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PatriceA
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I know quite a few older fellows that dye their hair. This doesn’t seem to be an issue that is unique just to the female gender.
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AnneTeresa
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Well, good for you! I’m more likely to postpone the swimming for my hair’s sake!! Do you think it helps to put conditioner on under your swim cap? I’ve tried it at my hairdresser’s suggestion and am not sure if it really helps or not with the color lasting any longer. And regarding the “other things” that I can’t control about aging, like the shift of weight even if your overall weight is the same? Yuck!I’m with you! The swimming is the tough thing, isn’t it.Often I postpone when I am going to get color because I want to go swimming a few more times. Wish someone would invent a swim cap that really works to keep the hair completely dry. And I think overall I’m coping with the changes of midlife okay, but when there are several such changes going on all at once, sometimes to do one thing that really is a shot in the arm helps make the others more bearable.
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PatriceA
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You can also try a shampoo made especially for swimmers. Or a clarifying shampoo sometimes helps.
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RACJ
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I’ve heard that one should saturate one’s hair with water BEFORE entering a pool, so the discoloring chlorine molecules can’t affix themselves to one’s hair. As for the coloring, it depends upon the person. Some women have the most stunning white or silver locks.
AS a rule, I love long hair of any color on women of all ages. My wife’s hair is still 95% brown, and very long.! lol She plans to color when the greys take over, but it’s not going to be short, barring physical frailties or illness.
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RACJ
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I think sometimes women choose a color which simply doesn’t work with their natural re-growth. I think that everyone who wishes to color needs to experiment until they discover the right hue that blends in with the new hair for as long as possible.I was talking to the checkout lady at the grocery store. She had dark brown hair and 1/4 inch white roots. She told me she wanted to go natural like me. I asked her how long it was since the last time she had done her hair. She said 1 week.
Her hair looked terrible and did nothing to enhance her looks.
I suppose by the time you are over 50% white, you have to accept it or accept going around with white roots.
Who says gray hair makes you look old? Get a good cut, wear makeup, keep in shape.
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tapiocapudding
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I dye my hair. I started going grey at 19 and it was noticeable by 24. I’m unwilling to be a significantly grey haired 27 year old, so I dye!
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Della
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That’s why Clariol has a root coloring treatment.I think sometimes women choose a color which simply doesn’t work with their natural re-growth. I think that everyone who wishes to color needs to experiment until they discover the right hue that blends in with the new hair for as long as possible.
It’s cheap and easy to use. Also, I use black eye shadow when my root first start to show where my hair parts. It’s just enough to hide them until I can get my hair colored by my beautician or with a root color treatment. With my skin tone nothing but natural black looks right on me, so I have to be vigilant in keeping up with it. I don’t find it a bother–it’s just part of maintaining my appearance–like putting on the right kind of make up, clothes, etc.
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chevalier
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I don’t yet, but when I run in the elections, I guess I’ll have to get some grey!
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3DOCTORS
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Let’s don’t even go there with the weight business!
That’s been another of my “midlife adjustments” along with the grey hair . . . 
Back to the hair - I get a weave so the regrowth is less apparent. This last time, though, the stylist I got left too much grey in for my liking.
It’s sometimes so tricky trying to communicate the image you have in mind of how you want your hair to turn out to a stylist. Not meaning that badly against stylists as most try their best. It’s just not easy. Over the years I am getting better at communicating and pictures also help, but every now and then I learn something new that I must remember or figure out how to convey. And it changes as my hair changes color, too. I can’t say the same thing that worked 15 years ago or so. :bigyikes:
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Sarcelle
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I have the same problem as you but instead of black it’s red. I have these foreign-to-me red hairs coming in randomly. I have naturally black hair and there are these red hairs, looking like copper wires. Where do they come from?Yep, I get highlights every few months. Once it’s really grey, I might stop doing the highlights, but I have these foreign-to-me very thick, almost-black hairs coming in randomly. What’s THAT about???It’s like one’s hair follicles just go kind of berserk after the age of 45 or so.
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Allegra
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I’ve never colored my hair and I doubt I ever will. I don’t want to have to keep up with it. My mom had a coniption when I didn’t get it colored for my wedding. I don’t have alot of grey in it and it is hardly noticable unless you are standing right on top of me or if it is wet. For some reason, the gray hairs dry faster and stick out from the rest.
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EasterJoy
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I never noticed that, but you’re right. I always think my grey looks the most noticeable when I’m blowing my hair dry. (It’s also before or only just after my coffee, so I look a bit run-down overall about then, too!I’ve never colored my hair and I doubt I ever will. I don’t want to have to keep up with it. My mom had a coniption when I didn’t get it colored for my wedding. I don’t have alot of grey in it and it is hardly noticable unless you are standing right on top of me or if it is wet. For some reason, the gray hairs dry faster and stick out from the rest.
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Marysann
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I got rid of the mousey look in 1965, and I haven’t looked back! Remember the old TV ad “If you only have one life, why not live it as a blonde?” Well, that is what I have done. I have never had it professionally colored, and my hairdresser says it looks great. I have no idea how gray I really am, but I hope I am not as gray as my brother who is almost six years younger than I am. I love my hair, and I have no intention of going natural any time soon. I don’t spend a lot of money on myself, but a good haircut is worth every penny I spend on it. I want my husband and kids to be proud of me.
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Allegra
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I can’t imagine anyone being proud of their mother’s hair. “Dear Mom, Happy Mother’s Day! You work so hard to take care of us and make us feel loved. Most importantly, your roots are impeccable.” I just don’t see it.
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Della
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No need to be snarky.
It’s about one’s overall appearance not just hair color. Just because a woman has a family doesn’t mean she has to look like a frump.
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PatriceA
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Actually I love my mom’s hair, its a beautiful “white” gray. She’s one of my inspirations in deciding to go gray myself. My grandmother was another inspiration. Her hair was a beautiful, gorgeous gray with lots of curls.
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PatriceA
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I certainly hope you aren’t equating gray hair with being frumpy.No need to be snarky.
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Allegra
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I don’t think gray hair necessarily means being a frump. I know some very dignified, attractive people who have gray hair. On the other hand, I don’t know anyone who is ashamed of their mother because of her hair, regardless of the color.No need to be snarky.
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EasterJoy
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If you don’t think there are teens who care very much–even to an inappropriately nosy degree that they’d never tolerate coming in their own direction from their parents!–about how their parents present themselves, you are very much mistaken. I had to listen to one young relative criticize his mother over her habitually careless choice of socks. There are also a lot of teens who don’t have anything like a healthy attitude about the possibility that their parents might be mistaken for their grandparents. This would not literally kill anyone, but you’d never know it listening to some of them.
Of course, I think that this is the teens’ problem. I’d never tell someone to go on the fool’s errand of dressing to please a presumptuous teenager. Choosing your hair style and hair care to please your spouse is one thing, but anyone else can mind their own business!
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Allegra
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If a person was suffering from having such a selfish, vain, and foolish child, I would suggest that they would do better to teach their child some values instead of changing their socks or hair color in order to placate such an unfortunate and unhealthy attitude.
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