Do Women Belong to Their Fathers Until They Get Married?

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I just have a quick question about something I’ve heard lots of Protestants say-- that a women belongs to her father until she gets married, and then she belongs to her husband. I’ve always thought this was kind of weird, because not all women choose to get married, and according to their logic a 50 year-old unmarried women would still “belong” to her father, which sounds kind of crazy to me. do catholics believe this or is it mostly a Protestant thing?
 
As a dad with two young daughters, the answer is a firm “yes”.
 
So men are allowed to be under their own spiritual authority, but women have to be under someone else’s? What is their father is abusive, or a nonbeliever? Or again, if they never get married?

It sounds kind of like women are treated as property to be owned and given away-- it kind of rubs me an uncomfortable way
 
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Nope. Not Church teaching.

Nope. Not part of the Marriage Rite.

Nope.

Saying it doesn’t make it true. This is 100% NOT Catholic teaching, and your post on that video has already been refuted.

Please stop spreading false information about Catholic teaching on marriage.
 
Yeah, but men are also under the authority of their priests and bishops. the idea that women belong to their father until they belong to their husband suggests that there is no period of time where a woman doesn’t belong to anyone. It’s not the same with men.
 
It is NOT taught by the Church.

NO, this is not true. You will not find this in the marriage rite. Not in the current rite, not in any rite all the way back to Trent. Not before that.

The couple gives consent, NOT the parents. The Church held that valid consent made marriage even when the parents objected.

This is well established. It is not in question. The priest you reference is simply wrong. It happens.
 
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I lived with my parents. After my father passed away I took care of my mother until her death last year. And this Friday will be settlement on the sale of the house I lived in all my life (until 2 months ago when I got a condo). :cry:
 
Please produce the text of the marriage rite where the father “gives away” the daughter.

Please produce the Church teaching that states what you are asserting. Hint: there isn’t one.
 
With respect to Father, that makes no sense. A young woman living at home sure… but a) the Catechism states that parents only exercise authority over minors and b) what about nuns? What about an 80 year old spinster?

Plus… where in the Catholic marriage rite does the father hand his daughter to the husband? I don’t think that even happens in the EF Latin rite of matrimony.
 
In the Byzantine Tradition, the bride & groom walk down the aisle together. The father doesn’t give the bride away as in Western marriage ceremonies.
 
Even if they don’t marry until they are in their 30s or never marry?
 
I wonder, if my dad opposes my marriage because my fiance is Catholic, does that mean I can’t marry him because my father said no? Is my marriage invalid if I go through with it and my father refuses to walk me down the aisle and give me away? 🤔
 
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In my fatherly authority I will decree increasing levels of autonomy at 18, 21, and 25.

My authority will not be superceded by her husband. I will abstain from interference with veto powers from afar.

I will also keep my shotgun loaded should her husband enact powers he has not been granted by my daughter.
 
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In the Byzantine Tradition, the bride & groom walk down the aisle together. The father doesn’t give the bride away as in Western marriage ceremonies.
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The father doesn’t give away the bride in the Latin Rite either. The rite calls for them to process together or both to be escorted by their parents. But no one is given away.
 
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I wonder, if my dad opposes my marriage because my fiance is Catholic, does that mean I can’t marry him because my father said no? Is my marriage invalid if I go through with it and my father refuses to walk me down the aisle and give me away? 🤔
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NO! and NO!

Sorry if your questions were sarcasm and I missed it.
 
When my sister & BIL got married, my father gave my sister away. The wedding was in his parish which is RC.
 
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