What you feel doesn’t necessarily define what you are. Additionally, if your salvation is based on whether you feel saved, then you really don’t need a savior beyond yourself. “Lord, I’m not worthy to receive you, but only say the word and I shall be healed.” We all profess our unworthiness based upon our individual efforts and merits, but we also express our faith in Christ’s ability to save us anyway. So to believe that you have the power to deny your own salvation on the technicality that you didn’t expound upon the porn you’re addicted to is to say that you are in control of the grace imparted in the sacrament. You in essence have made yourself the defendant, prosecutor, jury, and judge…when in reality you’re just a sinner in need of the saving grace imparted in the confessional.I have an addiction to pornography. I went to confession recently and confessed this but there was a particulary form of pornagraphy that I looked at. I wanted to say it but i thought I better ask the priest if he wanted to hear details. He said no, trust me. Now this scruplosity is eating me. I feel like I am not in God’s grace and im unforgivable because I didnot mention this form of pornagraphy. Any advice?
I’ll just agree with what everyone else has been saying. The priest doesn’t need the specifics for your sins to be forgiven. If he did he would ask. The fact that you asked him if he needed more details and he said “no” makes it even more apparent that your sins were forgiven.I have an addiction to pornography. I went to confession recently and confessed this but there was a particulary form of pornagraphy that I looked at. I wanted to say it but i thought I better ask the priest if he wanted to hear details. He said no, trust me. Now this scruplosity is eating me. I feel like I am not in God’s grace and im unforgivable because I didnot mention this form of pornagraphy. Any advice?
This is good advice. As I always tend to believe, confession shouldn’t take more than 3-4 minutes per person if one goes regularly and prepares themselves properly. Sin is sin - Lying is lying, adultery is adultery, etc. If the priest wants/needs specifics he’ll ask.If he told you not to give him details, you didn’t need to give him details.
Even if it was kiddy porn (the worst I can think of that wouldn’t get me banned from this forum), it’s not morally any worse (porn is porn–it is worse to make since that involves actually doing such an act); it just violates more of society’s rules, and means the psychological problem is worse.
This really is just my :twocents: though. They have that expression in Australia, right?
Just a thought as a former scruples sufferer and a horrible worry-wart… have you thought about maybe your worries/scrupulosity is not that you didn’t confess the type of porn but rather that maybe you don’t intend in your heart of hearts to avoid the near occasion of sin (internet, mags, whatever source)? I don’t say this as if I know at all what is in your mind or as an assumption. It just is a thought that crossed my mind and thought it might apply:shrug:I have an addiction to pornography. I went to confession recently and confessed this but there was a particulary form of pornagraphy that I looked at. I wanted to say it but i thought I better ask the priest if he wanted to hear details. He said no, trust me. Now this scruplosity is eating me. I feel like I am not in God’s grace and im unforgivable because I didnot mention this form of pornagraphy. Any advice?