Does it seem like God says No more than Yes?

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Warning; I’m probably just feeling sorry for myself…

I’m thinking back on some significant things for which I’ve prayed in my lifetime, and it seems like God’s answer has always been “no”. It started when I was 10 years old and my grandfather was taken to the hospital. I can still picture myself going into my room at their house, kneeling down and praying that he would be ok, but he wasn’t. He was DOA at the hospital.

Then there’s all the praying I did for my mother to survive melanoma. She was diagnosed in October 2011 and was gone by August 2012.

And there are relationships that I was in, that I prayed would work out and never did. I’m in my late 40s and still single.

Again, i’m feeling sorry for myself tonight because I’m not getting relief for my chronic condition. I’ve prayed daily for over two years about this, and it seems nothing changes or gets better.

I feel like this is going to be a very long night for me…
 
❤️ First of all, big hugs. ❤️

God says yes. God says no. God says wait. God says hmmm…

At this point I ask for what I want or need. I say with Our Lord, “Not my will be done, but Yours.” And then I add, “Just grant me the grace to endure whatever you choose.”

I don’t think much about how my prayers are answered, so I can’t tell you if it’s more yes or no. For me, it’s all about surrender, acceptance, trust, thankfulness, and of course, grace.

I pray you find peace, and healing in both body and soul.
 
Gertabelle, thank you. i’m out of likes, so I can’t like your post. ❤️
 
Perhaps it’s us saying No more to God than us saying yes.
Your grandpa was prepared by the Lord to come home to him and when the day came, you said No. When your mother was ill, he was preparing her to come home to Him, and you said No.
I believe when it comes to dating, God had people in mind but they said No to following his plan and yes to their own ideas.

I am sorry for your chronic suffering. May you have the strength to unite your suffering with the suffering of Christ for the conversion of sinners and peace in this world as Our Blessed Mother asked at Fatima. May you gain great merit for yourself and those most in need in this hour. God be your strength.
 
Yeah, I feel ya’. I prayed my rear end off and my mom died of cancer anyway. God says ‘No’ a lot. Some crosses are meant to be carried. Make sure you are sleeping OK. Get some ambien or something from your doctor if you need it. If you can sleep reliably, you can manage whatever the day brings. Join some Meetups or other social clubs locally and get out.

Big hug from Boomerang! :hugs: We are all in this same boat! ⛵
 
For me personally, the difficulty isn’t the ‘no’ answer.

I can take it if the answer is no. It is still difficult, but…

For me, the main difficulty is not knowing whether it is a yes or no.

It’s because I could be hoping all this time, then it turns out to be no all along. It’s like, what was the point of me hoping and waiting, when it just turns out to be nada?

I could have not given myself that dashed hope from the start.

Dashed hopes are difficult for me, not the no answers. I sometimes wonder if other people feel this way, or am I strange for being like this.
 
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There’s this article that I’ve bookmarked:

"In the great spiritual classic Trustful Surrender to Divine Providence the author counsels us to pray like this: Lord either give me this thing I so ardently desire so I will be happy, or make me so happy without it that I will no longer desire it, for it doesn’t matter how I’m happy."

theraphaelremedy.com

Does It Matter How You're Happy

Allison Ricciaridi, LMHC challenges you to rethink how you've been approaching happiness and to seek out ways to find and claim happiness for yourself.
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You’re not feeling sorry for yourself. People usually want things to turn out for the best. Don’t blame yourself. I guess the alternative is to not pray. I’ll probably be attacked for this, I don’t think everything is in God’s hands like most people think. I don’t know if I see the point in praying to the Lord other than to thank Him for the good;
 
Dont give up DeniseNY, lots of people are praying for ya and hoping you find the help and strength that you need. I do think God does at times or more often than not says no to our prayers, why, who knows, I don’t think He doesn’t answer them to be mean though or that it is because He is mad at us, or doesn’t love us but I do think it is because God has some kind of plan that doesnt make sense to us because we are not on the same level of thinking as God, and to us, it just feels and appears like God is being a jerk. But deep down I know that isn’t true.,You have the ability to constantly keep looking for help, for relief, to keep seeking strength, through prayer and others, and to pray for the ability to keep getting up each and every day , and find one good thing to say thank you for.

