Effeminate Priests

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Benedict, masculine! That’s laughable! With his Prada glasses and gold trimmed slippers. Oh, thanks for that.

As for me running out of steam…keep posting away. I’m not done yet.
Well in thinking about why I instinctively called Ben.XVI masculine I realized that the sign of the masculine priest is one who accepts the Truth, passes on the Truth without wavering, and does not water it down in order to be sensitive.
Look at Dominus Iesus!

Also many people only saw his masculine side which was hyped up by the media as the German Shepherd, God’s Rotweiller etc. Then they realized that he is balanced. He speaks the truth like a man and he has a pastoral sensibility and easygoing personality.

Remember also were talking about an old man nearly 80.

But even better John Paul II was a model of balanced, healthy masculinity.
 
Hi setter.

First the American culture is all the same??? I was born and raised and educated in New England and transported down South. I can tell you the American culture is anything but the same and we are called a melting pot for a reason.

Second the features of manhood in that article are exactly right, however they in no way are effected by a man’s mannerisms. An effimante man who stands up for the truth with a limp wrist is showing as much strength as a man with a fist. Why are you so obsessed with this idea of a useless expression of strength and force. God rarely ever used the strong proud and the healthy to make a point. Moses had a speech impediment, David was a young boy and Jesus was anything but a proud.
 
CONGREGATION FOR CATHOLIC EDUCATION

CONCERNING THE CRITERIA OF VOCATIONAL DISCERNMENT REGARDING PERSONS WITH HOMOSEXUAL TENDENCIES IN VIEW OF THEIR ADMISSION TO SEMINARIES AND HOLY ORDERS - November 04, 2005

In discernment of the suitability for Ordination, the spiritual director has an important task. Even though he is bound by secrecy, he represents the Church in the internal forum. In meetings with the candidate, the spiritual director must clearly recall the Church’s demands regarding priestly chastity and the specific affective maturity of the priest, as well as help him discern if he has the necessary qualities. He has the obligation to evaluate all the qualities of the personality and assure that the candidate does not have sexual disorders that are incompatible with priesthood. If a candidate is actively homosexual or shows deep-seated homosexual tendencies, his spiritual director, as well as his confessor, has the duty to dissuade him, in conscience, from proceeding towards Ordination.

Where in here do you see anything mentioning a man being effeminate and that being a problem? It mentions homosexuality but nothing about being effeminate? Hmmm.
 
I am sorry that you are perplexed by common sense experience of the masses of faithful Catholics who fill the pews each Sunday.

This is what the Church has stated:
catholicnewsagency.com/document.php?n=98

A stronger and more credible priesthood to lead the flock and more fully reflect the balanced love of God the Father.
So a man with effeminate qualities cannot reflect the love of God the Father? How so?
 
Manly is manly is manly …a universal, innate quality.
They have no problem listening to him at all because they have seen their Almighty in the form of a lowly creature that grew up in poverty and was humiliated to the point of death to save a bunch of worms and still they followed him. I don’t think they have a problem listening to an effeminate man who serves the same master, and whom that master died for.
I am sorry that you feel that God given, balanced manhood and its associated expresions and mannerisms are “useless expressions of strength and force”.
Don’t feel sorry for me. I do believe in balance, Yet I think my subtlety was lost on you. I gave you two extremes in the hand motions and in the speech patterns, the limp wrist and the fist, the lisp and the grunt. A balance would be an open hand held high and clear speech spoken with compassion. You seem to gravitate to the opposite extreme of masculinity, which is also false manliness and was discussed in that article. Im just saying, that both extremes are equally capable of delivering the message of Truth, which is true strength in its self and makes up for the weakness of the messenger.

You may not be gratefull to that man on the alter because of his mannerisms but I am grateful to any man who heeds the call of God and serves Him to the best of his ability.

I wish you the best Setter and hope we may eventual come to mutual understanding of our viewpoints.

