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hey all, is it sinful for a 21 year old to drink beers (not to intoxication) with his 20 year old friends? I’m not providing them and the reality of the situation is they will drink whether I’m with them or not, so is it wrong to be there?
 
Let me put it this way:

If your friends were going to be ‘stealing’ something anyway, and you weren’t going to steal yourself but just ‘hang with’ them. . .would you?

And if you were all ‘caught’ by the police, you would be charged with being an ‘accessory after the fact’.

Same with drinking–as a legal drinker, you probably would not be cited for illegal drinking, but if you were ‘caught’ with the underage drinkers, you would definitely get some kind of citation --even if it were as ‘minor’ as having their parents (and yours) be deeply, profoundly disappointed and betrayed by you for not being ‘responsible’ --because as the ‘legal adult’ you do know better than to ‘let people drink illegally’ (whether your friends ‘will do it anyway’ or not).

Do you want to be the kind of person who lets sin (and illegal drinking by those friends is sinful as it flouts the law–and they WILL, if caught, face a penalty) go by because, "hey, they’ll do it anyway, I’m not supplying it, I’m just hanging’?

By ‘hanging’ with them, you are giving them tacit approval. "It can’t be that bad–J doesn’t have a problem hanging with us even if we aren’t legal.’ You are cooperating with their sin and encouraging it if you ‘drink with them’ --and I think you know it already, and that’s why you’re asking.
 
Do you want to be the kind of person who lets sin (and illegal drinking by those friends is sinful as it flouts the law–and they WILL, if caught, face a penalty) go by because, "hey, they’ll do it anyway, I’m not supplying it, I’m just hanging’?

By ‘hanging’ with them, you are giving them tacit approval. "It can’t be that bad–J doesn’t have a problem hanging with us even if we aren’t legal.’ You are cooperating with their sin and encouraging it if you ‘drink with them’ --and I think you know it already, and that’s why you’re asking.
Is underage drinking a sin? Yes, the law says you must be 21 to purchase and drink an alcoholic beverage… But if it’s a sin, then parents who let their children have wine at the Christmas dinner are committing sin? I can understand why possession and usage of a fake ID with the intent to deceive can be considered sinful, but this seems to be a bit of a grayer area.
 
Not only is it morally wrong to do this, it is extremely dangerous. If one of these underage drinkers were to have an accident and die, you may be considered an accessory and could possibly be sued or even jailed.

Just say no. It’s not worth it.
 
Is underage drinking a sin? Yes, the law says you must be 21 to purchase and drink an alcoholic beverage… But if it’s a sin, then parents who let their children have wine at the Christmas dinner are committing sin? I can understand why possession and usage of a fake ID with the intent to deceive can be considered sinful, but this seems to be a bit of a grayer area.
The answer to the OP is wrong in my opinion. However the question of parents providing alcohol to their own children will depend on the state that you live. In Texas it is legal for a parent to provide alcohol to their own children, but not to other children. Several states, but not all have the same kind of laws. Drinking alcohol isn’t the sin, disobeying the law is the sin.
 
Drinking alcohol isn’t the sin, disobeying the law is the sin.
Well, yes, I can see what your approach is. At the same time, surely you can’t make the umbrella statement of “Whenever you disobey a law you commit a sin” for there are times when it might be necessary to disobey certain laws. Now my understanding is that as long as the law does not require you to do anything immoral, you should obey it. But then… should I be confessing jay-walking or not stopping at the stop sign or underage drinking as sins? That is, if there is nothing inherently immoral about those actions themselves, does the fact that I disobeyed the law make those actions sinful?
 
The situation the OP gave would indicate that the particular underage drinking is a sin, Marchoi.

He ‘isn’t supplying the booze’ but "they are going to drink anyway’ is a far cry from “I’m going over to my friend’s house. He’s only 20 but his parents let him drink wine with dinner, so is it ok for me to drink with them”? Further, I can tell you that if the OP was going over to a friend’s, the friend’s family was okay with having the kid drink "so long as he stays in the house’, and that it was also ‘okay’ for the kid to have friends under 21 come and drink ‘so long as they stay in the house’. . .the friend’s family could be liable for supplying alcohol to minors.

One family allowing their children to drink supervised small alcoholic drinks because of cultural heritage (let’s think Jewish Passover meals where wine is REQUIRED, or even those of French or Italian or other heritage where wine is considered a normal part of the meal) is one thing.

Letting a bunch of ‘unrelated’ kids under 21 drink ‘because they’ll do it anyway’ (and HOW they’ll get it is probably not from somebody’e mom or dad, either) and standing by . . .is quite another.
 
Let me put it this way:

If your friends were going to be ‘stealing’ something anyway, and you weren’t going to steal yourself but just ‘hang with’ them. . .would you?

And if you were all ‘caught’ by the police, you would be charged with being an ‘accessory after the fact’.

Same with drinking–as a legal drinker, you probably would not be cited for illegal drinking, but if you were ‘caught’ with the underage drinkers, you would definitely get some kind of citation --even if it were as ‘minor’ as having their parents (and yours) be deeply, profoundly disappointed and betrayed by you for not being ‘responsible’ --because as the ‘legal adult’ you do know better than to ‘let people drink illegally’ (whether your friends ‘will do it anyway’ or not).

