Dress Code for Mass

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i think the only dress code people should use is what’s proper and polite for them…

we shouldn’t have complicating too much about some simple things like dress code…

don’t blow things out of proportion…
 
I was going to be disappointed if no one posted this picture in this thread. 😄

I’ve only known one parish in real life to adopt a dress code, and it was pretty much “please do not wear shorts”. I didn’t attend enough to get the sense of how well it was received when it was implemented.

M parish does not have a dress code, but by and large people mostly dress appropriately.
 
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Did people back then really play cards at church?
I guess people at the extraordinary form today are much more into the Latin Mass than people wwre in the older days. They wanted vernacular but had not much choice. Today people choose Latin (either EF or OF) but before they had only Latin. Is this correct? There was a great need for people to be engage at Mass?

And to me the EF seems more European than the OF which seems more national. Sure there was Mass in 1962 for different language groups but Mass and music was in Latin (and Greek). Right?
 
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An important point to remember about dress codes is that some people are going to be turned away. You need to be sure you really want to place a bouncer at every door to hustle people out who fail to meet your standards.
 
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Mine does have a dress code, actually. I don’t mind, but I don’t know that it’s really necessary.
 
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That’s so sad that the parents don’t know what is appropriate for the children to wear to church or at all. Those sorts of clothing are the kid of things that in my opinion, Our Lady was talking about at Fatima in 1917, the fashions that would come about that would offend Our Lord very much (sins against the 6th and 9th commandments) I know they are only little girls and not yet grown up. But it all starts there, they are already learning how to dress in a sinful way inciting sin in others and also choosing to treat themselves as an object of desire and not the beautiful and valuable daughters of god that they are. They may well be too young to know what they are doing, but the predators aren’t. I’m a retired police constable so I know this for a fact.
CCC 2522. Modesty protects the mystery of persons and their love. It encourages patience and moderation in loving relationships; it requires that the conditions for the definitive giving and commitment of man and woman to one another be fulfilled. Modesty is decency. It inspires ones choice of clothing. It keeps silence or reserve where there is evident risk of unhealthy curiosity. It is discreet.

The parents not being willing to listen is a clear sign of pride, but one battle at a time. Their children are confirmed and at church.
 
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Maybe we should go back to the dresscode in 1962
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Most of us can dress just fine for Liturgy without having to go back to wearing hats and gloves.
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But if we did it might be kinda fun. Like playing dress up. 👒👗👠🧤
 
I would like a dress code for altar servers plus those receiving sacraments for the first time. The altar servers should wear inconspicuous brown or black leather shoes, no hairpieces such as bright bows, and no distracting perfumes.

Having grown up in another denomination where dresses, suits, and ties were the norm, I am very happy to see dress casual or casual wear among parishioners which promotes community.
 
Sursumcorda1 said:
I would like a dress code for altar servers plus those receiving sacraments for the first time. The altar servers should wear inconspicuous brown or black leather shoes, no hairpieces such as bright bows, and no distracting perfumes.
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Why would boys wear bows and hair pieces? 😉

No offense intended, but I couldn’t resist. Our pastor is big on only male altar servers, since the purpose of altar servers is to prepare young men for the possibility of the priesthood. I know that females are allowed, but if a parish has plenty of young men willing to serve…
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Having grown up in another denomination where dresses, suits, and ties were the norm, I am very happy to see dress casual or casual wear among parishioners which promotes community.
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Interesting point. I’m of the mindset that there needs to be a happy medium. One should dress respectfully for Mass, but not at the expense of blowing the family budget on clothes.
 
Maybe if I could wear a hat or fascinator like the women in the British Royal Family.
 
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jesusmademe said:
Did people back then really play cards at church?
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Not that I ever saw.
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I guess people at the extraordinary form today are much more into the Latin Mass than people wwre in the older days. They wanted vernacular but had not much choice.
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Not really. They just did what the Church decreed. Mass was in Latin, so they attended Latin Mass. When it changed to the vernacular, they attended Mass in their own language.
 
We don’t have a dress code but our priest mention appropriate attire for Mass frequently. Mostly about short shorts & skirts/dresses, excessively tight attire, and thin strapped or strapless tops.

I have a strict dress code for our youth program and even stricter code for the confirmation Mass itself for both the confirmandi and sponsors. I have scarves available to cover those who chose to not abide by the dress code.
 
I think there should be, especially in the summer. Many no longer have any sense of propriety and decency anymore, especially females.
 
Maybe where you are, but not in my area. Females especially need a remedial course in dressing with dignity.
 
I am reminded of an occurrence at a mass i attended several years ago. It was a weekday Mass. A man came in, sweaty and filthy, in clothes that were pretty raggedy. The church was in an upscale area, nowhere near an area with the poor - so we all knew it wasn’t some homeless man who wandered in. Someone who walked in with him snidely noted he drove a Mercedes. The clucking from the offended was audible.

It turned out he had been working in his yard when he got word his son was killed in action in Afghanistan. You know the rest of the story - he went straight to Mass.

So…no. We do not need the dressing police. St. Peters may need it because it’s a much a museum as a church in the eyes of much of the world. Otherwise take a chill pill.
 
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So…no. We do not need the dressing police. St. Peters may need it because it’s a much a museum as a church in the eyes of much of the world. Otherwise take a chill pill.
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Seen at a local parish; should they take a chill pill?
Entry to the church is forbidden for those not conforming to the minimum standards of Christian modesty, including wearing the following: Clothing with a low neckline, sleeveless garments which expose the shoulders, clothing that exposes the knees or upper legs (whether sitting or standing), clothing that exposes the stomach or back, or clothing made of see-through material.
 
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Seen at a local parish; should they take a chill pill?
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Forbidding entry to the church building for not being dressed a certain way is extreme. It would be better to occasionally publish guidelines in the bulletin, if anything. Having a “no entry” policy risks turning away the occasional curious seeker, or someone like the man mentioned above whose son had just been killed, or someone whose only opportunity to come to Mass is straight from their job where work attire is scrubs or coveralls, etc.

I get that the idea is to motivate people to dress respectfully for Mass, but there are better ways to do it. Educate your parishioners gently and realize that even then, sometimes you will get people dressed inappropriately at Mass, but no one will die. 😊
 
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