Forgetting about the faith when dating

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I was talking with an older married man from church and he told me that in order to date nowadays you gotta forget about your faith and have premarital sex otherwise you’ll never find a wife. When I told him I think you’re wrong, he said you can just go to confession like everyone else. Is this a common thought process nowadays? Why do people think this is okay?
 
I’m an older married man; I think that idea is… bunk to be polite. I do find his comment that you can just go to confession like everyone else presumptuous, lacking true sorrow for a sin.

Why would someone think this is okay? Perhaps they have bought into the relativistic thinking. I have noticed this type of comment more prevalent in the middle age population than in older or younger Catholics. That, however, is just my perception.
 
People are always going to find a way to justify sin. Adam did it with “that woman you gave me made me do it!” and Eve then blamed the serpent.

He is trying to justify sin. Nothing new.
 
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I was talking with an older married man from church and he told me that in order to date nowadays you gotta forget about your faith and have premarital sex otherwise you’ll never find a wife. When I told him I think you’re wrong, he said you can just go to confession like everyone else. Is this a common thought process nowadays? Why do people think this is okay?
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That’s an abuse of the sacrament then.

You’re probably more likely to find a Catholic wife if you don’t behave like this.

There are plenty of Catholic women out there.
 
Not being married is not the same as being single. And to be frank, at 27 I’m not interested in catholic women above 30 nor below 21. And just because a woman identifies as “catholic” doesn’t mean she’s devoutly catholic and believes in church teaching. I’d wager that there are more nominal Catholics than devout Catholics since only 39% go every Sunday. https://www.google.com/amp/s/m.huffpost.com/us/entry/us_5acd082ae4b06a6aac8c7506/amp

There aren’t that many catholic women that are worth marrying today.

There aren’t that many catholic men either but I’m not gay
 
My littlest brother is about your age. He’s having a hard time as well. He’s a good-looking, sweet, mature guy who has a decent job. He told me that the women out there think they are Disney princesses and expect the world on a platter. I’m not quite sure what to make of that. Yikes.

Now, I DO know a couple of very sweet, pretty Catholic ladies in your age range…
 
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Wow, I’ve heard of the premarital sex and tossing God out of the window. However, abusing the Sacrament of Confession that’s a NEW Low… 😞
 
Most women wouldn’t be able to stand me. By my calculations, there’s only one woman in the world for me!
 
I lived my life like that for several years (except for the confession part because I was totally away from the faith). I deeply regret it now.
 
I did too but I find that dating while catholic is near impossible
 
I say this without the intention to be rude or make you feel offended, dear OP, but after some threads I wonder a bit what your environment is like (I experienced such in the extended friend circle of the past a way more than now, maybe it´s also regionally different). No, this is not normal, yes, this is how the world at some places and the mainstream on TV is. Don´t make yourself feel bad with such people.
You cant count on marrying the virgin you´d maybe like to marry one day, but trust me, there are enogh women who take this as the great gift it is.
 
…and I never said you want, I said it is maybe the only thing to accept when dating today, not specifically your consequence.
 
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