Protestants are Christians. They do their own burials. What’s wrong with that? Better that than an atheist burial, right? My grandmother didn’t even go to church, so she ended up being buried by a Moravian minister just because my mom liked him.
St. Paul, under the inspiration of the Holy Ghost, says in 1 Cor. 5: 12, 13
For why should I be judging outsiders? Is it not your business to judge those within?
God will judge those outside…
I would ask if your grandmother was Catholic and rejected the Faith, and thus didn’t go to church. I can’t speak for non-Catholics and their rights, but for a Catholic who leaves the Church and does not repent, they are (rightly so) denied Christian burial. What a non-Catholic (or Catholic) family member decides for the funeral of such a person is between them and God. Having Christian burial doesn’t save a person damned, and lack of it doesn’t damn a person saved.
What good does it do to pray for somebody if you’re pretty sure they aren’t going to change their minds?
They way my Confirmation sponsor (a very holy lady) explained it to me was that God takes all the prayers and sacrifices offered for certain people and (if they person will only waste them) saves the graces for the opportune moment. Then, when this person cracks open the door
BAM. He just slams it in, floods their soul to overflowing. We can’t know when they’re going to convert, but to say that they can’t shows lack of faith, and all that is not of faith is sin (St. Paul to the Galatians, I believe). “What is impossible for man is possible with God.” Words of Christ.
I recommend reading the book regarding St. Mary Magdalene, the one based on the visions of Blessed Anna Katerina Emmerich. St. Martha was very concerned about the sould of her sister, the Magdalene, and besought Jesus for her. He told her that she would convert, but that she was to continue to pray for her conversion, as well as evangelize to her. He then said to those nearby (or maybe it was a little later, but it was said to a small crowd) that when Magdalene converted, her holiness would surpass that of Martha. My sister is a lot like St. Magdalene, and I have no doubt that she will convert, but that doesn’t change my worry for her soul. I have faith that she will convert, but I do not presume that she will. Same with my dad.
I’ve had a terrible life here lately. Sometimes I humorously think to myself that I’m going through all these bad things because my family is a bunch of “heathens” and my suffering is for them. Didn’t Padre Pio say that, that your suffering may actually be for somebody else?
He may have, but I think he may have been referring to the opportunity to offer our suffering for the sins of others. Many Saints did this. God doesn’t punish us for the sins of others, but we sometimes have to bear the same/similar consequences.
Oh well, if I pray for them, it isn’t very intense. I don’t have much hope for them cause they’re stubborn. Them=my mom, my dad, my brother, my cousins, my whole family. I think I’m the only practicing Catholic left in my family. Sad.
Same here just about: My brother, mom, and me (I think our Godparents too, actually).
Just keep praying. Actually, what might help inspire you to want to pray harder is to read the writings of the Saints regarding the tortures of Hell. This helps to continue praying when I feel like quitting.