of chastity as part of becoming a priest today–and I’m pretty sure he knew what the vow meant. Plus–he isn’t pretending to be married to the mother of the child either–is he? Maybe one day he will be–maybe not–but unmarried sex is considered to be fornication–even without the whole priest-thing being involved. And as a Catholic, we all hope that our priests won’t cause scandal–as the whole world–including things like the Huff Post which printed the article are just waiting out there like hungry lions to paint the Catholic church in an unfavorable light. Having said that, I agree with the poster who stated that “Let him without sin cast the first stone.” I sure won’t be throwing any rocks his way I assure you. I just think we should all pray for him and the baby–and the woman. It’s a sad situation all around.
 
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