For the men who Lust!

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littleone said:
If you were walking down the streat and Jesus came along and said to you, “go and do not sin again”(and you weren’t a prostitute) how would you feel would you say the words you have said. "It’s a free world and I’ll do what I want. dress how I want.
And then if Jesus turned to you and said “Do not lead your brother into sin” (bible reference) What would you do?
God bless you even then
littleone.
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The point Creiddylad was making is that women don’t need to lead anyone anywhere – most guys are rushing headlong for it anyway! People can lust for others they’ve never even seen face to face (or other body part 😛 ), no matter what the object of desire is or isn’t wearing.

Purity and chastity are in the mind, and nobody else can really help you out there. If you can’t face up to what your own mind is doing, work on it yourself, and don’t expect others to take the blame for your perceived inadequacies.
 
Some people get immodesty and the word attractiveness confused. That is why you find extreme Christian sites on the web promoting very loose sack like clothing. These sites mistakenly see modesty as something that a woman does solely to prevent a man from being tempted. Real modesty should stem from the self respect a woman has for her body and God.

I, also wonder if it isn’t maybe a tad sinful to try and completly hide the female form. We are women and I don’t think that God meant for us to hide our feminity in burquas.

But we do need to take a man’s view into consideration up to a certain point. Yes, some men can be tempted by the sight of any attractive women-even one in baggy clothing- but we can not try and dress overly provacatively. That doesn’t mean that we should go to extremes either.
 
hilde_the_dog said:
We can’t go back to 1900. Back then men looked at ladies ankles. Men are attracted to physical attributes, I notice good looking ladies but will not let my thoughts wonder… God made us to be attracted to good looks.
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Well, I don’t know. When I was a teenager in the 1980’s I thought that no one would want to wear those awful bell bottoms that people wore in the 1970’s or have as straight of hair as people did in the sixties. Hey, we can’t go back…or can we?

It was with a sense of amusement that I noticed a few years back that teenagers were wearing clothing fashioned after the seventies. In this instance people went back, didn’t they? Granted only by a few decades.

I certainly don’t want women to run around in corsets anymore, but fashion is pretty fickle and we might wake up one morning to find that the Gibson Girl look has returned.😛
 
Mirdath said:
Purity and chastity are in the mind, and nobody else can really help you out there. If you can’t face up to what your own mind is doing, work on it yourself, and don’t expect others to take the blame for your perceived inadequacies.
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This would include the females with self esteem so low that they have to dress provocatively in order to attract attention. Any female wearing shorts or skirts that are revealing or a top that leaves no room for the imagination would exhibit her own perceived inadequacies. Purity and chastity are in the mind and that should remain in the mind of those who dress immodestly.
 
Men can lust after anything, there’s men who the site of a well pedicured foot can have their lustful mind racing, or long hair etc… Women dressing in a burlap sack won’t stop a man from lusting after her. In my neighborhood I have a lot of Muslims women, not that I’m lusting but I find the hijab very intriguing and it doesn’t take away from me looking and finding them attractive, and soemtimes that’s all a man needs…

I think it’s common sense really though, don’t wear clothes that accentuate the breasts, show cleavage, or your backside and that will help greatly in keeping men from lusting. It won’t solve it, but it will help the majority of men out. Women can look very pretty without having to show their wares so to speak.

My wife wears loose Abercrombie jeans or jeans that don’t have to leave nothing to the imagination, and a T-Shirt on a Saturday afternoon and looks stunning to me, or a nice dress or sweater. She has a figure that’s impossible to hide so it doesn’t detract from her feminity. She looks back on some pictures of clothes she wore in H.S. and is mortified, nothing that bad showing cleavage and her midrift, she can’t believe she left the house looking like that…

Really common sense, men are visual creatures, and like it or not even the best man will look, he may turn once he realizes but he’ll look at an exposed woman, can’t help it, it drives us in a different way than women.
 
teachccd said:
This would include the females with self esteem so low that they have to dress provocatively in order to attract attention.
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Mhm, they’re trying to compensate as well; but at least they aren’t trying to shove their problems off onto others’ shoulders.
Any female wearing shorts or skirts that are revealing or a top that leaves no room for the imagination would exhibit her own perceived inadequacies.
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What if they’re wearing those clothes because they know they look good in them? Unless I’m very mistaken, you haven’t read the mind of every woman in a tank top and short skirt; don’t try to generalize about something that isn’t at all open to you, it doesn’t work.
 
