It is one thing to refuse a request and another to exercise legitimate authority. The pope exercises the authority of Peter, which Mary would never try to undermine. That’s why she poses requests not orders. We must never forget one important dogma, Mary is not outside of the Church or above Peter. She is part of the Church, even though she is his mother. Even in heaven, she continues to be part of the Church where Christ is the head and Peter the Vicar.
I realize that analogies are rocky, but it’s the best that I can find right now. Think of it as being the mother of the King. The King’s mother is the Queen Mother, but she is neither the Head of State nor the Head of Government. The King is the Head of State and the Prime Minister is the Head of Government.
There is a careful balance that we must observe, lest we fall into the danger of giving Mary attributes that contradict Catholic doctrine and that she does not want. There are always two extremes in discussions on Mary. There are those whe want to dismiss her as unimportant. That’s nonsense. Then there are those who will elevate her to equality with Christ and his Vicar. That’s not accurate either. Her role in the mystery of the Church is very unique. She is its mother and protectress. She must be honored as such. She is not its head and she should not be given the rights and honors that go with that office. Christ is its head, here and in heaven. Peter will always be it’s vicar, here and in heaven. The Church teaches us that even in heaven, Peter is The Prince of the Apostles.
Fraternally,
Br. JR, OSF