Ah, you got me. Us Evangelicals can’t wait to getcha then abandon you. It’s the Evangelical way!
This is so frickin true!
It was my biggest beef I had with both the Evangelical and Pentecostal churches. Discipleship lacked. The personal relationships lacked. Pastors would select a few people to truly invest in and spent time with and so there were others who fell through the cracks so to speak.
As a result, whenever I was in a place of leadership within the context of ministry I took note of the marginalized. One time I was just helping some people I knew run a children’s bible camp. There was one teenage girl among the older kids who was part of the leadership team who was acting out in any way possible trying to gain attention etc and she became a burden to the rest of the team. Instead of caring for her they just got frustrated with her and ignored her. After hearing the gossip of the rest of the team I basically sat her down and said, “look, we’re gonna sit down here, privately, just you and me, and we’re gonna have a chat, the two of us.” I also told her that this conversation would remain confidential and that nobody else has to know anything.
Little did everyone else know is that she was struggling with a past BIG SIN in her life. And the burden of holding onto that particular sin in her life basically raised its ugly head and stunting her ability to not only mature emotionally but mature spiritually as well. I prayed with her. She experienced healing. For the first time in a very long time she was able to walk around with her head held high instead of being bogged down with the toxic shame as a result of a past moral/sexual/ethical failure but that day she shared with me about the sexual abuse she had experienced in the past. I mean, it was heavy stuff she unloaded that day. And also, to note, the way she was acting out changed. She no longer exaggerated her injuries or manipulated a crowd for attention.
What’s the point to this story?
That’s just a major critique I had against Evangelical / Pentecostal Communities.
The Catholic Church has areas in which we can grow too though! I mean, I’d like to see a woman’s group that doesn’t devolve into tea time but a woman’s group where we can grow spiritually and develop a greater understanding of our faith and how we can invest in our faith communities etc. I miss attending bible study / small groups. When I attended Evangelical / Protestant Churches it was easy to meet people and join various groups after church. If I attend Mass in the evening it’s a rarity to meet a few people and join them for food and drinks after Mass… but then again Catholic culture is different from Evangelical culture.
My point is, we all have our strengths and weaknesses. And I can critique the Evangelical / Pentecostal Churches in these areas because I had been part of that community for so long but I’m still a newbie Catholic and I haven’t really plugged into one specific parish yet so I’ll reserve any critique I might have regarding Parish communities.
However, I still appreciate what I heard one lady at the last Evangelical Church I attended say, “We’re all looking for the perfect church but that perfect church doesn’t exist. We’re like one big happy dysfunctional family and so it’s really just a matter of finding which dysfunction you feel most comfortable with”