Mirdath said:
The point Creiddylad was making is that women don’t need to lead anyone anywhere – most guys are rushing headlong for it anyway!

*My point is that generally speaking women DO wear provocitive clothing to be seenas “in”, sexy’ cooland attractive. So the question is to whom are they wanting to be attractive to? Isn’t it a womens saying “If ya got it bab why not flaunt it”? And here they are talking about looks, leggs, and sex appeal, and wanting the eye’s of who? Generally speaking MEN. A main reason why is because they have been given the desire to be attractive to males for the chance to gain a male as a partner, and recreation of children. *

Your other point!
Purity and chastity are in the mind, and nobody else can really help you out there. If you can’t face up to what your own mind is doing, work on it yourself, and don’t expect others to take the blame for your perceived inadequacies.
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If purity and chastity are in the mind then how much is in the mind of women who wear child size skirts and dresses knowing full well what the bible says about that, and why they are wearing them?

The other point is this, sure some male are very weak, so the women cannot be blamed here, since they cannot hold their mind from wandering. However there are those men (and women) who do just the same as the women who wear the dresses (or what ever) in the first , place so really, who is to blame? I say that it is both.

God bless
littleone
 
Mirdath said:
What if they’re wearing those clothes because they know they look good in them? Unless I’m very mistaken, you haven’t read the mind of every woman in a tank top and short skirt; don’t try to generalize about something that isn’t at all open to you, it doesn’t work.
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I’m sure that many women know that they look good in their bras and panties but a little discretion should be used in what’s acceptable in public. The way that women dress isn’t at all open to me?? And I generalize??? **Your **circular reasoning really doesn’t work! :confused: …
 
I’m surprised that some post seem to accidentally(I’m sure that it isn’t on purpose) insinuate that a woman has only two choice. Clothing that leaves nothing to the imagination or loose, sack like dresses that utterly hide a woman’s figure.Thankfully, we can take a middle of the road approach and wear clothing that is neither immodest or looks like a formless sack.
 
littleone said:
My point is that generally speaking women DO wear provocitive clothing to be seenas “in”, sexy’ cooland attractive. So the question is to whom are they wanting to be attractive to? Isn’t it a womens saying “If ya got it bab why not flaunt it”? And here they are talking about looks, leggs, and sex appeal, and wanting the eye’s of who? Generally speaking MEN. A main reason why is because they have been given the desire to be attractive to males for the chance to gain a male as a partner, and recreation of children.
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Another trite saying is ‘beauty is in the eye of the beholder’; well, so is lust. Don’t heap blame and scorn on people who are trying to look good – they’re doing good for you too, even if they don’t mean it, letting you rest your eyes from the chore of seeing all that trash on the streetside. If you take the extra step to lust, that’s your problem and your sin, not theirs, and the occasion of sin is not their manner of dress but your presence. If it bothers you that much, join a monastery or convent, or become a hermit.
If purity and chastity are in the mind then how much is in the mind of women who wear child size skirts and dresses knowing full well what the bible says about that, and why they are wearing them?
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For all you can know for sure, plenty! Additionally, not all of them care what the bible says about modesty; there may be 2 billion Christians in the world (and far fewer rigid enough to follow every last line), but that’s 4 billion more who aren’t.

Why are they wearing them? Could be because they like the outfit, because they know they look good in it, because it’s trendy… any number of reasons, and being on the prowl for a man is only one.
The other point is this, sure some male are very weak, so the women cannot be blamed here, since they cannot hold their mind from wandering. However there are those men (and women) who do just the same as the women who wear the dresses (or what ever) in the first , place so really, who is to blame? I say that it is both.
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If you’re saying lust isn’t a male-only issue, yeah, I agree wholeheartedly. The second sentence was kinda hard to parse though.
teachccd said:
I’m sure that many women know that they look good in their bras and panties but a little discretion should be used in what’s acceptable in public. The way that women dress isn’t at all open to me?? And I generalize??? **Your **circular reasoning really doesn’t work! :confused: …
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I figure as long as you like it and aren’t causing car accidents it’s okay by me. The ability to give others mental privacy is a wonderful thing.
 
