Dear scrupulous person

[porthos11]

I had a Priest friend of mine describe the sort of person you’re alluding to here. It is the sort who, when driving around at night, happens to drive over a pot hole, but who comes to Confession in utter terror that they’ve run someone over, despite getting out of their car and checking, despite all evidence pointing to the contrary. It is the sort who insists that utterly mundane things, like not turning off a light if they’re not in a room, like not looking up and down the street four times before crossing, must be mortally sinful, even if they’re constantly told otherwise.

Your advice applies to that sort of person. But to mix up that sort of person with someone who’s asking perfectly natural questions that we all have to sort out is just not fitting.

Again, we will only determine that based on a pattern, and eventually, we can tell. Such posters exist here. In fact, you just replied to one on another thread earlier today.

 

[porthos11]

It is incredibly difficult to overcome. It is not stubborness. I know, I lived this torture for many years. It feels like hell. It is an illness. It ruined my life, killed my dreams.

If you’re doing this alone, then you will fail.

Where is your confessor?

No trusted confessor? Get one.

No one is called to a ruined life and killed dreams. Scrupulosity is not a cross to be joyfully embraced. It is a thorn to be utterly rejected and despised. No one, absolutely no one, is called to suffer scrupulosity.

 

[LiamQ]

Rarely have I seen a poster dubbed scrupulous on the basis of one post alone.

Fair enough.

 

[jaimeleglise]

If you’re doing this alone, then you will fail.

Where is your confessor?

No trusted confessor? Get one.

No one is called to a ruined life and killed dreams. Scrupulosity is not a cross to be joyfully embraced. It is a thorn to be utterly rejected and despised. No one, absolutely no one, is called to suffer scrupulosity.

I did see a priest for it. He did all he could but it was a still a nightmare. I lost a lot of good things because of it.

 

[DeniseNY]

Scrupulosity And How To Overcome It

catholicculture.org/culture/library/view.cfm?recnum=3739

 

[oldgraymare2]

I did see a priest for it. He did all he could but it was a still a nightmare. I lost a lot of good things because of it.

I am so sorry, Jaime. :hug1::imsorry:

 

[jaimeleglise]

Thank you Porthos and oldgraymare2. God bless you both.

 

[AKDee]

Thank you. I suffer from scrupulosity, although I think perhaps mild vs. some cases I see here. But I know I’m scrupulous. I confess weekly, and have been cautioned by my confessor to not be overly hard on myself. I will read the links you provided, and thank you.