Fine. You seem to make unity the priority thing. I was raised in a Catholic/Protestant situation - a long story - but have studied religion in some detail. Spent time at a Trappist monastery, keep informed through EWTN, Catholic radio, *Our Sunday Visitor,* attending mass, etc,
Unlike you, apparently, I find myself moving further away from traditional Catholicism. I emphasize traditional because most Catholics I know resemble me in that we think for ourselves. We do not view doctrinal orthodoxy and required conformity as a plus in this era of more and more well-educated, thinking people.
You mention Baptism and you give different views by different denominations. As for me personally, there are various explanations and traditions re Baptism and they all would be acceptable in what I call 'big tent' Christianity. There is an argument for believers' baptism by immersion - if Jesus is our model he was immersed at age 30. There is an argument for infant baptism. I don't feel it essential that Christians all take the same position on that. We have in this area several federated Protestant churches, where - for example - Baptists, Congregationalists and Methodists merged. They offer baptism by different means and at different ages. The Eastern Orthodox, as you know, immerse babies, and confirm them in the same ceremony! Personally, I don't think God cares a hoot about such differences. He regards the heart rather than ancient practices that vary from place to place.
I crave Christian unity, but not union. We can be united in spirit while not united organically. There is, as you know, a World Council of Churches that brings together many denominations around the world. That's enough for me. Diversity within unity.
More and more Christians, at least among my friends, are much less concerned about doctrinal conformity than they are about cooperation among Christians to feed the hungry, etc.
Okay. Now, this incessant talk of 20,000 denominations is exaggerated poppycock. There are 7-8 main denominational families among Protestants: Baptists, Methodists (Wesleyans), Reformed (Presbyterians, Congregationalists, etc.), Lutherans, Anglicans, and Pentecostalists. There probably are 100 or even many more Wesleyan groups - like the United Methodist Church in the USA, the Methodists in Britain, the Methodists in North India, the Church of The Nazarene, the Salvation Army - etc., all part of the World Methodist Council. In addition there are the Mennonite groups that I admire, and the Quakers whom I especially love. Groups like the Mormons and Jehovah Witnesses are not Protestants, of course.
I have no problem with you finding your faith in Catholicism. I deeply admire priests and nuns who do so much good in the world, especially in distant and impoverished. lands. I admire much of Catholic education and Catholic hospitals.
It's Catholic insistence upon doctrinal conformity that tends to alienate me. Perhaps I'm too influenced by American democracy, but I favor 'think and let think'. Was it Wesley who said: "If you love God as I love God, let us join hands and walk together."?
So, my problem with Catholicism, since a child actually, was its claim to be the one and only true church and its insistence upon doctrinal conformity. Back in college I wrote a thesis on St. Thomas Aquinas, and to use 'caged' books (forbidden to read) I had to get the signature of a priest. Didn't like that. I feel that Catholicism forces the faithful to wear blinders, when I treasure the freedom to ponder, weigh, investigate, research, perhaps even doubt, or take a neutral position. Was the Virgin Mary a lifelong virgin? Perhaps, but does it matter? She married Joseph, after all, and today lack of conjugal relations would be cause for annulment.
And isn't it strangem by the way, that Jesus' lineage in both Matthew and Luke is traced through Joseph?
I also have questions about all sorts of apparitions, levitation and bilocation by saints (even Padre Pio), veneration of relics, adulation of the Pope, yes, even transubstantiation and the ability of priests to declare that someone's sins are forgiven. I leave that to God.
We could go on and on. I love exploring theology and refuse to submit my God-given search for spiritual truth to any church or preacher. I'm quite sure God respects the earnest seeker after truth. When Jesus was asked point-blank how to inherit eternal life, he said nothing about doctrine. Love God and love one another. That's the core of my Christian commitment, and otherwise I walk by a simple faith and not by knowledge.
God bless Catholic, Protestants and people of every creed, color and country. May religion serve as a bridge rather than as a barrier.