My inquiry is, do you think it’s ok to be the DD, when you know everyone else is gonna get anywhere from drunk to wasted.
Yes, I think it’s okay. It’s been years & is still difficult for me to think about (let alone talk or write about) but I’ll share with you & the others here.
When I was in my early 20s, a group of close friends attended the annual 4th of July bash given by the family of one of our other friends. It was a huge party, held at a mountaintop home overlooking the city. We went every year. It was
the party to attend.
That afternoon, my folks were having a family barbecue, so my best friend stopped by with her boyfriend & two other buddies. When it was time to leave for the big night time bash, I decided to stay behind. She got into the passenger seat of her boyfriend’s car & waved goodbye.
Later that evening, at the mountaintop party, her boyfriend got drunk. After leaving, he drove (estimated 80+ mph) with the headlights off. His car crashed into a concrete bridge abutment. Life Flight was called. Everyone but my best friend had to be cut out from the wreckage. It was determined that she had been killed instantly. Her boyfriend survived, with a shattered arm (13 places) & wired jaw. The girl in the back seat lived, but her ear was cut off & leg crushed. Her date became a quadriplegic.
In other words, are you an accessory to their actions?
I’m glad you’re thinking about this now. I didn’t back then. There wasn’t so much “awareness”. People didn’t really talk about these issues. No such thing as a DD. And even if there were, my friends & I, well… we sort of felt invincible. Would have figured it could never happen to us.
When I think back on that night, the days, weeks & months of indescribable sadness that followed, I often wonder~
What if I had not decided to stay behind?
Maybe, instead of her boyfriend, I would have been able to drive. She would have lived. None of them would have been hurt.
Or maybe (as was often the case) I would have shared the front seat with her. My boyfriend would have been in the back seat, with the other two.
I lived. My beautiful best friend died.I will always love her & will never forget her.
people who get drunk often will do it whether or not your with them, so you might as well keep em off the road.
Indeed… but please be careful, and as annie said, choose wisely. That’s all I can say.
