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evangelical
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Do you have family members who married a non catholic?
How well has that worked?
How well has that worked?
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Maximilian75
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My dad married my mom when she was a Methodist with a valid dispensation. My mother converted 2 years later.
My uncle (moms brother) had a similar experience. Married a catholic girl in the Church as a Methodist and later converted.
My uncle (moms brother) had a similar experience. Married a catholic girl in the Church as a Methodist and later converted.
Tis_Bearself
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Married a Presbyterian myself, we’ve been married almost 25 years now, it’s been fine for us.
I understand that perhaps we are the exception as many other people find these mixed marriages to be challenging.
I understand that perhaps we are the exception as many other people find these mixed marriages to be challenging.
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Charybdis
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My two older brothers married outside of the Catholic faith. One of them married a Jewish girl. Their marriages are great as far as society judges but I am sad to say that neither of my brothers actively practices their Catholic faith anymore…
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Blessedwithfive
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I married a protestant 28 years ago. He finally converted about two years ago. Very strong and stable marriage and he attended Mass with us (me and our kids) faithfully for all the years. Two daughters are now married. One married a Catholic and the other a Baptist. Both seem to be working out well.
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Anne1964
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My father was Catholic and my mother was raised Baptist but never baptized. They were married for 25 years until my father’s death. My mother was received into the Church at age 86 and died three years later.
I was a non-practicing Catholic and married a non-practicing Jew. When I returned to the Church three years after our marriage he agreed to the convalidation but several years later said he regretted it and said that my religion was a deal breaker for him. We are divorced
I was a non-practicing Catholic and married a non-practicing Jew. When I returned to the Church three years after our marriage he agreed to the convalidation but several years later said he regretted it and said that my religion was a deal breaker for him. We are divorced
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pocaracas
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My wife married one…
Things were alright for years until she decided to go off the deep end with Opus Dei and whatever brainwashing they did to her started affecting the bedroom… now, at the 4 kid mark, we’re separated.
So I guess it’s not going very well…
Things were alright for years until she decided to go off the deep end with Opus Dei and whatever brainwashing they did to her started affecting the bedroom… now, at the 4 kid mark, we’re separated.
So I guess it’s not going very well…
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ConfusedLucy
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It’s hard for single Catholics to meet each other here due to low numbers and mixed couples are pretty common.
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Phemie
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I did. We’ve been married 42 years.
Our children were baptized and raised Catholic and he has always been supportive of my efforts for this - to the point where he learned the “Hail Mary” in French so that he would be able to help the children with their bedtime prayers if I happened to not be home at that time due to work or volunteering commitments.
He has never converted, although he did broach the subject at one point. But since he showed no commitment to his own religion I’d rather he not practice that than convert and not practice. He was in our parish choir for a couple of years but that had more to do with indulging his love of singing than anything religious.
Our children were baptized and raised Catholic and he has always been supportive of my efforts for this - to the point where he learned the “Hail Mary” in French so that he would be able to help the children with their bedtime prayers if I happened to not be home at that time due to work or volunteering commitments.
He has never converted, although he did broach the subject at one point. But since he showed no commitment to his own religion I’d rather he not practice that than convert and not practice. He was in our parish choir for a couple of years but that had more to do with indulging his love of singing than anything religious.
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UpUpAndAway
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My sister married a non-practicing Protestant more than 25 years ago. They separated after nine years and are today divorced, but for reasons unrelated to religion.
Fifteen years ago, I also married a non-practicing Protestant. We have challenges, some rather big ones, but none are related to religion.
@pocaracas, I’m sorry about what has happened between you and your wife. I spent about a year discerning Opus Dei. While I have the utmost respect for the apostolate and found their spirituality beneficial for me, my involvement with them had a negative effect on another relationship I value greatly (not The Husband - he was always supportive) so I have discontinued my association with them for now. They do not brainwash, though I can see how it might look that way. In fact, the member who invited me to their recollections in the first place said that if my discernment is causing conflict in other areas of my life, they understand why I took a step back and that this would have been even more understandable if the conflict had been with my spouse.
Praying for you and your wife.
Fifteen years ago, I also married a non-practicing Protestant. We have challenges, some rather big ones, but none are related to religion.
@pocaracas, I’m sorry about what has happened between you and your wife. I spent about a year discerning Opus Dei. While I have the utmost respect for the apostolate and found their spirituality beneficial for me, my involvement with them had a negative effect on another relationship I value greatly (not The Husband - he was always supportive) so I have discontinued my association with them for now. They do not brainwash, though I can see how it might look that way. In fact, the member who invited me to their recollections in the first place said that if my discernment is causing conflict in other areas of my life, they understand why I took a step back and that this would have been even more understandable if the conflict had been with my spouse.
Praying for you and your wife.
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Opus Dei is a perfectly legit Catholic organisation.
Maybe she realised that something you were doing in the bedroom was not completely in keeping with her morals.
This post reflects more on your attitude than hers.
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hoping4more
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How did yall agree to things? Children? Do you just go your separate ways on Sunday mornings?
I married a Catholic when I wasn’t even one, but now she does not believe in Catholic teaching; so looking for any advice here.
I married a Catholic when I wasn’t even one, but now she does not believe in Catholic teaching; so looking for any advice here.
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pocaracas
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My attitude of not allowing myself to remain in a situation that was not making me the least happy?.. yes, totally on me!
Tis_Bearself
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He was fine with raising children in the Catholic church and we told that to the priest when we went to get married. We ended up not having children, but I have no doubt we would have raised them Catholic if we had any.
