False accusations at work

  • Thread starter Thread starter Peaceable
  • Start date Start date
Status
Not open for further replies.
Not if I want to be in the running to move to another department within the same company, where, one hopes, things are less toxic. I stand a lot to lose otherwise .
 
Last edited:
If someone isn’t Christian…
If someone only believes in themselves - and that’s all …
And if that someone is ambitious and somewhat greedy…
And that person is smart enough …

Sure. The company just may prefer him -
Or at least - let him - get away with ‘small’ things.
And so it goes - season after season - bottom line : PROFIT
( not prophet 😇 )
 
The book - is not that good - it’s okay -
But a far cry from a spiritual classic -
 
Speaking from experience, I’d say don’t quit.
Look on this time as a test. You will be tempted to get dragged down to their level and say mean things to them back or gossip about them. Don’t. Look them in the face and call their bluff but maintain dignity at all times. This is an opportunity to grow strong on the inside.
If it continues, you may need to seek advice from a superior or colleague. But from a Christian point of view, it is an opportunity to share Christ’s suffering. Now I know that sounds hollow coming from someone who doesn’t have to face what you are facing now. But I wish I had the advice I’m giving you now, when I was having problems at work.

Try not to hate your tormentor(s). that will only weaken you anyway. Start praying for strength. Before, during and after work. After a while you may even feel you have someone helping you cope. See this one out, and you will look back one day with relief and wisdom.
 
Last edited:
I believe the OP was looking for comfort in a time of help. That’s what the book was for me. Your negativity that I consistently see in many of your comments would not be. I didn’t intend to give the recommendation of the greatest spiritual classic, as I didn’t think that’s what was called for in the situation.
 
Quite honestly -
It wasn’t the type of - caliber of book - from a Cardinal - that I’d expect.
And - the sexual false aligation - chapter - seemed a touch shady.

Out of curiousity - what was your accusation at work - ?
 
“Bully in sight” by Tim Field is very good. It helps you understand the nature and motivations of bullies. The book is very useful and is quite empowering. Bullies are motivated differently from most other people, knowing this can help us avoid ‘feeding’ the bully.
 
So very true. I will try to keep in mind the “prophet” / “profit” distinction!
 
I agree with you and seagull in the sense that it’s not “The Story of a Soul.” But it is still helpful to hear the experience of false accusation from a highly respected and charitable person of faith. Because I think the challenge really is to figure out how to not lose one’s faith and character in the process.
 
It’s above—accused of speaking disrespectfully and publicly to someone when the behavior in question had actually happened to me by them, and repeatedly in the past. I attempted to placate them in the moment (and in the past). but to no avail.
 
Bearing injustice, especially calumny, with great patience, is a spiritual work of mercy.

Our model is Christ during His passion - the greatest injustice of all time.
 
Indeed! To you and Old Catholic, I know I need to pray more. At least this is something in my control. Knowing there is a model in Jesus is helpful, and was my first thought in this whole ordeal—but still doesn’t always make it easy—it all still hurts! Not to mention that I’m not bearing up the way I think I should. I keep screwing up—like maintaining calm and cheerful at work and getting irritable at home. Still, it certainly makes the difficulty seem more bearable, “profitable penance” (in the words of Julian of Norwich). I think the key for me is having faith that I don’t need to rely on my own strength only (which I seem to keep doing),but to pray and hope in God’s intervention. I’ve been praying more and am hopeful things will turn the corner soon.
 
I did. It didn’t help much in my case, because senior leadership didn’t care (and may have encouraged this, because I was a close second for a senior position). My workplace is highly political at the moment with a lot of turnover.
 
It’s helpful to hear about this as a work of not just charity but mercy —thank you for this really important insight!
 
Peaceable said:
Indeed! To you and Old Catholic, I know I need to pray more. At least this is something in my control. Knowing there is a model in Jesus is helpful, and was my first thought in this whole ordeal—but still doesn’t always make it easy—it all still hurts! Not to mention that I’m not bearing up the way I think I should. I keep screwing up—like maintaining calm and cheerful at work and getting irritable at home. Still, it certainly makes the difficulty seem more bearable, “profitable penance” (in the words of Julian of Norwich). I think the key for me is having faith that I don’t need to rely on my own strength only (which I seem to keep doing),but to pray and hope in God’s intervention. I’ve been praying more and am hopeful things will turn the corner soon.
Click to expand...
Suffering! It is the greatest and least understood of all blessings! You are most Christ-like when you suffer at the hands of others. Read Acts 5 when Peter and John were whipped for their witness to Christ. They rejoiced that they were worthy to suffer for the Name.

Also, we are called to forgive from the heart and offer heartfelt prayer for those who wrong us.

It works each and every time it is used!
 
Status
Not open for further replies.
Back
Top