Do You Color Your Hair?

[Sarabande]

I have to say that my husband’s sweet, 93 year old grandmother still gets her hair colored at her nursing home. I think it’s adorable that she likes to have that done. She is such a sweetheart and if it makes her feel good, more power to her.

 

[Allegra]

There isn’t anything disrespectful about going around sporting your own hair color or the amount of hair your body actually feels inclined to sprout, but neither is it “intellectually dishonest” to choose to wear make-up or hair color or a wig instead of restricting ourselves to clothing and perhaps jewelry as adornments, let alone only the clothing that hygiene, modesty, and protection against the elements requires.

I didn’t say it was intellectually dishonest to change your looks to fit your personal style. I said it was intellectually dishonest to convince yourself that you are doing as some sort of act of charity for others, rather than for your own enjoyment and desire to look good. You seem to think that I think there is something wrong with wanting to look good. Actually, I don’t. As long as it doesn’t replace the efforts one should take to actually BE good, there is certainly nothing wrong with trying to look good. All I’m saying is, it isn’t being done out of love for one’s family or other people. Adversely, I do think there is something very wrong with refusing to accept whatever gifts other people are wanting to give us out of actual love, because we don’t find their ‘look’ to be acceptable.

 

[EasterJoy]

I didn’t say it was intellectually dishonest to change your looks to fit your personal style. I said it was intellectually dishonest to convince yourself that you are doing as some sort of act of charity for others, rather than for your own enjoyment and desire to look good. You seem to think that I think there is something wrong with wanting to look good. Actually, I don’t. As long as it doesn’t replace the efforts one should take to actually BE good, there is certainly nothing wrong with trying to look good. All I’m saying is, it isn’t being done out of love for one’s family or other people. Adversely, I do think there is something very wrong with refusing to accept whatever gifts other people are wanting to give us out of actual love, because we don’t find their ‘look’ to be acceptable.

I don’t think it is intellectually dishonest to think you are dressing to please someone else, any more than it is intellectually dishonest to think you can make a meal to suit both yourself and the people you are feeding. Yes, you can actually be cooking just to suit yourself and fool yourself into thinking that all the work you put into the meal is some big sacrifice for someone else, and likewise you can be totally fooling yourself about how your personal grooming decisions affect anyone but you. Absolutely!! I am only saying that it is possible to be working for the pleasure of both, rather than just one or the other, and that if kept within the bounds that ought to be in place when in the pursuit of pleasures, that can be not just an OK thing, but a positively good thing.

I really don’t think we’re far apart, except perhaps in how we’re choosing to describe the process.

 

[bcuster]

I am sure that whatever you decide will be fine. You want to be comfortable with yourself. Just don’t let the worldly idea of being forever young to be your motive. It can be a trap and actually lower self esteem. I used to color my hair when I was in my 30s and early 40s. It was expensive to do it right, especially to get rid of roots. Then, I decided that I would stop coloring and be happy with my God-given hair color. He created it, so why should I think I should improve upon it.

 

[PerlaDelRosario]

I’m 27 years old and my natural hair color is dark brown - almost black. I first tried brown highlights two years ago and the hair colorist at the salon must have grabbed the wrong color because they came out a too light. I hated the highlights because they didn’t turn out how I wanted them to and also because it dried out my hair. I went back and got a dark hair color shine that happened to be ammonia-free and it actually made my hair feel healthy again and it looked shiny as well… pretty much what it looked like to begin with, lol. So my suggestion would be to get a color shine that’s close to your natural hair color. It won’t damage your hair and it will look natural.