Does it really matter what you wear?

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Since I am 55, I guess am entitled to some (name removed by moderator)ut here. A sense of style is part of forming your identity which is part of the “job” of being an adolescent. When maturity kicks in, you know what looks good on you, what type of clothing and so forth projects the image you have of yourself, and presents your identity to the world. To do that, you have to know who you are, to have a strong sense of self, to accept yourself and to like yourself.

It also means you make your own decisions and leave off being told what to wear by a bunch of women-hating fashion designers and so-called marketing experts and buyers for the department and fashions stores.

At different stages of my life I dressed as I wished to project myself, as I wished to be perceived. I also dressed appropriately for the work I was doing. For housework I dress like it is serious work-sturdy shoes, usually a white shirt and pants, hair tied back, work gloves etc. like I am going to work, not like I am slobbing around the house. For work in an office or academic setting I dress like the senior level women in that setting - business suit or dress, modest shoes and stockings, neat hair, impeccable grooming, minimal accesories. For factory work the uniform-chemical resistant work clothes, steel toed boots, hard hat. For working with kids, washable slacks, blouse and athletic shoes. I like polo shirts because they have become uniform-like, go with slacks or skirts, and are no-iron.
 
It should matter, maybe some dress in ways that “make them feel or look good” but be considerate of those around you. Dress like you are going to a fancy banquette and Jesus Christ is your host. Don’t wear anything that you would be ashamed to see Jesus in face to face. Don’t wear anything that the old man behind you would find distracting. A few weeks back, I was that old man. I was sitting directly behind a young woman with a low cut jeans and a midriff shirt. The tattoo was very nice, but her butt crack was disturbing. Makes it hard to concentrate on the consecration with that in front of you.

On the other hand, I would rather see someone dressed in poor taste persuing the Lord in Church than not. We are fortunate that we don’t live in countries that women are required to cover every inch of bare skin or risk being thrown in jail. Practical modesty and common sense are the key to correct dress, at all times.
 
Paris,

Thank you for the reply. 🙂

Serisouly, and respectfully, it seems pretty clear that you know what you wear matters–or else you would not ask.
 
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TPJCatholic:
Paris,

Thank you for the reply. 🙂

Serisouly, and respectfully, it seems pretty clear that you know what you wear matters–or else you would not ask.
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Sure, no problem!😃

I just wanted to still dress the way I do but not too “overboard” but enough to still be in fashion, but not to “disappoint” the parish.
 
Paris,

If you thought you were dressing appropriately, you would not be asking the question. In this case follow your conscience, because I think it has already told you that you are not dressing appropriately.
 
(To follow up what you said earlier, how about buying one of those pretty summer shawls or a pretty light summer sweater to cover your shoulders in the summer instead of a wardrobe of new shirts?)
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Scarfs are great for that. They’re classy and so few girls wear them that bonus points for uniqueness are practically a given. 😉

Nothing wrong with shirts if they aren’t overly male and don’t expose too much.

Let me stress again: If the clothes are classy (which doesn’t mean trendy - these two are not synonyms), guys tend to be intrigued by the girl who wears the more covering ones. She clearly cares for her looks, so lack of feminity is not the case, so it must be something different… And they also catch (sort of empathically) the idea that perhaps they should keep their hands about themselves and show some respect. But if we’re talking respect, more matters than just the clothes. The way the girl behaves, the way she speaks, how she receives the ladies’ treatment by a couteous guy, how she stands up for herself against disrespectful treatment and so on.
 
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TPJCatholic:
Paris,

If you thought you were dressing appropriately, you would not be asking the question. In this case follow your conscience, because I think it has already told you that you are not dressing appropriately.
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For example, let’s say I walked into Mass one hot summer evening wearing a spaghetti strap top and shorts. In reality for that parish, that would be considered NOT ACCEPTABLE. But I wouldn’t have known that unless I was told!

I was tempted and even thinking about - when hot summer comes around - wearing a sleevless shirt or even a tank top (that criss-crosses in the back) to Mass! Imagine how embarrassing and perhaps terrible that would be if I did that and wasn’t aware of it. That’s WHY I’m asking…to get a better idea so when summer does come around, I will know what to wear…but still be in style. Makes sense? 😉
 
Paris,

You just sighted examples, you chose what to make as an example–that means you know what crosses the line.
 
