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kainosktisis
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I agree. The time for such discussions is off the clock - not at work. You never know either if this woman will turn around & use what you say to get you fired.
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kill051
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I second this sage advice. It is easy to get all caught up in what we should do or how to answer, when prayer is by far our strongest weapon and our most effective remedy. You might try saying a daily rosary for the intention of this lady’s conversion. I prayed for the conversion of a virulently anti-Catholic Pentecostal friend, and he is now a devout Catholic. I never even said anything to him or tried to argue the merits of Catholicism as opposed to Pentecostalism. I just prayed in silence, daily and unceasingly. A novena would be even a better idea, if you are able to commit to the whole period of time. God be with you.
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kill051
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Rather harsh and unfriendly, isn’t it? Should we not take a softer line, through love and prayer, and do our best to bring the lady back to the faith of her fathers? The barrier between love and hate is often negligible. The lady’s behavior could well be a cry for help. Perhaps she is longing to come home, but doesn’t feel she has the strength. Hard words and cold attitudes will do no one any good.
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alphawoman
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It’s a work environment.
He could start with an, “I’d prefer not to discuss religious views going forward, thanks.”
Then, if she persists, he can refer to the initial, gentler response and follow up with my earlier messaging.
He could start with an, “I’d prefer not to discuss religious views going forward, thanks.”
Then, if she persists, he can refer to the initial, gentler response and follow up with my earlier messaging.
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kill051
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You are quite right. I went back and re-read the original post, and realised I had mistakenly assumed the lady was a friend of the OP, rather than simply a coworker. Do forgive my presumption.
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joeybaggz
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Curious; how old is this “lady.” And, if I might ask, how old are you. The dynamic of these exchanges varies if she is say, 45 and you are 20. Then again, if you are both early 20’s it is a bit different. The appropriateness doesn’t change, but the dynamic behind the exchanges does based on disparity (or lack of) of age and experience.
I would also be curious if this is a cross gender exchange, or are you both of the same gender?
I would also be curious if this is a cross gender exchange, or are you both of the same gender?
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alphawoman
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No forgiveness required! 
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kill051
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You are most kind, my friend. Thank you.No forgiveness required!
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alphawoman
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I think your point was right. After a re-read, maybe I wrote it a little hastily.
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kill051
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No no, not at all. You were quite right. I am also rather rather sensitive to workplace issues, and prefer to keep things on a professional level at the office. I appreciate your response, which was like a refreshing dash of cold water logic on the warm fuzziness of my thinking. Many thanks!
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cmscms
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no the subject has already been brought up by someone else and I am stating that as a Catholic I can not agree with thoses things. She is the one who just had to tell me about the pictures her neighbour found of naked people
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Nichole
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The work place is not the place to debate politics and religion. I would tell her to knock it off and if she didn’t. I’d report her to the bosses.
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angel12
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Then just tell her that’s not something you care to discuss. And stick to it.
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BoomBoomMancini
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There’s just no need to engage at all. If someone brings up something you feel is inappropriate for work, you don’t have to go “No, I’m a Catholic, that’s a sin, look at the Catechism, etc.”
Just smile and go, “eh, you know, I’d rather not get into that at work.” And then just change the subject to something innocuous.
Just smile and go, “eh, you know, I’d rather not get into that at work.” And then just change the subject to something innocuous.
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Augustinian
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Snitching and threatening to snitch on your co-worker isn’t going to be good for morale in the workplace.
I know if I was a disinterested coworker overhearing it, it would be uncomfortable for me, and well as if I were the boss overhearing this. The chance of a bad outcome for you is certainly there, depending on your relative worth to the company as opposed to your fallen away colleague
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TheLittleLady
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My point is that work should keep you busy with well, work. Sure, there will be some small talk, sports and weather are good neutral subjects, also something along the lines of “I watched a fascinating documentary about elephants. Did you know their trunk is actually a sort of fusion between the nose and the upper lip? Their feet are marvels of engineering.”
If people are simply standing about all day long having personal conversations they are either not doing the work for which they are paid or the company is failing and they ought spend time working on their resume. No need to have talks about topics like politics or religion.
If people are simply standing about all day long having personal conversations they are either not doing the work for which they are paid or the company is failing and they ought spend time working on their resume. No need to have talks about topics like politics or religion.
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TheLittleLady
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Our love and shining light should tell them, we are to demonstrate with our actions 
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TheLittleLady
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"Hmmmm, that is interesting.
Did you see the format of the new TPS report? I think it is going to help with our workflow, don’t you?"
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QwertyGirl
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This is, by far, the best answer. Truthful, direct, and proper.
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alphawoman
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It’s not snitching, it’s enforcing professionalism in the workplace. For adults who haven’t developed sufficient professional judgment, official structures can step in to ensure better behaviour. But yes, it’s generally better to try to nip it in the bud with the person first before escalating.
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