Do you want to be the kind of person who lets sin (and illegal drinking by those friends is sinful as it flouts the law–and they WILL, if caught, face a penalty) go by because, "hey, they’ll do it anyway, I’m not supplying it, I’m just hanging’?

By ‘hanging’ with them, you are giving them tacit approval. "It can’t be that bad–J doesn’t have a problem hanging with us even if we aren’t legal.’ You are cooperating with their sin and encouraging it if you ‘drink with them’ --and I think you know it already, and that’s why you’re asking.
well if I already knew it, why would I have asked? But I see your points. I guess I’ll just be waiting another 8-9 months before I can hang with these guys then.
 
The situation the OP gave would indicate that the particular underage drinking is a sin, Marchoi.
I’m not sure I agree… at least I’m not sure what the reasoning would be behind your conclusion. And my question still stands: if there is nothing inherently immoral about the actions themselves, does the fact that I disobeyed the law make those actions sinful?
 
isnt it still illegal for a person under 21 to drink even if the person’s parent says its okay?
 
hey all, is it sinful for a 21 year old to drink beers (not to intoxication) with his 20 year old friends? I’m not providing them and the reality of the situation is they will drink whether I’m with them or not, so is it wrong to be there?
no
 
Well, yes, I can see what your approach is. At the same time, surely you can’t make the umbrella statement of “Whenever you disobey a law you commit a sin” for there are times when it might be necessary to disobey certain laws. Now my understanding is that as long as the law does not require you to do anything immoral, you should obey it. But then… should I be confessing jay-walking or not stopping at the stop sign or underage drinking as sins? That is, if there is nothing inherently immoral about those actions themselves, does the fact that I disobeyed the law make those actions sinful?
exactly. Legal justice and morality should not be mixed.
 
isnt it still illegal for a person under 21 to drink even if the person’s parent says its okay?
In some states (Texas is one) if a minor is in the presence of his/her parents or spouse (who is over 21), then they can legally drink.
 
exactly. Legal justice and morality should not be mixed.
But I argue that we have a moral obilgation to obey just laws as long as they don’t contradict our morality.

Here is an except from the CCC.
2240 Submission to authority and co-responsibility for the common good make it morally obligatory to pay taxes, to exercise the right to vote, and to defend one’s country:
Pay to all of them their dues, taxes to whom taxes are due, revenue to whom revenue is due, respect to whom respect is due, honor to whom honor is due.[45]
[Christians] reside in their own nations, but as resident aliens. They participate in all things as citizens and endure all things as foreigners… They obey the established laws and their way of life surpasses the laws… So noble is the position to which God has assigned them that they are not allowed to desert it.[46]
The Apostle exhorts us to offer prayers and thanksgiving for kings and all who exercise authority, “that we may lead a quiet and peaceable life, godly and respectful in every way.”[47]
 
But I argue that we have a moral obilgation to obey just laws as long as they don’t contradict our morality.

Here is an except from the CCC.
I can see your point. But he *is *obeying the law. It’s other people are breaking it. I am not sure if there is a law about “being in the presence of underage drinkers”…

But surely there must be a limit to this morality. I mean when prohibition was around…was it really a **sin **to drink??? i.e. it may not be in contradiction to your morals but is rather silly? …see what I mean?
 
I still wouldn’t do it. I think you leave yourself open to all kinds of potential problem esp. if you are over 21 and everyone else is under 21. If the worst happens, then you could be held responsible (whether it is true or not) for supplying the alcohol or contributing to the delinquency of a minor.

In this particular case, while I think it is wrong, I don’t know for sure if it is a sin.
 
exactly. Legal justice and morality should not be mixed.
Do you really understand what this would mean? Why have laws then? If this were so then murder would be legal. If you look up the word justice (which you used) on New Advent, it says “it is a moral quality or habit which perfects the will and inclines it to render to each and to all what belongs to them.”
 
wasn’t there a story about a saint who escaped from a jail…I’m sure that was against the law in the day. Did he sin?
 
The entire “21 to drink” law was made with states under duress from the federal government. Federal monies for highway improvement and other state improvements were withheld until that state raised the drinking age from 18 to 21.

There are soldiers out there who are 18 and have been to war and some have been killed or have killed. It’s an oxymoron to allow 18 year old to fight in a war but not have a beer when they get home.

I know that wasn’t the OP’s question, sorry for the rant. To answer the OP, hang out with your friends, don’t drink yourself and don’t provide their alchohol, don’t let them drink and drive. And have fun!

FYI, I’m well past drinking age. This is just one of those issues that always get’s my goat.
 
hey all, is it sinful for a 21 year old to drink beers (not to intoxication) with his 20 year old friends? I’m not providing them and the reality of the situation is they will drink whether I’m with them or not, so is it wrong to be there?
Regardless, you are breaking the law. If you are supplying them with any alcoholic beverage, you are the one who will be held responsible, whether or not you are a year older than they are. Can’t you wait a year until they all turn 21, at least?
 
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