Defend a spouse

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Would you protect and defend a spouse (or a sibling) who is wrong? Say, if they stole something or committed some other crime?
 
I wouldn’t protect or defend anyone who committed a crime. I may help them with legal aid, but I wouldn’t cover it up, lie about it or pretend it didn’t happen.
 
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In the US everyone is entitled to legal defense when charged with a crime. I would not lie or perjure myself for a friend/family member. I would make sure they had competent legal counsel and I would still love them and care about them.
 
My wife is rarely wrong and probably wouldn’t commit a crime. But if the unthinkable happened. Yep. I’d defend her. She is my ride or die. Now, if the tables were turned. I’d be turned in faster than you could say handcuffs! Lol.
 
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Would you protect and defend a spouse (or a sibling) who is wrong? Say, if they stole something or committed some other crime?
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That depends on what you mean by “protect and defend.” I would not pretend he did not do it. But I would ensure to the best of my ability that he was treated fairly by the courts and if he was ever held in jail or prison. I would not trash him to my children (but would be honest according to their age and ability to comprehend). I would not leave him unless his wrongdoing put my life or my children’s at risk.
 
I guess between sharing the truth or saying nothing to incriminate…
 
Nope. Not for a second. And I wouldn’t expect him to do it for me, either.
 
I’d protect them even beyond the law. To keep the mother of my children safe, to protect her from prison, and selfishly to keep my friend at my side. I’m the one person maybe besides her mother that will be at her side helping her through the problem. Of course there are exceptions, murdering the kids and such. But for most things. Your honor, she was in bed with me all night…
 
Wow. That really something.

What happened to thou shall not lie? It’s okay With God if it’s for your spouse?
 
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I guess between sharing the truth or saying nothing to incriminate…
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There are often legal rules about communication between spouses as evidence that don’t apply to communication between others. The specifics probably vary by jurisdiction.
 
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Well here’s the thing irishmom2,
Let’s say my beautiful mother of six bride committed a crime. Let’s say she had a felony amount of weed in her car. Now morally she committed a wrong, and in my state she legally committed a wrong as well. The law, would separate her from her family and imprison her for a length of time. Nevermind the legality if it 50 miles to my west…Destroying our family and livelihood. She is the sole breadwinner. Now let’s say I could provide an alibi or excuse that while untrue would prevent the law’s punishment. Would I do it! Heck yes I would. And anybody who says they wouldn’t should say so and show this thread to the spouse then try to snuggle up later tonight. See it’s so easy to say gee I would not tell a lie, God said so… it’s another when you must choose to back a law over your spouse. Even more so when you consider which country or regime is enforcing law. If a regime accused your spouse of being an illegal religion might you lie to spare her head? Since my spouse is an extension of me, my instinct of self preservation extends to her. And she and I can reconcile with God as needed.
 
It is like anything else, depends on the situation.
If my spouse’s crime was stealing bread to feed his family, hiding a priest in the attic during a time when Catholicism was outlawed, or running guns for a rebellion against British rule in US or Ireland, you bet I’d help him.
If he were abusing children or stealing the Crown Jewels, then no I would not help him.
Why do you ask the question?
 
That’s really interesting!

If my spouse had weed I would definitely not report it. If he was caught though, I wouldn’t lie. I would not want him to lie for me. I’d actually loose some respect for him if he lied for me in a similar situation. And I know if I showed him this thread he’d expect nothing else from me anyway so I don’t think it would affect my cuddle chances 😜

If my spouse confessed rape or murder to me and refused to come forward, I would definitely rat him out to the police.

I don’t have kids, but I don’t think that would affect my decision. It would make it more painful though for sure.
 
It’s kind of an unspoken agreement but there are definitely things I would take to the grave for him…without question.
 
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