There is no need or reason to defend the Church in regards to its stance on homosexuality
To an extent, there is.
For some, this is an hangup, and they want to know why the Church teaches what it does. It would be uncharitable to not explain it or point them towards helpful resources if we can’t. Personally, my initial interest in Catholicism came from accepting its teachings on sex, marriage, celibacy, contraception, etc. (Granted, those were for different reasons than often mentioned here.) Bear in mind, Jesus was as much a teacher as a miracle worker, and his teachings were as much acts of charity as His healings.
in all of Gods infinite love and mercy He would create Homosexuals
Unless I’m mistaken, the Church hasn’t established this. We know God makes people good and in His image, but we’re not sure where disabilities or disfigurements come from. Inclinations towards evil are a bit easier, since the Church has established the teaching of concupiscence, but when there are potentially biologically reasons for this that could be traced back to the womb, there’s no established teaching.
Does God actively make people like this, knowing that suffering is good?
Does God passively let these people succumb to such problems, again knowing that suffering is good?
Either way, we can assume that one reason God at least allows these things to happen is that suffering is good, but we aren’t sure of
how God let’s it happen.
to then have humanity and the church label it unnatural or a disorder, and a sin, versus those people who are born with physical or mental defects and not label that a sin
First of all, the Church does not teach that homosexuality is a sin. Feelings, temptations, and evil inclinations are not themselves sinful. The sin is the embrace of some evil, whether as an act or to deliberately entertainment sinful desires. This is why we don’t consider things like homosexuality, deafness, or psychosis to be sins. But if someone has sex with someone else of the same gender, gossips using sign language, or acts violently towards someone, then those are sins.
Second,
any sinful inclination is disordered. It’s not just same sex attraction. It’s also strong inclinations to masturbate, the drive to overeat, and even the desire to skip Mass on Sunday. The point is that they are not properly ordered to what God has called us to, hence “disordered”.
(And sorry to be blunt, but the fact that you made a really common error in presenting the Church’s teaching kind of undermines your statement that there’s no need to defend the Church’s teaching. Lies and misconceptions may not change Church teaching, but they do drive people away from the Church.)
If you’re going to accuse someone of a false comparison, you need to actually
show how the comparison is false. Otherwise, the accusation is meaningless and totally hinders discussion.