Do you do your husband's laundry?

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I just saw one lady on TV telling her ex that she had to go do her partner’s laundry and the ex was so mad because she could never do such a thing when they were together. But she was just trying to tease him and it worked. 🙂

Now I am wondering how the reality is in different families when it comes to (husband’s) laundry.(?)
 
In general I’m in charge of all of the laundry, including my husband’s. He is responsible for making sure everything he wants washed gets into the basket, though. 😉

If I need help with it, he’ll help, or do it himself - even the cloth diapers. 👍 But since I stay at home, it’s usually me who does it, and I don’t mind it.

(We both grew up in homes where this was the arrangement, except that our dads generally did very little. My MIL still does all their laundry, but my dad does his own now. I’m not sure how that started, but it was after all the kids moved out.)
 
I couldn’t vote because I didn’t see an an answer that fit. I sometimes do his laundry, and he sometimes does mine. Sometimes we mix our clothes together…guess I never thought I shouldn’t do that lol!!!

Whomever is running short on what they need will usually start a load and ask “do you have anything to toss in?”
 
Being named Paul, I’m a guy, but I’ll answer anyway.

When the kids were little, we (she and I) did the laundry. Now, the kids do theirs and we do ours. Sometimes I do it, sometimes she does it. Sometimes we fold together.

We would you refuse to do your spouses laundry?
 
Mostly my wife does the laundry, but that’s because of her work schedule. I do the kitchen clean up. In other words, daytime chore = laundry, evening chore = kitchen cleanup.

But, she doesn’t iron. That part I do for myself. Which is fine with me, because I do a better job. 🙂
 
I sure do! I am a stay home mom and babysit two very young boys in my home. I do all of thehouse work. I aslo do all yard work including mowing and snow removal. I also clean, do laundry and mow lawn for the neighbor 🙂 my husband works ten hour days plus does farm work for the same neighbor. He also has to cut wood to heat oir home. The kids and i help him with loading and stacking wood. 🙂 he works very hard and i do not think he should have to come home to do laundry and such
 
I always do all the washing for him and the three adult children living at home. I do all the ironing, cleaning and cooking as well. I’m really the classic traditional housewife and I really enjoy it a lot, especially now that the kids are grown and everything is not always rushed and manic. I remember reading a long time ago about St Gerard and ‘kitchen mysticism’ where he turned his boring a repetitive chores into deep meditations and I really feel I do that quite naturally also. It was once reported that during cooking a meal for the monks one day, he actually levitated as his meditation was so deep. I haven’t done that though. :cool:
 
When I was pregnant last year and on bedrest and physical restrictions (and then just LARGE and immobile), my husband did all the laundry. All the whites got kinda grey, but we lived. It was really exciting to be able to do the laundry again after the baby was born.

Nowadays, I do 95% of the actual operation of the washer and dryer, although the big kids are being trained to move their dirty clothes from their rooms to the laundry chute or laundry room. I sort the loads, run the washer and dryer, sort the clothes into three different baskets (Big Kid, Medium Kid, me-husband-baby) and then periodically put away the laundry from the basket for me, my husband and the baby. The big kids are theoretically supposed to put away the clean clothes in their baskets. Whenever they have free time and I remember, I tell them to each put away 20 items. I confess that our clean clothes spend a lot of time in those baskets. I also recently requested that my husband put a hook up in the laundry room, so that I can hang up his wrinkle-free dress shirts as they come out of the dryer and keep them wrinkle free–that is working very well. The most urgent laundry issue is that the big kids have school uniforms, PE and sports and need particular items washed up for particular days–the rest of us just need something to wear.

There are five different people wearing clothes in our household (plus various towels, rags, tablecloths, etc.), so it would be ridiculous to ask my husband to wash his clothes separately. I need to run two loads just about every day or disaster looms.

My husband does the dishes at night just about every night.
 
I don’t get this whole separate thing about laundry. we have always done “family” laundry. it is way easier. We also do family folding. Other than a few things clothes are clothes. my t-shirts or jeans or dress pants are just like his and just like my kids and they all go in the same load.:rolleyes:
 
Mrs_Sally said:
I don’t get this whole separate thing about laundry. we have always done “family” laundry. it is way easier. We also do family folding. Other than a few things clothes are clothes. my t-shirts or jeans or dress pants are just like his and just like my kids and they all go in the same load.:rolleyes:
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My first husband helped lots. My second husband did not, but I was grateful cuz he would throw lights and darks together, I’d rather he didn’t!! But I did teach all my sons to do their own laundry by the time they were 11-12 years old. They were also great at folding diapers and towels etc. God Bless, Memaw
 