He doesn’t really practice his faith, though he doesn’t want to convert to Catholicism yet (I’m working on it). Sometimes he goes to church with me. His father was the only one in his family who really bothered to go to Presbyterian services. I made it clear from the start I was not going to any Protestant church and this was accepted by his family. On family visits, I’d just go to the Catholic church by myself. His mother was raised Catholic and his uncle had converted to marry a Catholic woman, plus his family lived in an area with many Catholics, so they didn’t see Catholics as anything unusual.
He doesn’t really practice his faith, though he doesn’t want to convert to Catholicism yet (I’m working on it). Sometimes he goes to church with me. His father was the only one in his family who really bothered to go to Presbyterian services. I made it clear from the start I was not going to any Protestant church and this was accepted by his family. On family visits, I’d just go to the Catholic church by myself. His mother was raised Catholic and his uncle had converted to marry a Catholic woman, plus his family lived in an area with many Catholics, so they didn’t see Catholics as anything unusual.
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TC3033
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I’m non-denominational, wife is Catholic.
We’ve been married over 14 years, together for probably close to 19. We have 3 great kids, and really haven’t had many problems when it comes to religion. Our only issues really revolve around how I’ve been treated at her church sometimes and the frustrations that causes me. Besides that, no big whoop, but she respects my background and doesn’t have an issue attending my church back home with me. I don’t really like going to Mass with my family (see above, long story), but if they go…I go. I’d never stay home (unless mutually agreed upon because of a sick kid or something). If the family goes, I go.
We’ve been married over 14 years, together for probably close to 19. We have 3 great kids, and really haven’t had many problems when it comes to religion. Our only issues really revolve around how I’ve been treated at her church sometimes and the frustrations that causes me. Besides that, no big whoop, but she respects my background and doesn’t have an issue attending my church back home with me. I don’t really like going to Mass with my family (see above, long story), but if they go…I go. I’d never stay home (unless mutually agreed upon because of a sick kid or something). If the family goes, I go.
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TC3033
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Is there an issue you’re specifically having, like with the kids? Your situation sounds a little bit “stickier” than what some of us probably walked into. Sounds like you were the non-Catholic when you got married, you converted, then sometime after she left? Did she leave for another church, leave Christianity all toeagher?
To answer your question about agreeing on things, it’s been fluid. I’ve always known that the kids would be brought up Catholic. It’s something that we had to discuss before getting married. But…my wife definitely teaches it in her way. One thing we tripped across is, the Family Faith Formation says that in order to be fully Christian you need to be Baptized, First Communion, and Confirmed. We didn’t teach that, she isn’t going to teach the kids that Dad, Grandma, Grandpa isn’t really a Christian. In that instance, she changed the word from Christian to Catholic.
As far as going our separate ways, I think we’ve only done that a few times. If my wife wants to go to Mass on Sunday, I’ll go with the family. If there comes a Sunday where I want to go to my church (especially back home), the family will come with me. I may not be a fan of my wife’s church, but I love and respect my family and I’d never not go to church with them for no real reason.
To answer your question about agreeing on things, it’s been fluid. I’ve always known that the kids would be brought up Catholic. It’s something that we had to discuss before getting married. But…my wife definitely teaches it in her way. One thing we tripped across is, the Family Faith Formation says that in order to be fully Christian you need to be Baptized, First Communion, and Confirmed. We didn’t teach that, she isn’t going to teach the kids that Dad, Grandma, Grandpa isn’t really a Christian. In that instance, she changed the word from Christian to Catholic.
As far as going our separate ways, I think we’ve only done that a few times. If my wife wants to go to Mass on Sunday, I’ll go with the family. If there comes a Sunday where I want to go to my church (especially back home), the family will come with me. I may not be a fan of my wife’s church, but I love and respect my family and I’d never not go to church with them for no real reason.
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hoping4more
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When we married she was a regular attendee of Mass, we both were. She was willing to marry me even if I didn’t convert but I had decided to even before. I converted the following Easter, I didn’t know a lot of other Catholics, neither did she; both in college and sort of transitioning a lot with friends and such. One of parents was my sponsor. Within a year or so me joining they found out about the abuse scandel and stopped attending. I went along with them for a while thinking it would blow over or get resolved and just didn’t realize the time scale and extent of it all. Later we had kids and attended for a while but she just didn’t want to. Finally after our third I tried to get her to attend again and she refused I have been taking them by myself.
She gets pretty angry that I do it despite her protests. She thinks me going is an approval of how the Church hierarchy handle the situation and thinks it is a corrupt organization. She thinks it likely still goes on. She has even come to the belief that there needs to be more women in power in the church and women priest; they should also do away with confession.
Because of all of our disruptive attendance when they were little, and our lack of friends in the church, we never got them baptized. I wouldn’t know a soul to ask to be their godparent even now (I just sit in the cry room wrestling and trying to keep quiet three little kids for an hour, like a weird dude around all the moms trying to soothe little babies, lol).
sorry for taking this off topic, should have just made another one.
She gets pretty angry that I do it despite her protests. She thinks me going is an approval of how the Church hierarchy handle the situation and thinks it is a corrupt organization. She thinks it likely still goes on. She has even come to the belief that there needs to be more women in power in the church and women priest; they should also do away with confession.
Because of all of our disruptive attendance when they were little, and our lack of friends in the church, we never got them baptized. I wouldn’t know a soul to ask to be their godparent even now (I just sit in the cry room wrestling and trying to keep quiet three little kids for an hour, like a weird dude around all the moms trying to soothe little babies, lol).
sorry for taking this off topic, should have just made another one.
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TC3033
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Wow…
Ya, I don’t know if you’re really off topic but the question is more to people who are/were in relationships with individuals that are/were ardent anti-Catholic.
Ya, I don’t know if you’re really off topic but the question is more to people who are/were in relationships with individuals that are/were ardent anti-Catholic.
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