Paris,

If you were told ahead of time that you were going to have a one-on-one meeting with Jesus, what would you wear? How would you prepare yourself?
When you go to Mass, you are having a meeting with Christ!
 
Paris,

If you are invited to a formal wedding, what would you wear?

If someone died and you went to wake, what would you wear?
 
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TPJCatholic:
Paris,

If you were told ahead of time that you were going to have a one-on-one meeting with Jesus, what would you wear? How would you prepare yourself?
When you go to Mass, you are having a meeting with Christ!
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I would wear whatever He wanted me to wear (even if it’s what the preists wear!).

Hmmm…maybe that’s why I just wore what I did at the other Protestant church…'cause He wasn’t present or was He? But Mass is TOTALLY different than Protestant churches!
 
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TPJCatholic:
Paris,

If you are invited to a formal wedding, what would you wear?

If someone died and you went to wake, what would you wear?
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I would wear what I would be required to wear.

But you guys have to realize and understand that at the church I used to go to (Protestant), it was casual on Saturday nights! So I’m used to casual Saturday nights! So I wore what I thought would be acceptable yet still in style. Yet if they had a dress code, I would wear what I would have to wear but since they didn’t, I just wore what I thought would be appropriate for church yet still cool. I can’t stress that enough!😃
 
Paris,

Yes, but what would you wear if you were invited to a meeting with the Lord and He did not tell you what to wear?

Yes–Mass is a blessing because Jesus comes to us there.
 
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TPJCatholic:
Paris,

Yes, but what would you wear if you were invited to a meeting with the Lord and He did not tell you what to wear?

Yes–Mass is a blessing because Jesus comes to us there.
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Can’t answer that one! 😛 What would Jesus like?
 
Actually, Jesus did tell us what to wear, when He told the parable of the king who invited people to the wedding banquet of his son. The original invitees all had excuses, “I’m busy”, “I can’t come now”, etc. So the king sent out his servants, because the banquet was ready, and told them to bring in every person they could find. The servants did.

The king came around to check on how things were going, and saw a man there, who wasn’t “dressed in a wedding garment”. The king asked the man, “Why did you come, not dressed in a wedding garment”? The man couldn’t answer. So the king told his servants, “Take out this man and throw him into the darkness, where there will be wailing and gnashing of teeth. For many are called, but few are chosen”.

Now, this parable works on many levels. Our “garment” can be our appropriate appearance, our souls, our inner and our outer presentation of our selves, etc.

To those who say, “How can you expect an ordinary man to be ready at all times with a wedding garment, after all, he was just pulled into this thing by the king’s servants”. . .remember, the king ASKED the man why he wasn’t wearing the wedding garment. The man didn’t answer. He didn’t excuse himself. If he didn’t have appropriate clothes, he would have stated so, and been accommodated before the banquet even started. It’s not like kings don’t have plenty of extra clothing, fabric, etc. available, right?

Bottom line: We need to project both our inner and outer selves the best we can. If we are poor and needy, we must do what we can with our “outer” selves, but our “inner” self can always be fresh, clean, and beautiful for God. If we are neither poor nor needy, have an abundance of clothing from which to choose, then we need to be considering how to present ourselves for God rather than for the hot guy, the “other girls”, or the fashion maven of the month. . .IMO.

I think you’ll make the right choice, Paris, because you cared enough to ask and took the time to listen.
 
If you are going to the Sacrifice of the Mass, THINK where you are going!

When you go to Mass, you are going to a Mystical Crucifixion of Jesus Christ. It is the Sacrifice of the Mass.

Would you go to the Crucifixion of Jesus dressed as if you were going to the beach?
 
Paris,

You have no idea what you would be appropriate clothes to wear if you were invited to a personal meeting with Jesus?

Doesn’t Jesus desire our best?
 
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TPJCatholic:
Paris,

You have no idea what you would be appropriate clothes to wear if you were invited to a personal meeting with Jesus?

Doesn’t Jesus desire our best?
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Yes
 
Well, what are we going to do, should there be a minority who are aroused by appropriate clothing,modest dressing. I’m sure there are those out there. Like my dad said to my mum in private the more clothes you have on, the more thats left to the imagination. Oh, dear shock horror, I hear you all cringing. Come on, can we be accountable for everybodys lack of control. Why dont we just wear potato sacks and be done with it? Oopps, what if that were arousing to someone? This is so boring.

Shae
 
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