Do you do your husband's laundry?

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I do all the laundry when I get to it. Anyone who is unhappy with my schedule is free to do their own. (Which doesn’t happn often.)
 
Kelfa28 said:
My husband just saw this thread and has a legitimate question that I may or may not start another thread.

How many wives mow the lawn or take care of car maintenance?

My husband hates mowing the lawn but he does it because he sees it as his responsibility.
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No, I don’t do his laundry.

Of course, I don’t do mine either. :eek:

He does both.

He also does car maintenance and the lawn.

But I have a chronic health condition, so he does a lot more than I would like.
 
Kelfa28 said:
Good point.

I totally forgot…I don’t iron either. Never have and I never will.

If my husband has a shirt to iron then he does it.
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With wash&wear materials now the norm I rarely need to iron anything, but if anything needs ironing–a blouse of mine or one of his shirts I do it because he just doesn’t know how. I’d hate to have him ruin a piece of clothing over supposed “women’s right.” Ha! Not that anyone here has said they won’t because of female rights. 😉
 
I answered “you must be kidding”…for the simple reason that I can’t see any sense in not doing each others laundry. Strikes me as highly inefficient.
That said - I think it is a great idea to make sure that all children be taught to do laundry - at least the basics - as well as cooking and basic sewing.

Both my wife and I were quite capable of doing laundry - though she was more so. Being a guy I had a rather simple outlook and formula for the job…Her take on the job was more thorough so she sort of “booted me out” 🤷😃

Of course now I do all of the laundry which, due to incontinence issues , has to be done every day.

Marriage is about working together.

Peace
James
 
JRKH said:
Of course now I do all of the laundry which, due to incontinence issues , has to be done every day.

Marriage is about working together.

Peace
James
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Thinking back.

I used to do all of the laundry.

When we both worked outside the home, Saturday morning was cleaning day. He would go out and take care of the lawn. I would start laundry, vac, dust, mop and the like. When he was through, he would come in and help me finish. By lunch time, we were free for the day. 👍

When I became a stay at home Mom, I did laundry and cleaning during the week. Lawn care moved to Friday night after work, so we could have all weekend to do family stuff.

Marriage really is about working together and relying on each other.
 
Yes, I do all of the household laundry, including folding…This is how I prefer it, I’m actually quite picky about how I like the laundry to be washed and folded. My husband tends to not separate the whites from the darks and when he fold socks he tends to just put two random socks together and call it good. By, Me solely doing the laundry saves us marital discord.
 
My husband has been able to do laundry since he was 12 years old. We both do each other’s washing and folding and putting away, and always have.
 
Della said:
With wash&wear materials now the norm I rarely need to iron anything, but if anything needs ironing–a blouse of mine or one of his shirts I do it because he just doesn’t know how. I’d hate to have him ruin a piece of clothing over supposed “women’s right.” Ha! Not that anyone here has said they won’t because of female rights. 😉
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My husband is just a better ironer then I am anyway.

The military forced him to learn how to iron a shirt.

And yes, the whole wash and wear system makes ironing almost obsolete. I think we have a total of three shirts in this house that would need to be ironed if washed. They are my husband’s funeral/interview/wedding shirts.
 
She washes (if she asks me to, of course I do), I fold, I hang up and put away my own things, she does hers.
 
No! I do not do my husband’s laundry and I do not expect him to do mine. If I get his or he gets my laundry done, I consider it as part of the Blessings that comes with sharing our lives and I am particularly grateful for the opportunity to be of service to him.
 
Kelfa28 said:
Good point.

I totally forgot…I don’t iron either. Never have and I never will.

If my husband has a shirt to iron then he does it.
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yea - Ironing…blech…😛

When I was a bachelor I took my dress shirts to a laundry and had them washed and pressed for a buck each. I did all the rest of my laundry.
When I married my dear wife, she wanted to iron my shirts but she was working too and I said no - I’d keep taking them to the laundry folks.
Once she retired she’d have no more of that and ironed my shirts as long as she was able.

