Do you NOT like Valentine's day?

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Where’s the option for:

‘I don’t like it because I never have a boyfriend at that time of the year, however if one magically appeared I may suddenly love it!’

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I am not a sentimental person and I don’t go in for schmaltz. I make sure my husband does not feel “obligated” to get me anything on Valentine’s Day. In our kids’ lessons that week, we will probably discuss Saint Valentine, though.

This Valentine’s Day we will be traveling to the next state over to visit my dear mother in law, who is in the middle of chemotherapy. It will be a day or two before her next round, and her best chance to visit with her grandkids before she has to feel horrible again for a while. 😦

We’ll be staying in a hotel but sharing a room with our three kids, so I doubt there’ll be much “romance” going on…but much love. 👍
 
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Where’s the option for:

‘I don’t like it because I never have a boyfriend at that time of the year, however if one magically appeared I may suddenly love it!’

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LOL!

That falls under the last option. 😃

Anyways, my friends are pretty limited to a Catholic community, so there’s no sexual expectations there. Its clean stuff.

It still just bugs me even more to see this couples being even a bit more lovey dovey. I see that stuff on TV and I just turn the channel, I see my family and friends do that…I don’t really have the option…though I wish I did! 🙂

Of course, I AM on a good path to a deeper relationship with a wonderful young woman. I have no complaints in FINDING someone…ITs just the huggy, kissy and actually being ABLE TO SEND FLOWERS OR SOMETHING that I can be jealous of.

Yes, yes…I have flaws…sue me…
 
Catholic_Kenpo said:
There needs to be an option for indifference. I don’t have any reason to celebrate it, but I don’t begrudge anyone the opportunity either.

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Ditto. I’m pretty indifferent. I don’t really give or expect much because I’d rather celebrate days that are more important personally like anniversaries than this hyper- commercialized day.
 
My husband buys me roses and Belgian chocolates, so of course I love it! ❤️
 
My husband always gets me a little something, roses or chocolates or a book or a coffee mug. I make him a special cake, usually red velvet cake with cream cheese icing. Oh, and my husband gets our daughters a flower each. They LOVE it.

However, it’s not a “big deal” with us. It’s just a little extra something we do.

That said, we are as “lovey-dovey” as we can be whenever we are alone. We don’t flaunt our marriage in front of our friends, none of whom are married. We are unfailingly respectful and courteous to each other, but we don’t make people feel “icky.” 😉

So, I LOVE St. Valentine’s day. I love the excuse to do a little something extra for my husband, and I love the flowers! But don’t worry; I try to do little nice things for my husband regularly, not just one day of the year.

But I do remember back before I was married. I was Protestant then. St. Valentine’s Day lacked something then that it has now. St. Valentine! 😊
 
It’s fun when you’re a kid and you get all that candy and chocolate and give everyone in your class those cute cards. Also, since I went to Catholic school, our teachers would focus on St. Valentine so we got to learn a little bit about him. Otherwise, I’ve probably really celebrated it romantically 2 or 3 times - so I guessed that I would be under the “I don’t care for it”.

My husband and I actually make a point to not celebrate it on that day. We may just say “Happy Valentine’s Day” and do the things that we usually do almost every day. We feel it’s a commercial, money-making event where prices are jacked up to gorge people’s pockets and try to guilt-trip them, especially the men, to go out and purchase things for their loved ones, lest their loved ones and society will brand them as inconsiderate, worthless beings. I just don’t think that’s a nice thing.

All that said, I have nothing against other people who like to celebrate it. It’s more of the vendors who take advantage of the people which turn us off to it.
 
I’m indifferent to it, really. I have a boyfriend, but we won’t do anything special. (Well, it’s kind of hard because we’re in different countries at the moment.) If it happens to fall on a day when we have our nice phone chats, we’ll probably wish each other a happy Valentine’s day - or not. 🤷 It doesn’t have a prominent place in my social calendar, that’s for sure.

Here in Korea, Valentine’s day is ONLY for women to buy men chocolates or flowers. Men reciprocate on White Day, on March 14th. Then those who are single celebrate Black Day on April 14th and go out for lunch with their single friends. It’s much more equitable - and three times as complicated.
 
