Does the high divorce rate among Christians undermine the credibility of what it teaches about dating and marriage?

[PaulinVA]

All I know is that I can’t keep living as a single person anymore. It is lonely and miserable.

Well, let me be blunt. You attract a mate by being exciting and vibrant. If you are lonely and miserable, and are desperate for a relationship every time you meet someone, you aren’t going to have much luck.

Abandoning your beliefs is not the way to become an attractive person. Having a full life, having something to bring to a relationship, is attractive. Having your own interests, hobbies, activities, keeps you busy, does help you meet people, and helps you enjoy your life.

I would suggest you talk to a Catholic counselor, either at Catholic Charities or elsewhere, to work through these issues. It won’t turn you into a babe magnet, but it could help you understand yourself and set you on the right course.

 

[CaliLobo]

Update:
I still don’t believe in God, and I still don’t wish to worship him. I am officially an agnostic. A loving God should not take away a near-perfect woman from a man. A loving God should not let bad things happen to good people, in general.

I have decided to move to another city, because the numbers are slim here (see my other thread). My sadness has compromised my ability to make new friends as well. The only thing that keeps me here is passion for my work. But I will not enjoy my work at the cost of being single.

 

[ServantPD]

Update:
I still don’t believe in God, and I still don’t wish to worship him. I am officially an agnostic. A loving God should not take away a near-perfect woman from a man. A loving God should not let bad things happen to good people, in general.

Are you serious? Have you completley forgotten the suffering around the Passion? Haven’t you realized yet that suffering on good people actually makes us look more and more like Him? Do you call that ‘evil’?

I have decided to move to another city, because the numbers are slim here (see my other thread). My sadness has compromised my ability to make new friends as well. The only thing that keeps me here is passion for my work. But I will not enjoy my work at the cost of being single.

I’d like to see you with a vocation for the priesthood. I mean really, you seem completley desperate because you don’t have a girl, what if God decided you weren’t meant to be with one (like He did with me, for instance)? Are you really placing God above girls? I think you’re not…

Wheter you think yourself as an agnostic or whatever, do sufficiently thorough studies and you’ll find out that atheism isn’t the way to go; the worldview is incoherent and goes against common sense. And by technical terms, you go back to theism when you realize atheism isn’t a valid choice. I was an atheist myself and I reduced my own worldview to the absurd when I learned basic laws of logic, and that is saying something…

I’ll just say you can go into the cold as much as you want, but when you attempt to get slightly closer to Rome, you’ll feel the warm feeling in here and run back. The Prodigal Son shows this, and countless people show it as well.

Will be praying for you. God bless

 

[underacloud]

Update:
I still don’t believe in God, and I still don’t wish to worship him. I am officially an agnostic. A loving God should not take away a near-perfect woman from a man. A loving God should not let bad things happen to good people, in general.

I’m still confused. I thought you were angry at God. Now you don’t believe in God. Are you angry at something you don’t believe exists? Now that’s very strange.

A loving God will want what’s best for you. But God will also know what’s best for you, much more than you will. Maybe this failed “relationship” wasn’t in your best interests.

Good luck with being agnostic. If an all loving and wise God isn’t going to help you in this life, I’m not sure what you think your other options are.

 

[CaliLobo]

Are you serious? Have you completley forgotten the suffering around the Passion? Haven’t you realized yet that suffering on good people actually makes us look more and more like Him? Do you call that ‘evil’?

I’d like to see you with a vocation for the priesthood. I mean really, you seem completley desperate because you don’t have a girl, what if God decided you weren’t meant to be with one (like He did with me, for instance)? Are you really placing God above girls? I think you’re not…

I’ve thought about that. Maybe the priesthood is in my future. I’d make a good priest; I have intellectual passion, I have Protestant background so I can be a more engaging, keep-it-real speaker than typical Catholic priests, and if I can’t succeed with women now, it’s not like any girls are gonna start flirting with me as a priest! But I don’t agree with Catholicism, for various reasons I’ve pointed out in my various posts.

underacloud:

I’m still confused. I thought you were angry at God. Now you don’t believe in God. Are you angry at something you don’t believe exists? Now that’s very strange.

A loving God will want what’s best for you. But God will also know what’s best for you, much more than you will. Maybe this failed “relationship” wasn’t in your best interests.

Good luck with being agnostic. If an all loving and wise God isn’t going to help you in this life, I’m not sure what you think your other options are.

Not sure whether God exists, but if he does, it’s clear he doesn’t care. That was my position since the first post in this thread.

You make it sound like being agnostic is so tough. But if that were the case, why do more people leave Catholicism than enter it? Why are some people happy as agnostics? If they can do it, so can I…

 

[underacloud]

You make it sound like being agnostic is so tough. But if that were the case, why do more people leave Catholicism than enter it? Why are some people happy as agnostics? If they can do it, so can I…

Why? Because faith is difficult. It doesn’t mean it’s wrong to have faith.

But what do you mean by happiness? Temporal happiness? Sure, that’s easy enough, if you forget about such things as the nature of existence, eternity, purpose, etc. You can’t answer those important questions as an agnostic. You can’t find any true fulfillment.

But you’ll also find people of faith lead very fulfilling lives temporally too. Going back to the start of this thread, the divorce rate for practising Catholics (and it holds for people who practise any faith) is much lower than for non-religious people. So you want a happy marriage? Practise a faith and meet someone who shares it. But I think we’ve been over this…over and over…