False accusations at work

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Keep a journal -
When these “ moments of evil “ occur - jot them down ( at home ) .
Don’t go into any huge detail. Just fast hard facts.

If someone starts turning up the hell heat higher -
And if you get a chance - bring out your journal bomb.
They may not even want to hear all the events - you want to say.

But at least your not walking around with a target on your back.
Your not a sitting duck anymore.

And Peter and John - that was a battle against religion.
This is more first Kings 21 - and your Naboth.
 
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Yes, it ended when I left. Funny thing this person was hired after me and my bosses had always been my friends before that. I was their junior they were teaching…small firm, we were like a family. Then they hired this other person who managed to got more credibility than me in cases similar to yours (that I was nasty at other co-workers etc). Finally I left and gave up trying to figure out what was happening, why they thought this person is more honest than me at the same time as they were saying cheesy stuff that I am like a daughter to her… It was dumb and absurd now that I think about it.
Leaving was a great decision and the only regret I have is believing all their cheesy stuff and actually trying to explain myself as if their opinion mattered.
If this job is vital for you and you need it, say you are sorry, let them think whatever they want and end all self-justifications. They won’t be convinced you and you will only get to feel worse. It may impact your health and sanity and then you will be in a vicious circle. Keep what you have - that is your health and sanity - and put your job in the background.
Actually if I were you I would give this slanderer satisfaction and apologize and get along with my business. It really doesn’t matter … God knows the truth no matter what and He’s your only judge in the end.
 
Has anyone at work directly said something to you that was false?
 
Yes, but it’s more that false things were said about me to another, and our manager encouraging it.

I’m working on getting out of dodge. Again, what is helping me the most is learning about how to suffer gracefully while I move out, and cope with negative feelings. I know I’m lucky to maybe have somewhere else to go. I’m getting practical assistance now. My bigger battle is spiritual and with myself. How to tell the truth and when to let go and accept the false accusations. How to accept that telling the truth may make things worse for me and to let go with trying to “make” justice happen” and surrender to God’s will. When to let go and when to advocate for myself. It’s tricky!
 
DignumEtJustum said:
Accusations from who? Union grievances are generally filed against management and/or HR over actions that go against a collective agreement. One wouldn’t to my knowledge be able file a grievance against a co-worker (likely a fellow union member)
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Hmmm…depends on the shop. I’ve belonged to SEIU Local 535 since 1990, and grievances against coworkers, while relatively rare, have been known to take place. The OP should contact his shop steward for full instructions on how to proceed.

Edit: Just saw the OP’s post explaining that he is not a union member. Forget I spoke, I’m sure.
 
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