I think there already is a Single’s Day out there for those who want to celebrate it. Can’t remember the website about it, but it sounds like great fun, and a good time to hang out with other single friends of all persuasions and show how much you appreciate each other and generally dance, drink and be merry according to each person’s inclinations. 🙂

I like that idea very much. Valentine’s Day, as practiced, is of course, much the product of commercialism, but it’s also a lovely time even for those couples who are not interested in the materialistic aspects to celebrate too!

I might also add the continued observation of ‘Talk Like a Pirate Day’ and, ahem, ‘Steak and a deleted for the delicate sensibilities of this forum Day’ (the satirical ‘men’s answer to all that Valentiney stuff’) among internet/independently-popularized commemorative Days-of-Fun as examples of how these phenomena get started. 🙂
 
All Valentines day is a holiday made up but card companys to rub it in singles peoples face that there single. And it hurts bad
 
Hey, St. Valentine is a martyr of the Church! Don’t ban his feast day! 👍

I remember that it was not fun to be single on Valentine’s Day. Here in Japan, we actually get the commercialized version TWICE. We get Valentine’s Day in February which is girls-give-to-guys only. Then we get “White Day” on 14 March, when the guys give back to the girls. And they give anything white, from white chocolate to marshmallows to diamonds to tissues. (If you get tissues it means the boy you gave chocolate to in February doesn’t like you; you will cry when you learn how little he feels for you–hence the tissues.)

Talk about not fun.

But if you think of it as St. Valentine’s Day, then you can use the opportunity to give something to someone who would not otherwise be thought of on this day.
 
Yeah, Sillara, I almost brought Valentine’s/White Day up myself, but was worried about getting into a discussion of the even more horrible pressure those particular holidays often promote, especially concerning women in their careers. 😦
 
My mom always made Valentine’s Day fun when I was little. We’d use paper doilies to make valentines for my grandparents and my great aunts. On the day itself, before school, she always had a little sweet waiting at my place at the table. She made it special.

When I was single, my girlfriends and I always had a little impromptu Vaentine’s Day party all by ourselves with all the silly heart candies we loved when we were young.

My husband and I agreed long ago when we were dating to mark the day, but never to go overboard about it. One year he baked me cookies! This year we’re going to explore a new resaurant.

It’s fun to acknowledge the person you love (or people–I send my grandfather a valentine as well!), and while it’s true we should be doing that every day of the year, it’s special to have one day set aside for it.

*Stella
 
Not a big fan of it. I don’t hate it, as long as it’s a celebration of all forms of love (family love, friendship, married love) and people are sending cute, innocent penny valentine type cards. But when it devolves into snoogy-oogy couples’ day, that’s when I have to tune it out.
 
Stella76 said:
My mom always made Valentine’s Day fun when I was little. We’d use paper doilies to make valentines for my grandparents and my great aunts. On the day itself, before school, she always had a little sweet waiting at my place at the table. She made it special.

When I was single, my girlfriends and I always had a little impromptu Vaentine’s Day party all by ourselves with all the silly heart candies we loved when we were young.

My husband and I agreed long ago when we were dating to mark the day, but never to go overboard about it. One year he baked me cookies! This year we’re going to explore a new resaurant.

It’s fun to acknowledge the person you love (or people–I send my grandfather a valentine as well!), and while it’s true we should be doing that every day of the year, it’s special to have one day set aside for it.

*Stella
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I agree. We celebrated it too growing up, in a fun way, I remember one year when we were little we wrote poems for my mom’s great aunt and our great aunt (one was a widow, one was divorced) and we all went out to eat with them. Other times mom would set up a breakfast with heart doilies as palce settings and she would give us candy etc. 🙂 I always loved shopping the clearance Valentine candy ( I loved cinamon imperials, and they always had a ton left over).
As a married couple we don’t go crazy wasting money on it, but its fun to have a day set to celebrate (even if this year my goal is to not throw up with morning sickness, and help him as much as I can with the kids, since he is doing an awesome job with them while I have ms).
 
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