Speaking for myself, and knowing that the priest has already said before communion what the bishop has said, if the bishop has suggested it, and I’m in a state of grace, I see the following options as the possibilities which best befit an obedient Catholic:
- Receive in the hand.
- Refrain from receiving.
While one could theoretically approach the priest in line and indicate “please let me receive on the tongue’, this could present the appearance of disobedience even if it is not actually disobedient as virtually all statements in the US only ‘suggest’ COTH, and do not require it under pain of sin. But since it could APPEAR disobedient and since it would create upset among the priest and other parishioners, most Catholics would choose not to come up and try to ‘force the issue’.
So there remains either reception in a way which one normally does not choose as a preference in one’s personal relationship with Christ, or to sacrifice reception, making a spiritual communion, and offering up instead.
Since a lot of people get their knickers in a twist over the idea that preferring one option to another means that the preferred option is GOOD and the not preferred BAD, a lot of people may choose to receive in the hand in order to present the appearance that this reception is ‘just as good’ as COTT. That’s not necessarily a bad or wrong decision, either, depending on how strong one’s preference is.
As a matter of fact, when I received the Eucharist on Sunday, where my bishop had requested CITH and I normally receive on the tongue, I DID actually receive in the hand on that date, because I had been determining how I would handle this scenario, and I decided that while in the next few Sundays before Easter I would in fact refrain from receiving and ‘offer it up’, I wished to have the nourishment of the Eucharist to ‘start me off’ on this.
I think many people will do this. If they particularly need the comfort of the Eucharist on a Sunday they will receive even if it is not the way which they prefer based not on “them” but on their discernment of what God wishes FOR them to do in ‘normal circumstances’, and on others, they will offer sacrifice again based on their discernment of what God wishes for them to do in these strange and different circumstances.
I do think that people do forget that the reason a person chooses something like reception of the Eucharist is based on what they believe God wants THEM to do, and not on what they might want to do.
Most of us want to be looked upon as good, nice, etc. So it takes some humility to stand up and do something we feel God calls us to do , whether it’s receiving on the tongue, being a woman wearing a hat, or something that isn’t what the majority do, because so often we’ll get criticized like hades because of it!