May God grant you peace, joy, and perseverence in the midst of your current trials. I empathize with you. I was my grandfather’s caregiver for 5 years and he just passed away few months ago. Even though it was rough at times, I do not regret one minute of my decision to forget about myself and give my time to caring for him. Now I am having a hard time finding a job because there is no “job history” for 5 yrs according to many. I had just graduated with my bachelors degree when I became my grandfather’s caregiver. Even though I am only 28 yrs old (sometimes I feel so old), there are mornings I awake with despair thinking I will be in long term unemployment for yrs to come. However, I immediately turn to the crucifix and start praying “Jesus I trust in you”, and then I get filled with peace, a grace that its beyond understanding. Hang in there. I will be praying for you, your husband, and your mother. I don’t know what state you’re in, but are you receiving social services. Here in California there are many services for caregivers.
God bless you and your family