Lots of love,hope an prayers to you DeniseNY, you arent alone, don’t give up.
 
Thank you all very much. I am still out of like, so I can’t like any of you posts (but I have read each and everyone one of them).
 
We cannot limit what our Divine God has to say to simple human word of ‘yes’ or ‘no’. The Lord has his plan which may be either, neither, both or responses which we cannot comprehend. Hope this helps. Remember, God is all good, therefore, no matter what he has in plan for us, whether we want it or not, it will be what is right and just, and if it is right and just then it is good.
 
I have no words of wisdom, only :pray:t2::pray:t2::pray:t2: And hugs for you :hugs:
 
Sorry for your suffering.
God really has a different way than we do. I don’t think He ever says no. He has a better plan for us than what we’ve asked for. I know it must have hurt you to lose those people from your life greatly, but they are at peace with Him and you will be with them again one day. I think when we feel like we aren’t getting what we pray for we should ask for different things. Though God does give us chronic conditions, He does allow us to experience them for a reason. This is one we may never know. We do need to trust in Him even if we can’t know this reason. Everything He does is for our own good, like the perfect parent that He is. Just like a 2yr old can’t understand why he/she must stop playing and go to bed and will wail and moan at the horror of it (akin to our praying for our life not to change is their wailing in desperation to stay awake and continue playing) but the good parent prepares the child for bed and puts them to bed and sings/reads them to sleep etc. It is a lot easier if they submit to it. As with us and our Perfect Parent, God, if we submit ourselves to His gentle administrations even if they seem like and are dire sufferings then it will be easier and better for us in the long run, better for our soul. There are many trials in life and many of them hurt. The suffering soul is close to God. He knows what He is doing. We must trust in Him. I too have a chronic illness. Perhaps pray for the strength to endure this suffering and for His strength to be with you always and for the grace to accept His unfailing help. God bless you, I hope you do find some relief.
 
If this is the case, it probably says more about us than about God.
 
You will probably find if you query all your Catholic friends and relatives that they have many times prayed for the cure of, or the improved health of someone close to them, and found those prayers to have been in vain. God says no many times more than He says yes. In fact, I can’t ever remember prayer for some friend or family member who was terminally ill having cured them. Ask around your own circle of acquaintances, I’ll bet none of them report a definite answer to their prayers that could only be attributable to God’s certain intercession.
 
You are allowed to feel sorry for yourself.

For a time. It is a hotel, not a permanent residence. Do you want to be Christ-like? Ask for suffering and the answer will be an immediate “Yes!” But wait, you are already suffering! That is a “yes” to your innate and heartfelt desire to follow Christ. To ask for a lessening of suffering is to ask for a lighter cross.

There is an inexhaustable well spring of grace to assist you through the tough times. Rather than asking for relief, ask for sufficient grace. You, Denise, can learn even to desire suffering for your love of God. Two Spaniards named Teresa and John did exactly this. So did many of the great Saints.
 
Nah, I would not ask for suffering.

This is the one prayer that God answers with a yes, and answers promptly.

I do not recommend anyone to ask for more suffering. Unless you are specifically called to, or want to offer yourself as a victim soul.

Nope.
 
Hugs :hugs: to you.

This reminds me of a time when I just graduated from university and was out looking for a job. My parents were gracious enough to let me stay with them while I looked for a job. There was this great sounding job that appeared and I begged God for this. The answer at first was no and if I waited longer an even greater job would be mine. I was stubborn and said I wanted this job. I guess I did not trust God. I got the job I wanted and was miserable 😩.

God forgave me soon enough and the great job he promised showed up. I took the chance and it turned out to be the best job I have ever had. I learned my lesson.

Now, the hardest for me is not having an answer. My inner atheist comes out.
 
Well it does make I person feel good to see the success of praying

Yes-No - not now?

. meaning that people pray without getting an understanding of prayer.

And I had 12 years of catholic school education.
As an adult . I now wonder what my catholic education was worth?

Go to mass and go to confession?
This seems to be what I learned.?

Answered prayer seems to be a mystery??
 
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