Sincerely
Polaris
 
Masculinity is universal and is innate? hmmm Like Jesus saying let the children come, or talking to women, kissing another man, or having another man lay his head on his chest being referred to as the beloved disciple. Well I guess that means you should be perfectly OK with a man lying on your priest’s chest. No wait I guess concepts of masculinity have changed and are not innate.
You are straying into the absurd extreme in an attempt to invalidate my common sense point of the masses of faithful Catholics who occupy the pews each Sunday. Of course, masculine expressions are culturally defined within acceptable norms. If I went to an after Mass donuts and coffee gathering and fellow parishioners observed an adult man laying his head of the chest of the reclined priest involved in intimate conversation …tell me and convince the rest of us that the parishoners would not be raising an eye brow in varying degrees of shock and dismay. Again, you atempt to introduce the absurb to prove your point and dismiss common sense perception and experience.
They have no problem listening to him at all because they have seen their Almighty in the form of a lowly creature that grew up in poverty and was humiliated to the point of death to save a bunch of worms and still they followed him. I don’t think they have a problem listening to an effeminate man who serves the same master, and whom that master died for.
You minimize and deny the experience of all the balanced and masculince defined men that I know who accept the overly effeminate priests we know, but who recognize the limitation to connect with the person serving in the ministerial capacity.

You seem to be in denial that Jesus was not an overly effeminate man. If he was, do you really think that the manly men of his day (Peter, James, Matthew, …) would respond to his invite to leave all behind them to follow him? I highly suspect that some/most would have had to work through some affrontedness before seriously considering following an overly effeminate savior.

Yes, the messenger adds to the credibility of the message. Men will more readily respond to a messenger whom they can relate to and whom they feel can relate to them. Overly effeminate priests are limited in this repect. This common sense experience.
Don’t feel sorry for me. I do believe in balance, Yet I think my subtlety was lost on you. I gave you two extremes in the hand motions and in the speech patterns, the limp wrist and the fist, the lisp and the grunt. A balance would be an open hand held high and clear speech spoken with compassion. You seem to gravitate to the opposite extreme of masculinity, which is also false manliness and was discussed in that article. Im just saying, that both extremes are equally capable of delivering the message of Truth, which is true strength in its self and makes up for the weakness of the messenger.
You attempt to falsely portray me as presenting an “opposite extreme of masculinity”. Hogwash. If you cannot defend your argument on the merit of it’s substance, then please do not digress to purposely distorting my point of view. This seems to be a common tactic on this thread.

Staying on topic, what I have been referring to is that a well-adjusted (psychological/socially) and balanced man who is secure in his masculinity who will appropriately not feel readily able to connect with an overly effeminate priest. This limits the the overly effeminate priests to connect with the flock entrusted to his care; and has the added negative effect of not being an attractive role model for males to consider the priesthood as a viable vocation.
You may not be gratefull to that man on the alter because of his mannerisms but I am grateful to any man who heeds the call of God and serves Him to the best of his ability.
I am grateful, bot I also recognize that the limitations posed by this priest to connect with the not overly effeminate men in the parish. Simple as that.
I wish you the best Setter and hope we may eventual come to mutual understanding of our viewpoints.
Sincerely
Polaris
I fully understand your view points, however, I cannot agree as they defy my and other’s common sense expererience.

BTW – Do you not find it interesting and tell tale that the only other poster who has most vociferous in support of your position is an established and unabashed homosexual apologist? … :hmmm:
 
So a man with effeminate qualities cannot reflect the love of God the Father? How so?
Your point is lost on me. Of course, well-balanced and secure in their identity masculine men possess and display an appropriate proportion of effeminate qualities. But they do not overly dress them up in persistent effeminate display. Getting back on topic, that is the entire point of the OP as applies to the ministerial priesthood.
 
Your point is lost on me. Of course, well-balanced and secure in their identity masculine men possess and display an appropriate proportion of effeminate qualities. But they do not overly dress them up in persistent effeminate display. Getting back on topic, that is the entire point of the OP as applies to the ministerial priesthood.
My point? This was your point that I was questioning Setter and you apparently cannot explain it when it is questioned. Your point is based on your own psycho-sexual need to receive masculinity from sources other than within. Period.
 
My point? This was your point that I was questioning Setter and you apparently cannot explain it when it is questioned. Your point is based on your own psycho-sexual need to receive masculinity from sources other than within. Period.
I find it quite highly peculiar and suspect that an avowed homosexual lifestyle apologist poster is lecturing a stauch, orthodox Catholic that “Your point is based on your own psycho-sexual need to receive masculinity from sources other than within.” The irony is that this poster is entirely correct as I ultimately derive the basis for my male sexual identity and masculinity from God my heavenly Father and Jesus my Savior. Regardless, something seems amiss here …:hmmm:
 
The US diocese’s are undergoing a $2+ BILLION lesson in correcting the mistaken notion that homosexual (male) sexual desires (on the average) are the same or less than heterosexuals. Since 1947 and Kinseys disproportionate studies of gay men, we have a lot of proof that just isn’t so.
There is more to the sex abuse scandal than the fact that these men were allowed to become priests. Homosexuality in general wasn’t really talked about or dealt with until the 1980’s or so when HIV came along. Before then, people just didn’t talk about ‘such things’. If you approach the problem by pretending it doesn’t exist, you are bound to have trouble. (I’m not arguing in favor of ordaining homosexual men to the priesthood by the way).
 
