How could it be free will if God did not allow us to make certain choices? God desires that no one suffers hell. But we have free will. We can choose to freely love God. Or we can choose to reject Him.
If what you write is true, then it would seem that Purgatory must not be outside of time because souls enter it in an impure state and leave it in a purified state. That’s a change.
That’s an excellent way to explain it.
Also hell was made for the devil and his angels that’s why it’s such a horrible place, it wasn’t made for mankind. But when someone chooses to reject God they follow the devil, just like the fallen angels, there is no in between. To reject God means to follow the devil so those who follow the devil go where the devil goes. There is no in between, the only other place outside of God is the devil. Period. If you are not for God you are against Him. Period. There is no in between. God is not going to force someone to love Him. Even most of us humans don’t want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with us, we don’t want to force someone to love us so neither does God. What good is being with someone who doesn’t want to be with you but they are only there because they have to be there? 
God wants us to WANT to be with Him. 
But those in purgatory did choose God, they just needed some tweeking to them before they are ready to fully enter in. So their choice is still the same.
You don’t understand hell. The people in hell WANT to be there. They REJECTED God, and any place is better for them than heaven, where God is forced upon them.
I exist in a “perpetual now” already. I’ve never been in the past and I never quite reach the future.
So, Hell must be an enjoyable place then, relatively speaking. No regrets.
It’s an interesting choice: Love me and do as I say or burn.
Why does not loving God warrant pain? If someone you loved did not love you in return would you stab them?
It’s relative. People in hell do not WANT to be in the presence of God. Hell might not be enjoyable, but it’s better than the alternative (which would be far less enjoyable for them). They are in the place they prefer to be, no regrets.
God exists in past, present, and future and transcends all time. Every soul has been conceived of in the mind of God from eternity to eternity. There was never a point where a creature was not known by God. God will not change eternity by foregoing creating those who reject Him, because it would be allowing evil to triumph over good by manipulating the actions of God. The creature would be dictating the actions of the Creator. This is inconceivable. God’s conceived plan for every rational creature is the Beatific Vision. Hell is the deviation of God’s plan by his creation. It is a wasteland of eternal evil, swelling with incurable vice and barren of all graces. There is no happiness to be found in this, ever.
The answer is: FREEDOM.
No. Whoever is in hell will be tormented by their regret because they will fully understand their purpose and how they perverted that purpose by their abuse of their freedom. They will hate God for creating them, and they will hate themselves.
On the face of it, that certainly makes sense. The truth of the matter is, we don’t have the vocabulary to be able to define the word “eternity.” A quick glance on the internet found it defined as “endless time”, “time without beginning or end” and “timeless state!”
Ive wondered this myself but as it turns out, God is Goodness itself. When someone rejects Goodness, they are left with everything else except good, and that is Hell.
What is goodness in your mind? The god in the bible does some pretty bad things. I certainly wouldn’t call that god good.
Will there be real joy for you in heaven, knowing you’re loved ones will experience this?