You aren’t open to life having sex while you are infertile, either.
The Church’s stance on abstinence and sterility is hypocritical. There are only two stances that one can have that are NOT hypocritical:
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Wow, I can’t believe how many theological errors are in a single post.
The Chuch’s stand is entirely consistent if you understand the theology behind marriage and sex within marriage.
Each marital act must be both unitive and ordered to procreation.
- Having sex with virtually no chance of conception is OK. In this case, having sex during infertile times, wearing a condom, and getting a vasectomy are all perfectly morally acceptable.
These three things are not morally equivalent. Sex during infertile times is both unitive and ordered to procreation. Wearing a condom is not. Getting a vasectomy is a different sin entirely.
- Having sex with virtually no chance of conception is not OK. In this case, the only possible times you should have sex are when you are fertile, and cannot use condoms or get a vasectomy.
No, again. Having marital relations at times when you are not fertile is still ordered to procreation. Using a condom is not. Getting a vasectomy is a sin unto itself.
There is no logical explanation for the Church’s moral teachings on condoms and vasectomies. It seems like they made up their mind, and made up an explanation to fit their already formed moral beliefs which is sketchy at best.
It also seems like you made up your own definition of what the Church teaches and then formed your opposition to it based on your own twisted interpretation.
If God wants you to have a baby when you re not fertile, you will have one. if God wants you to have a baby when you are not fertile, and your husband has had a vasectomy, is wearing a condom, and you have had a tubal ligation and are using a spermicidal diaphragm, you will have a baby. God made a virgin pregnant, do you really think a vasectomy can stop Him?
What does that have to do with anything being discussed here? The question is not God’s power. The question is whether the man and wife cooperate with God’s grace.
The only sin your husband committed, in my opinion, is not discussing it with you.
Yes, that was a sin but certainly not the only one.
This was a violation of you trust. Since your marriage, your bodies became one, and therefore both should be consulted on any medical procedures for either.
I wouldn’t consult my husband regarding medical procedures. That doesn’t even make sense.
What if something had happened during surgery, and he never got to tell you good-bye?
That has nothing to do with the morality of the surgery. You could say the same thing about driving. Do you think I need my husband’s (name removed by moderator)ut before I get into my car since I could get into an accident and never get to tell him goodbye?
I am considering a vasectomy myself, and am discussing the matter with my wife.
Good. Hopefully you are also discussing it with a good spiritual director and a doctor who understands the Church’s position.
Whether or not you believe a vasectomy is a sin is up to you (but please have a better reason than the lousy sham of an excuse the Church uses).
But tell your husband, from one practicing Catholic who is morally OK with a vasectomy to another, that he was completely wrong in doing this behind your back
On this we agree.