This has been interesting reading! I can’t tell from most the names, but it looks like most of the posters are men. From a woman’s point of view (or at least this woman’s), both “manly” & “effeminate” priests can be offputting if it is taken to the extreme.

Our last priest tried too hard to be manly, even to using profanity in a homily & yelling at people (me included). Our present priest has a lot of mannerisms that shout “gay” to many of us. However, he’s a somewhat better parish priest than our last one. Both turn off people, but different ones.

Both priests are, I’m convinced, living up their vows of celibacy. But neither seem to be displaying real Christianity, at least to me. My dh keeps telling me they’re just human & I should accept their frailties - but still, I expect more of priests.
 
As a woman, I have to admit I left one parish in part because the pastor had very effeminate mannerisms (there were other reasons). It was just a little too strange for me to deal with. Maybe it wouldn’t have bothered me if this priest had done his job well.

cecilia
 
What is a dh?
Dear Husband (depending on mood).
Maybe it wouldn’t have bothered me if this priest had done his job well.
Cecilia - I think you’ve hit the nail on the head. If these priests were more competent, maybe the mannerisms wouldn’t be a problem. Or as much of a problem.

Though extreme mannerisms do affect how we relate to people. Not long ago several of us watched “How Shoud We Then Live” by Frankie Schaffer. He had an odd way of tilting his head way to one side. It bothered several of us - we felt we should be tilting our heads to match his! 😉
 
Shucks. I’m 5’6’’ and weigh 120 lbs. There go my hopes of joining the priesthood. 😉

Actually, I’m pretty sure I’m being called to marriage, so maybe I’ll have better luck in that department. Maybe. haha
 
This thread is very interesting in that it shows how messed up our society is in that many do not even know what “masculine” is any more. As Catholics we should and must preserve clear cut definitions of the world around us and not fall in to the pit of moral relativism. We must stand out as an example to the world around us. Just because someone is effiminate does not make it right! Just because our so called modern society accepts something does not mean that we must. I will not. The world is not as grey as our society is trying to make it. There exists clarity within the teachings of the Church. It is truly beautiful to see in black and white. No ambiguity. Just clear cut right and wrong.
My masculinity will remain intact and be self evident to anyone from anywhere in the world. My love of the traditional views of the Church will not change. I pray every day for the strength to be a good example of what it means to be a Catholic male to my nephew and to all those that I encounter during my pilgrimage on earth. I pray that all of you find the will to be steadfast and strong and shine as an example to a world torn by apart by our loss of identity and birthright as men.
 
Grace & Peace!

Like others here, I’m finding this topic a bit disturbing. Are we to believe that there is such a general lack of charity in the Roman Catholic church that people who think their priests are not masculine enough feel it permissible to leave a parish? Is an effeminate mannerism a sin? If it’s distracting to you, isn’t that your problem? And is it not a problem of perception, an inability to perceive the person, the priest, because you get hung up on external mannerisms? And is that problem of perception, because it is championed and indulged, not indicative of a dearth of charity, of a cold heart?

Does an effeminate priest confect an invalid sacrament? No! The suggestion is heresy!

Is it difficult to approach an effeminate priest for council? If it is, that’s no reflection on the priest’s councilling abilities, but on the individual’s need for deep soul-searching with regard to the depth of his/her charity, and the lengths to which s/he will go to confuse appearances with truth because appearances are much more conveniently lived by than the truth.

You might as well say that conventionally beautiful people are the best people. It’s certainly in the same league as saying that masculine priests make the best priests.

While realizing that the anger of men does not accomplish the righteousness of God, this topic is incredibly angering. It reveals in the Roman Catholic laity, a smallness of heart, a paltriness of charity, and a greatness of spiritual blindess. And that’s upsetting.

Under the Mercy,
Mark

Deo Gratias!
 
Mark,

Would you look at the link in post #39 and give me your thoughts? Thanks.
 
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