Of course now neither of us are working so there really isn’t any ironing to do…(Think goodness)…😃

Peace
James
 
Millie123 said:
Yes, I do all of the household laundry, including folding…This is how I prefer it, I’m actually quite picky about how I like the laundry to be washed and folded. My husband tends to not separate the whites from the darks and when he fold socks he tends to just put two random socks together and call it good. By, Me solely doing the laundry saves us marital discord.
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This sounds sort of like us when we first married…
My solution (as a bachelor) was to run everything in cold water. I didn’t make all that much laundry just by myself - not enough to constitute separate light and dark loads.
I would pay attention to my sock matching…😉

But wife had a very different approach and as you say - it saved marital discord to let her have her way.

Peace
James
 
My husband does all the laundry - so he does mine too. Lovingly, I should add. Except when I throw something red in with his whites 🤷
 
Mrs_Sally said:
I don’t get this whole separate thing about laundry. we have always done “family” laundry. it is way easier. We also do family folding. Other than a few things clothes are clothes. my t-shirts or jeans or dress pants are just like his and just like my kids and they all go in the same load.:rolleyes:
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That’s always been the way in our household also. I’m usually the one who does the laundry, and since we’re empty nesters it’s only DH’s and mine. If DH needs something specific washed, he’ll usually do it unless I happen to be doing a load.

Like another poster wrote, DH does any ironing of his clothes. That started early since he was in the military. The first time I ironed his uniform shirt he ended up with railroad tracks in the sleeves and told me he’d do his own work clothes from then on. My mother didn’t raise a fool so I didn’t argue, in fact, I started advising new military brides how to get out of doing their husbands uniforms. 😃
 
What does this have to do with the Catholic Forum? Go somewhere else for this kind of stuff!
 
odhiambo said:
I would have to if I had no one to help in the house; You know how it is back here Kelvin. The wife goes to the field to dig with baby at her back, She comes back with firewood on her head, dashes to the river to collect water with which to wash and cook. Does the washing, sweeps the house and compound. Now she starts thinking in terms of food.
If she is lucky, there will be some millet or maize flour ready and all she needs will be some vegetables from the little plot she keeps behind the kitchen. She prepares that and since it is now evening, she feeds her baby, feeds herself after putting aside a generous amount for her husband who left on his bicycle very early in the morning without saying where he was going. She did not ask him where ; she knows better than to ask.
She went to sleep only to wake up to a kick on her legs. The husband is home. He wants his food. She is so tired, she tells him where the food is. He will have none of that. He must be served properly by the wife in his own house. His voice becomes threatening. She quickly gets up, hoping against hope that the food is still warm. Yes it is, She had covered it ever so carefully, because the fire in the fireplace had long since gone out and to light it again at this hour would only irked him some more.
She placed the food before him with all the due respect an African woman is supposed to show her husband. But today, there was no pleasing him. One look at the dish and he gave her a single blow that sent her sprawling and cowering against the single central pillar of their tiny mud hut. Her fault? The vegetable dish. Why is she always cooking vegetables for him ? Is he a goat? Does he even look like one?
It could happen 😃
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You would make a great fiction writer. Hope you didn’t have to live all that. God Bless, Memaw
 
I am not sure in some of the answers here if they are from homes where both husband and wife work. If that was the case in our home, I believe we would work together on the laundry (meals and cleaning also). I don’t think if both are gone from home at work that the wife should come home and be the only one doing meals and laundry but in our family I am the housewife and I am home all day and my husband goes out to work daily. It would be wrong of me to ask him to do any laundry when he comes home, especially since I am home all day perfectly capable of doing it.
We work together by both of us fulfilling our responsibilities to the home; him outside working, me at home working.
 
I voted yes, but he does mine as well. It all gets mixed together, along with our son’s. Lovingly? Nope. Just another necessary chore. lol Sometimes I do loads, sometimes he does.
 
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