And in the second place, you are assuming a Protestant model for “choosing a Church.” In this model (not that all Protestants do this–I try not to, but I’m odd), one decides what one believes and then looks around for a church that fits those beliefs.
There might be a better way to say that or explain it because it doesn’t sound quite right, even though I think what you’re saying is correct.
The “Protestant model” (or relativist-modernist view) is to claim to oneself (subjectivism) that “I believe this” for whatever reason.
Then it’s a matter of trying to find a church that meets what we believe.
The better (Catholic?) way is to investigate the claims of various religions and then decide (with the help of God) which one is true and then adhere to that.
I think you’re right that Spiritmeadow is using the Protestant/relativist method.
She believes herself to be the ultimate authority on God’s revelation and she will not submit to the Church. This is what happens to dissenters – they only submit to their own judgement, not to an external authority.
For most dissenters that I know, there is never a situation for them where they will submit to a teaching simply because the authority of the Church has commanded it.
Every teaching is submitted to the tribunal of their own private judgement – which becomes the highest authority.
In the Catholic model, once the Church is understood as the true arbiter of God’s teaching – the believer will submit to the judgements of the Church (on divine matters) even if the teaching is not fully understood or “liked”.
So the difficulties of “obedience to authority” are often avoided by dissenters.
Christ told the lepers to “Go shew yourselves unto the priests” and they obeyed – simply because they believed He had the authority to command and heal.
On the way, they were healed – because they obeyed.
That’s what dissenters reject, essentially – the virtue of obedience to commands issued from the authority of the Church.