No, I think this might have crept into the Liturgy through the 12 step traditions. Charismatics do hold hands sometimes in prayer meetings, and I have heard this practice encouraged from the Presider at many Novus Ordo Liturgies that are non-charismatic.
I think it would be more accurate to say that Charismatics believe there is a valid place for human emotion and enthusiasm in Catholic faith. I have noticed that people who abhor the Charismatic experience can be very emotionally repressed, and afraid of experiencing feelings.
This is a very warped perception of Charismatic experience. I grant that it may be yours, but it is not the focus of the movement, or those within it.
No, Charsimatic Catholics are more about living the Spirit filled life, unwrapping and using the gifts that were sealed in them at baptism. It may have nothing to do with tongues, which are considered the most common, and the “least” of all the charisms.
I have only been in the Renewal since 1979, and probably have not logged 1000 Charismatic Liturgies, but none of them has ever had “rock music”. Such a thing would be considered a gross liturgical abuse. If I found myself in one, I would leave.