I don’t see any point in separating his & mine; seems like a waste of time to me. The dishes he uses go in the same dishwasher load as the ones I used, too. 🤷
 
Mrs_Sally said:
I don’t get this whole separate thing about laundry. we have always done “family” laundry. it is way easier. We also do family folding. Other than a few things clothes are clothes. my t-shirts or jeans or dress pants are just like his and just like my kids and they all go in the same load.:rolleyes:
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I don’t really get the separate laundry thing either. In our laundry room we have three boxes: whites, darks, and church clothes. Put it in the box and it will get washed. I am not the mom; I’m the oldest of the kids, but I take care of the laundry because Mom and Dad are pretty busy. I found that if I do one load per day and stick with it, I can take Sundays off!! 😛
 
My wife and I have an arrangement—I do the laundry, but she folds it. I find folding so tedious that I gladly volunteered to do the laundry if she would do the folding.
 
kelvinf said:
I just saw one lady on TV telling her ex that she had to go do her partner’s laundry and the ex was so mad because she could never do such a thing when they were together. But she was just trying to tease him and it worked. 🙂

Now I am wondering how the reality is in different families when it comes to (husband’s) laundry.(?)
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They obviously had more problems than who is doing whose laundry. If a couple gets to that kind of point, it is obvious that they stopped working as one unit and one team. If someone is so dug in that they have to tell their spouse, you do your laundry and I’ll do mine is a sign that the marriage is in trouble.
 
kelvinf said:
I just saw one lady on TV telling her ex that she had to go do her partner’s laundry and the ex was so mad because she could never do such a thing when they were together. But she was just trying to tease him and it worked. 🙂

Now I am wondering how the reality is in different families when it comes to (husband’s) laundry.(?)
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I would have to if I had no one to help in the house; You know how it is back here Kelvin. The wife goes to the field to dig with baby at her back, She comes back with firewood on her head, dashes to the river to collect water with which to wash and cook. Does the washing, sweeps the house and compound. Now she starts thinking in terms of food.
If she is lucky, there will be some millet or maize flour ready and all she needs will be some vegetables from the little plot she keeps behind the kitchen. She prepares that and since it is now evening, she feeds her baby, feeds herself after putting aside a generous amount for her husband who left on his bicycle very early in the morning without saying where he was going. She did not ask him where ; she knows better than to ask.
She went to sleep only to wake up to a kick on her legs. The husband is home. He wants his food. She is so tired, she tells him where the food is. He will have none of that. He must be served properly by the wife in his own house. His voice becomes threatening. She quickly gets up, hoping against hope that the food is still warm. Yes it is, She had covered it ever so carefully, because the fire in the fireplace had long since gone out and to light it again at this hour would only irked him some more.
She placed the food before him with all the due respect an African woman is supposed to show her husband. But today, there was no pleasing him. One look at the dish and he gave her a single blow that sent her sprawling and cowering against the single central pillar of their tiny mud hut. Her fault? The vegetable dish. Why is she always cooking vegetables for him ? Is he a goat? Does he even look like one?
It could happen 😃
 
I do all the laundry in the house.
Hubby does help with the folding and putting away if he happens to be home and doesn’t have his own stuff to do.

I adore my husband but he really isn’t allowed to do the laundry because he doesn’t know how.

He mixes whites with colors, is convinced that hot water can remove stains and won’t check the dials and adjust accordingly…so delicates can get washed on heavy.

Plus…we cloth diaper and I don’t use a laundry service. The diapers are washed a very, very specific way so they won’t get ruined and they can’t be mixed with other loads.

I do most of the domestic chores around the house. Cleaning, cooking and laundry being the big ones.

He takes care of the cars, the yard and anything that needs to be repaired or fixed. That is all fine with us. I really don’t care if the feminazis get on my case about it saying I’m pigeon-holed into my role as a domesticated wife.

I like being a domesticated wife! 😃
 
My husband just saw this thread and has a legitimate question that I may or may not start another thread.

How many wives mow the lawn or take care of car maintenance?

My husband hates mowing the lawn but he does it because he sees it as his responsibility.
 
I usually do the laundry, but my dh helps out if we have a heavy load or I’m sick. I have FMS so he’ll often carry the loads up and down the stairs when I can’t. I prefer to fold alone because, bless him, he’s just not good at it. 😉
 
Kelfa28 said:
My husband just saw this thread and has a legitimate question that I may or may not start another thread.

How many wives mow the lawn or take care of car maintenance?

My husband hates mowing the lawn but he does it because he sees it as his responsibility.
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My dh does the yard work and car maintenance mainly because I simply can’t mow the lawn and I know zip about cars. 😛
 
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