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Gorgias
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‘Revenge’ isn’t justice. The two are distinct.Psychologically, it is very difficult to extract desire for revenge from desire to punish wrongdoing. Both come from innate human desire for justice. We call it “revenge” when it appears to an observer as unfair or unjustified, but even a judge in a U.S. court of law can carry out what in the mind is essentially revenge. The death penalty, for example, comes from desire for justice, but it is also vengeful. All of it comes from desire for payment.
I admit that some view the death penalty as “revenge”, but that’s not what the law is attempting. Rather, it’s an acknowledgement that the criminal cannot be prevented from committing future acts of capital offense, and therefore, the imposition of the death penalty is actually an attempt preemptively to ‘save’ innocents from harm. (At least, that’s the traditional expression of the ‘morality’ of the death penalty. Under Pope Francis, it seems, YMMV.)
In any case, the death penalty doesn’t “extract payment”, even if that’s a common sentiment among victims’ families.
I don’t find it useful. In fact, I find it counter-productive. For example, it gives rise to the kinds of misunderstandings you’ve been arguing for, in this thread.However, believing that God punishes is a projection, even when it is a useful projection.
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Let’s discuss the ‘harm’ then. How would you frame it up?Would you treat your own children this way? Harm them in this way?
No. But it’s still not ‘forgiveness’ until accepted.In your experience, have you forgiven someone who has not accepted such forgiveness? If so, if the person has not accepted it, do you go back to holding a grudge?
In my experience, this is among the most misinterpreted verse in the Gospels. Most folks don’t even realize they’re misinterpreting it! It’s not that “someone has something against you, so go and seek their forgiveness”, it’s “you have something against them”! In other words, if you’re the one holding a grudge and keeping forgiveness from happening, then for the love of all that’s holy, stop refusing to forgive someone who wants to be forgiven! So, that doesn’t help your case here…25 And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.”
There is no mention of the person accepting your forgiveness.
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