The more I read through this thread the more it becomes obvious to me it was never a sincere question, but merely a setup and that’s a shame. I wish I could delete my previous well thought out response, it has no business in this thread…
 
Mirdath said:
I figure as long as you like it and aren’t causing car accidents it’s okay by me.
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And that’s the bottom line. You are setting the standards. And I simply don’t agree with your standards. I have a twelve year old daughter and I hardly find “traffic stopping” the bench mark for her attire. Luckily she chooses to dress very modestly and she’s adorable without having to cheapen herself. If you look good in a micro mini skirt chances are you look pretty good in a decent length skirt as well. And if you don’t, a moo-moo is in order anyhow…🙂
 
Ecce_homo said:
Men can lust after anything, there’s men who the site of a well pedicured foot can have their lustful mind racing, or long hair etc… Women dressing in a burlap sack won’t stop a man from lusting after her. In my neighborhood I have a lot of Muslims women, not that I’m lusting but I find the hijab very intriguing and it doesn’t take away from me looking and finding them attractive, and soemtimes that’s all a man needs…

I think it’s common sense really though, don’t wear clothes that accentuate the breasts, show cleavage, or your backside and that will help greatly in keeping men from lusting. It won’t solve it, but it will help the majority of men out. Women can look very pretty without having to show their wares so to speak.

My wife wears loose Abercrombie jeans or jeans that don’t have to leave nothing to the imagination, and a T-Shirt on a Saturday afternoon and looks stunning to me, or a nice dress or sweater. She has a figure that’s impossible to hide so it doesn’t detract from her feminity. She looks back on some pictures of clothes she wore in H.S. and is mortified, nothing that bad showing cleavage and her midrift, she can’t believe she left the house looking like that…

Really common sense, men are visual creatures, and like it or not even the best man will look, he may turn once he realizes but he’ll look at an exposed woman, can’t help it, it drives us in a different way than women.
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Your post makes plenty of sense and needs to be right where it is. Thank you for speaking on the behalf of the many of us. Not all common sense posts are useless in these threads.🙂
 
teachccd said:
And that’s the bottom line. You are setting the standards. And I simply don’t agree with your standards. I have a twelve year old daughter and I hardly find “traffic stopping” the bench mark for her attire. Luckily she chooses to dress very modestly and she’s adorable without having to cheapen herself. If you look good in a micro mini skirt chances are you look pretty good in a decent length skirt as well. And if you don’t, a moo-moo is in order anyhow…🙂
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I didn’t say I’d dress just above traffic-problem level (in fact, I rarely go around bare-armed, and the only skin I have showing right now is my head and hands)! 😉 Car accidents to me aren’t the benchmark for acceptable clothing, but rather for unacceptable dress – and that only because other people can get into serious problems because of their reaction to it, more serious than a quick stab of guilt.
 
Before folks go off the deep end and we find ourselves in a society full of burkas and MooMoos (or is it mu-mus). There is a happy medium here. As some others mentioned there are plenty of great outfits that look great and may be form fitting, but cover enough not to be provocative.

The last thing I want to see is a return to the middle ages or even just back to the roaring twenties when nearly full length swim suits were as sexy as it got.

There is a wide range of fashions from provocative to puritanical. Neither extreme is desirable. Evil is in the eye of the beholder, and when a knockout gal goes by, I’m really beholding. 😛 And besides when I’m really old and gray, girl watching may be about the only sport I could still participate in.

The libido may have been uncontrollable in the past, but down the road, a beautiful babe in a nice outfit may be only thing that can get the imagination running and heart racing. Who knows, it could be a real life saver As St. Francis said, make me a saint, but not just yet.
 
Ecce_homo said:
The more I read through this thread the more it becomes obvious to me it was never a sincere question, but merely a setup and that’s a shame. I wish I could delete my previous well thought out response, it has no business in this thread…
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Wasn’t the original question simply asking what guys found provactive or cause them to lust?

It would have provoked some interesting answers but I don’t think that we will be able to hear those answers because so many get offended by the question itself.😦

Why not let the guys answer the question itself and then another thread can be started on what makes women lust for men?

By the way, if a man answers honestly that toes turn him on that doesn’t mean that anyone has to avoid sandals. The man is just responding to the question.
 
deb1 said:
By the way, if a man answers honestly that toes turn him on that doesn’t mean that anyone has to avoid sandals. The man is just responding to the question.
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But please trim your nails…:rotfl:
 
deb1 said:
I consider it my Christian duty to protect men from temptation so I will grow my nails long and curvy to dissuade anyone from lusting for my feet.😛
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There’s probably a market for that too though…
 
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